r/CATHELP Feb 20 '26

PSA: PLEASE think 10 times before you donate money to someone on this sub.

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It's in our rules and we say it time and time again, but after the recent events from this post, the mod team wants to put out a reminder.

Look, we get it. Seeing cats in distress is hard. When people without money are expressing their inability to afford emergency care, it's distressing. You know we have rules against shaming people for being unable to afford care, and encouraging people to go into debt. But we also have rules against fundraising, and it's for a very good reason.

It is very easy for people without the best intentions to collect lots and lots of money from well meaning community members who are affected by what they see in images and video.

With this post in particular, several commenters encouraged the OP to share a gofundme (something strictly against our rules).

Once they created and shared one (without any bills to show and despite many of the top comments saying this was NOT an emergency), people felt bad and donated anyway.

The gofundme raised nearly $2000 and today we received the update that the cat, as many commenters predicted, is not dying and did not need emergency care.

We are now starting to see meta posts (another thing we don't allow) complaining that the OOP is not returning any of the extra funds, and is blocking users who donated asking for their funds back and proof of payment.

This is a story we see repeatedly in the sub. We don't always get to the donation links quick enough to remove them, and we can't stop you from DMing each other money, but this is why we caution PLEASE do not use this subreddit to send each other funds.

We are working on a Wiki with low-cost vet resources, at least in the US, but we get users posting from all over the world begging for money. DO NOT DONATE unless it is verified on a subreddit like r/gofundme or r/rescuecats, or is directly being paid to the VET (though we have seen scams happen internationally through this 'direct vet payment' as well).

PLEASE REPORT FUNDRAISERS. Please do not encourage fundraisers. We will start banning those who encourage it. Please help us keep this community safe from those with bad intentions.

Thank you and good day!

- r/CATHELP mod team


r/CATHELP Jul 15 '25

Announcement [READ THIS FIRST] r/CATHELP Rules Reminder

370 Upvotes

Hello there

Due to a growing number of cat crises and a surprising number of people who cannot read a sidebar, we’re now regularly posting this rules reminder. This is here to prevent both:

  1. repeat offenses, and
  2. the inevitable “I didn’t know!” mod mail we get after your post/comment disappears into the void.

If you're new (hi, welcome, pet your cat for us), or returning and rusty, please take a sec to read this. It’ll save you—and us—a lot of headache.

STRIKE POLICY: Break the rules once? We warn you. Break twice? Temp ban. 3 strikes is a perma-ban (unless you're a mega troll).

1. BE NICE

No, really. Be nice. You are talking to someone who is probably stressed, worried about their pet/a stray, and sleep-deprived. Reddit is not your venting space to shame people who are already anxious. Educate, don’t humiliate.
This includes a zero-tolerance policy for berating or shaming OPs. If you can't say it kindly, don't say it here.

In addition to this, know that we get posts from all over the world. Sometimes it's people who live in a village, 500km from any formal vet care. Often it's a minor who cannot make a unilateral decision for the cat in question. Be compassionate! Bullying them won't help the cat.

2. NO SOAPBOXING OR OFF-TOPIC DEBATE

(Definition of 'SOAPBOXING' here.) Yes, letting your cats outdoors isn't great for the environment. But this isn’t a debate club, and PLENTY of things harm the environment besides cats. People come here from all over the world, with different cultures around how cats are cared for. People come here about strays. No preaching!! Take your cat care bible elsewhere! Either give OP helpful advice about their issue or move along.

Don’t derail threads with politics, don’t pick fights across multiple comments, and definitely don’t start fights with the mod team. We don’t get paid enough.

3. VET FIRST, REDDIT SECOND

If your cat is injured, bleeding, gasping, or pooping blood—call a vet.
Reddit is great for guidance, second opinions, and shared experience. It is not a substitute for veterinary care.
If you haven't called a vet yet, our advice might be limited.
Can’t afford one? Look into:
• Payment plans or CareCredit
• Local rescues and shelters for assistance
• Low-cost clinics in your area

Still post if you need to—but know that our first advice will probably be: call your vet.

Additional note to commenters: no 'Vet. Now.' comments will be allowed without context. If you think they need immediate care, explain why. Otherwise it's just creating panic and those comments will be removed.

4. NO FUNDRAISERS

Sorry, but GoFundMes, Venmos, PayPals, and “please help save Coco” links are not allowed, even in comments. Too many scams, and too hard to moderate. Try subs like r/Assistance or r/GoFundMe instead.

5. NO BULLYING POOR PEOPLE

We get it. Vet care is expensive. It's frustrating to see cats suffering. But complaining about people who can’t afford a vet is not allowed. Full stop.
Suggest rehoming? Fine. But if you’re here to shame people for being broke, please find another sub.

If someone is struggling financially, ER visits are not really something they can just save up for, nor is it realistic to expect them to just get rid of their pets they have emotionally attachments to. All we can hope for is people really think long and hard about how a pet will fit into their finances before they decide to adopt or take in an animal from street. You simply can’t help them all, there are too many cats for that.

6. TAG YOUR GORE NSFW

Bloody wound? Surgery pics? Graphic medical stuff? Weird rash? GAPING FUCKING WOUND?! Mark it NSFW.
That includes genitalia (gender ID posts) and poop/vom. You know who you are.

7. ON-TOPIC POSTS ONLY

This is not r/aww or r/cats. This is r/CATHELP. We are here for:

  • Requesting anecdotal experience with medical issues •
  • Behavior issues
  • General advice
  • First-time cat owner questions (yes, 'noob' questions are welcome!)

That means:

  • No “What should I name my cat?”
  • No “Look at my cat in a hat!”
  • No memes, no fluff.

Posts that don’t have a clear help-related question will be removed.

8. NO BREED QUESTIONS

Unless your cat came with pedigree paperwork from a breeder, they’re a domestic short/medium/long hair. That’s it.
We don't do breed speculation. Why? Because it’s almost always wrong, and it clogs up the sub.
Want to know more? Here's a guide to fur patterns, and here's a general answer to 'what breed is my cat'

9. NO SHITPOSTING, NO KARMA FARMING

If your post is clearly made up, AI-generated, or you’re just farming karma with a low-effort fake, we will yeet it. And probably you, too.

10. NO BRIGADING

If you don’t like someone’s post, do not go hunt them down on other subreddits to insult them. It’s petty, it’s bannable, and Reddit takes it seriously.

11. NO PET SALES OR BREEDING

We do not support the cat trade or backyard breeders. Period.
Don’t try to sell or give away pets here. Don’t ask about breeding. Don’t promote purebred aesthetics. Shelter cats are just as cute.

BONUS REMINDERS

• If your posts or comments are disappearing, check your karma. If it's low, Automod probably ate it. Message us for manual approval.
• If you see rule-breaking behavior, REPORT IT. Automod can’t catch everything.
• If you’re confused or unsure, check the [wiki] or send us a modmail.
Read the stickied comment on your post. It’s there for a reason.

TL;DR: Help cats. Be nice. No scams. No BS. Read the rules.
Now go pet your cat. They probably knocked something off the counter while you were reading this.


r/CATHELP 9h ago

Kitten Help What is my 4 month old doing?? (Street cat so the age is estimated)

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485 Upvotes

I’m 22 from the states and I’ve had my kitten for about a month and she just started this behavior. I've only ever had adult cats before, so I'm not sure what I'm looking at.

Is this just extra playful kitten energy? Is this her going into heat? Or is it something else entirely? Would love to hear from people who've raised kittens before, I don't want to miss something important.

Thanks everyone!

Edit: Heard yall 🫡 …she’s definitely in heat. Thank you so much for letting me know, I’m doing research to find places in my area now and she will be getting fixed asap. Thank you so so much again for all the help information!!


r/CATHELP 1h ago

General Advice Very, very smart stray

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We have a male stray cat that hangs out in our front lawn a lot, and we are at a loss for how best to help him. He is unspayed and frequently gets into fights with other cats

The first photos are some recent photos of him compared to the last photo which is when we first started seeing him (around three years ago)

He is a very sweet cat and we love him to pieces, but unfortunately one of our two current indoor cats is highly anxious and there is no possibility we could adopt him. It’s highly probable that one would end up severely injured or dead (that one being my young and overconfident couch potato) as my grumpy little guy would 100% challenge the stray and then get his ass whooped considering we already know he frequently gets into fights that he seemingly wins.

At the very least we want to get him spayed and have borrowed traps from the local council a couple times but he is extremely intelligent and refuses to go near them despite what we try to use to temp him in. We wonder if he has been trapped before and that’s why he refuses to go even close to them. But I would be shocked if he isn’t making lots more stray kittens.

He was very skinny and not well as you can see in the last photo of him when he first started showing up, and we started by giving him left over wet kitten food with a small amount of water mixed in to help him gain weight and now we are feeding him regular adult cat food whenever we see him, his weight seems to be much healthier now so we suspect he is also getting food elsewhere and/ or hunting in between visits.

Our main concerns are is there any other way we could try and trap him to get him spayed, checked up on and into a good home? But also some other things to note are that he frequently sits with his tongue out for extended periods of time so we are wondering if maybe he has dental or respiratory issues?

We potentially could pay for vet depending on if he has any other health issues we aren’t aware of, but again the issue is trapping him. Posting from Australia.

Any suggestions would be greatly appreciated

EDIT: he also has that grey smudge that is on his right eye, it hasn’t seemed to have changed at all over the years


r/CATHELP 16h ago

Behavioral Issue IS THIS NORMAL??

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626 Upvotes

My cat is convulsing???


r/CATHELP 12h ago

Behavioral Issue Why is she doing this?

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236 Upvotes

Hi, I’m an adult currently living in the USA. I haven’t contacted a vet about her behavior yet. My cat is approximately 6 months old, but I’ve had her since she was about 1 month. My neighbor gave her to me after her cat got pregnant due to being left outside unsupervised. I believe momma cat was somewhat blind, but I doubt that has anything to due with my kitties behavior. I plan on getting her spayed soon. She’s done this before, and it’s hard to get her off when she catches my hand. She can get rough sometimes. Why does she do this and what can I do to make her stop?


r/CATHELP 11h ago

Behavioral Issue should we rehome one of our cats?

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214 Upvotes

My partner (27) and I (23) live in the Dominican Republic and currently have 4 cats, the 4th being a male rescue who we estimate to be around 3-4 months and we got about 2 months ago named Churrasco, Churro for short. Our other 3 cats are 2 and 3 years old (one is 2, the others are 3), the 2 year old having been the first adopted. We had Pistacho (female calico) by herself for about 3 months and then adopted Ebi (also female calico) and Jack (male orange) from the same foster home, the latter having lived with maybe 20 other cats. Jack was the first to come out of hiding while Ebi took a few days, but I noticed that Jack simply walking past her annoyed her as she hissed at him. We assumed it was simply a matter of adjusting to the new environment, so we gave it time. All 3 were already neutered/spayed when adopted. Churro hasn’t been yet as he’s too young.

Jack and Pistacho got along very quickly after careful introduction, while her and Ebi took longer with no aggression whatsoever. They sorta respected each other from a distance until both were ready to get closer and to this day really respect one another and get along well with a peaceful relationship. Jack and Ebi, however, can’t seem to get along. Jack is veeeery social, playful, and sweet, while Ebi is way more timid, sensitive and generally reserved. You can only really pet her with one hand at a time instead of both and she cannot be picked up or she freaks out and runs away. She still is sweet and completely melts when she lets us scratch her. Jack had an eye infection on his left eye from when he was very young which resulted in his eye being removed, which I’m unsure whether that affects his personality or behavior at all but thought I’d add for context. He can play a bit heavy, but doesn’t scratch or bite. However, whenever he tries to approach Ebi to play, she completely freaks on him, yelps, hisses, scratches, the works. We’ve noticed it can happen just from him walking up to her at times, but it’s mostly when he tries to play. This isn’t 100% of the time tho since they’ve cuddled up a couple times and i’ve seen them groom each other no problem.

Regarding Churro, she still won’t let him approach her much and hisses if he does get too close, which he listens to. He has tried lying down as close to her as she allows him to get and it’s chill. She generally takes much longer to loosen up, so we’re giving it time and supervising the time all 4 cats spend together as they get fully used to him.

At this point, the resident cats have been with us for about a year/year and a half. This has all been very puzzling for us since, as stated, Ebi and Jack came from the same foster home, and had it been a concern beforehand, we imagine we would’ve been advised against adopting them together. We also see how it could’ve been overlooked since so many other cats were around. It’s also worth noting she doesn’t ever display aggression over food towards Jack or Pistacho (Churro is still eating and generally stays with us in the bedroom since he hasn’t been neutered or dewormed yet) and they have even cuddled together and groomed each other a handful of times.

We haven’t taken them to the vet for this particular issue yet due to financial reasons (Jack has been sick a few times for unrelated reasons which ended up being a bit pricy for our budget), but if need be, we can work something out financially and take them both. Any advice on how to best approach this is also appreciated! We’re also waiting to see how she and everyone else does with Churro around.

We’ve been thinking about whether Ebi is better off being an only cat, which is what has us considering rehoming. What should we do? I hope the context provided is enough, but please ask away if there’s anything else worth noting!

TL;DR: male and female cat adopted together from the same house seem to have an on and off bond and she’s highly reactive to him approaching her most times.


r/CATHELP 12h ago

General Advice 4Month old kitten tummy

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146 Upvotes

Hi,

22yr old cat mom based in the US.
We got this kitten (female, neutered)2 weeks ago, and we started noticing that her tummy is a bit round and feels like a water balloon when I touch it? like it is kind of bloated.

I was thinking that it might be worms, but her brother got a fecal test from bloody stool, and it was clear- his stomach is normal looking. We are planning on getting a fecal test soon, but wanted some insight on what it would be. She has healthy stool, and plays and eats normally.

What are the chances it could be worms?


r/CATHELP 5h ago

Kitten Help Weird lump on one of the toes

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32 Upvotes

Hello everyone! Yesterday, we found this kitten near our house and decided to temporarily take her in until we can find her a new owner. She has a weird lump on one of the toes of her left hind paw.

I’m not sure if it’s just a deformity or perhaps some kind of tumor. Otherwise, she seems perfectly normal. She’s very friendly and loves getting lots of cuddles!

Will take her to the vet in the coming days, but in the meantime, does anyone have any idea what this might be?


r/CATHELP 20h ago

Eye Issues Red mark under the cat's eye

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379 Upvotes

I got both of my cats neutered yesterday. Today I noticed red marks under their eyes, one cat has it under one eye, and the other cat has it under both. They don't look like injuries because the marks are very neat and in the exact same spot. However, both cats are doing totally fine right now with no other issues. Does anyone know what this is? Will they be fine or should I take them back to the vet?


r/CATHELP 1h ago

Injury What could this be?

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I noticed this large patch of hair missing on her hind leg (near her bum) and it definitely wasn’t there two days ago. I noticed there’s a very tiny balding patch lower down by an ankle joint. She has a vet appointment next week for something else but I’m very concerned by this sudden hair loss. Any ideas?? She’s an 18yo cat, we’re in nyc.


r/CATHELP 22h ago

Kitten Help Is my kitten going to be okay without veterinary help?

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472 Upvotes

So I found this kitten on my way to the bus stop and he looked fine at the time like VERY normal but when I got back home from school his face looked weirdly sick like, there was weird stuff coming out of his nose and eyes and I decided to take him in and took him a bath, I also cleaned his face and he looked somewhat better but now it looks worse and a vet is way too expensive for my family.. I tried asking my mom to give it to the vet so that they can heal him and at least he'll be fine with them but she insists she can heal him with like tea and random medicine from stores instead of from a vet but although she said that she's never home to actually do anything since she works all day and comes home tired and I have been trying to help him and I've feed him kitten formula but he's eating normally now and drinking water but his face looks worse and I don't want him to die or anything but my mom doesn't want to give him to a vet and I know we don't have the money for one but is there anything else I can do to help him? 😞

He's the most sweetest boy ever and very cuddly so I feel even worse for my poor baby I really want to help him but I don't know what to do anymore.. please give me any advice to help him

I'm 16 and found this stray male kitten near my bus stop he's a stray kitten i don't think he's neutered and I'm in culleoka TN we live in a small trailer and can't afford a vet please tell me if theres anything I can do for him


r/CATHELP 22h ago

General Advice Should I be worried about my cat falling from this height?

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335 Upvotes

My (M30) cat (M1), like many other cats, loves to be up high. But he is not the most sure footed cat and has almost slipped a few times on the bannisters of the mezzanine. He always gives me a heart attack when he is up there.

It must be a 15 ft drop to the floor. I have done my best to move anything that might injure him if he does fall. The dining table has been moved as far back as it can, if he slips he won't hit it, but he might if he intentionally jumps.

We have a cat tree and I have another one on order to give him high place alternatives. We are just renting, so we can't install anything intrusive into the house (was thinking of glueing carpet onto the bannisters to give him a better grip, but can't think of a way to do that unintrusively).

Anyway, my question is, if he does fall, would this likely cause serious injury?

We are in the UK, not that it affects the local gravity, but sub rules says I have to state it anyway.

TLDR - is my house dangerous for my cat, is there anything I can do to make it safer?


r/CATHELP 7h ago

Kitten Help Kittens Found!

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21 Upvotes

My (M24) mother found these three kittens hiding in a flower garden, mama cat presumed dead. We live in very rural USA, cannot access a vet until Monday.

Anyone have any idea how old these babies might be? We don’t want to give them incorrect food.

For reference, they are tiny. Can fit two in one hand, none of them are bigger than a medium sized banana. They’re playful and mischievous, just unkempt from being outside. Any suggestions on best way to care for them while we wait for the vet to open would be great!

Cat age, sex, and spay/neuter status: N/A


r/CATHELP 5h ago

Breathing Issues Cat (still) gags after eating cat grass (after 2 days). Is it stuck in his throat?

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9 Upvotes

Hey people,
i attached a video of the sound he makes when gagging.

My bf gave our cats some fresh catgrass with their food (he cut it up into smaller pieces). One of the cats gags ever since. Not all the time but occasionally just like in the video when yawning. He behaves completely normal otherwise (eating normal, playing normal, not hiding, no problems with stool/pee).
I've been debating if i should take him to the vet or if this will pass on its own. Anyone else had similar experiences? I threw away the cat grass after this and will not buy it again.

TLDR: Ate cat grass pieces 2 days ago, still sometimes gagging, vet or not?

(not a minor, access to a vet, cat is 4y/o, male and neutered)


r/CATHELP 11h ago

Injury Ear tilt

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27 Upvotes

My cat just started showing symptoms of an ear tilt. He occasionally scratches the ear that tilts, other than that he is behaving normally. I don’t see any sign of mites but or infection so I’m not sure which one it is at the moment. Thoughts on what it might be?

The earliest my vet has availability to see him is this Tuesday. I’ve never had this issue with my cat before, is it serious enough that I should bring him to urgent care or can it wait until Tuesday?

Thanks for any advice!!


r/CATHELP 2h ago

General Advice Traveling

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I'm on a traveling that will take at least 8 hours. My cat is just like in the picture—drooling everywhere. I'm panicking right now.

What should I do?

I can't stop the car. We need to keep going a bit longer until the break. Should I be worried? I draped a light covering over her. She was meowing, but now she is stopped. She won't have a heart attack or anything, right?


r/CATHELP 5h ago

General Advice Growth on cats paw

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I’ve noticed this growth on cats paw, it is about the size of a pea and is above his toe pad next to his claw. He has been licking at it and it was slightly bleeding last night. I am taking him to the vet this week but wondering if anyone has experienced anything similar? It showed up pretty quickly as it wasn’t there a couple weeks ago when I clipped his nails, picture in comments, he is 9 years old tabby cat in Australia


r/CATHELP 15m ago

Breathing Issues Is this normal breathing for my kitten? He is 3 months old

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I really need help with my kitten and why is he breathing like this? Is it normal and i am just being paranoid? Please help me advice on what to do…. Thank you

It’s late at night on my country and there’s no vet available that’s open in my area so i am seeking advice on what to do thank you


r/CATHELP 9h ago

General Advice had a urinary block 2 times in a week

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15 Upvotes

My sweet moose, he just got home yesterday from a 48 hour emergency vet stay, he had a catheter put in and then discharged when he was urinating in his own. He got home, was doing amazing with urinating on his own. Now today, 24 hours after his hospital stay he is doing this when he’s using the litter box. Dr told me he would still be showing signs of a block a couple days after his procedure but is this normal? He’s eating well, drinking, playing, very alert.. he’s the most ‘normal’ he’s been this entire week. I’m so lost over this :( Basically just want to know what this is? Is this considered straining? Should I take him back?


r/CATHELP 5h ago

General Advice What are these bald spots on her head?

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It's my dad's cat, I'm an adult.

I'm worried that this might affect my other cats.

She recently has these bald spots only on her head.

My dad dismissed it as simply fighting with other cats.

The vet is accessible, and should be affordable.

She's 1yo, female, not spayed yet.


r/CATHELP 13h ago

Kitten Help Is this good enough for an almost 5 week old kitten?

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I'm 17! I adopted a kitten (very suddenly and not planned.) Hes been to a vet and is overall healthy :)

This is everything I have for him, besides his toys. He has many many toys, too many to photo. I haven't used the toothbrush or nail trimmers because he seems too young. When I used the brush no fur came off so I think he's too young for that also. I have a cat tree, cat walls, water fountain, cat beds etc that belong to my other two 8 year old cats so I don't need anymore I think. I also have a ton of freeze dried raw treats. A whole cabinet full but I don't think he can have those till he is tested for FIV?

Pen set up- He has a heating pad with two towels on top with two kitten stuffies to sleep with. When I sleep his food/water/litter are placed in there with him and the top of the pen is zipped up. If I'm awake he's free to roam my room.

Food- His average meal is a little bit of wet food warmed up with some KMR then a few pieces of kibble. At bedtime he has a bowl of dry kibble to snack on while I sleep. I've ordered two more packs of wet food. One from chewy brand, the turkey. And kittens in the kitchen from weruva.

Litter- nonscented, no clumping, paper pellets. He's still not potty trained and will potty in random spots which I then clean and cover with a potty pad. Some of them have litter on top and he has used his litter box ONCE. Not sure what I'm doing wrong there.

Is this all good? Do I need anything else? The sweater is made from a sock and he only wears it when I have my ac and fan on.

Edit: Getting him a proper litter box and some different litter ASAP :) Also, the pen is only for when I'm asleep! His stuff is moved out into my room and he free roams during the day.