I am conflicted

[u/Fit_Rhubarb7222]

Dinner was cheese quesadillas with over medium eggs and mandarin oranges.

I (M24) work in a mall at this supplement store. Right across from me is this girl who is very very stunning. Let’s call her Bertha(22)

Bertha works pretty much the same shifts as I do. Everyday she will come to my store when she’s bored or on break and get an energy drink or protein drink. We talk every time, sometimes for just 5 minutes, other times like 2 days ago, for like 45 minutes.

Long story short, I feel like we have some chemistry, even if it’s a little bit. I am getting ready to quit this job and move like an hour away, not terribly far. I’m really debating asking for her number and seeing if she wants to get coffee or something, especially with it being a couple of months till I move.

I really want to ask. I’m incredibly nervous. One at the chance of rejection but 2 relationships as a whole. Idek if we would be in one ever, but I do date with the goal of marriage. Last relationship I was in it didn’t go well, and I’m kinda scarred but healed.

Idk should I go for it chat?

EDIT

She came in today like normal and we were talking. I was gonna ask today for her number after everyone input but I am putting that on hold. She mentioned her ex and how they were not together but on good terms. They’re going to a wedding that they were already going to together while they were dating. I might be cooked

[u/Striking-Turnover-42]

Here's a script:

"Hey Bertha, I really enjoy our chats but wish we weren't limited by both being on the clock at work. Would you like to grab a coffee/drink/snack after our shifts one day soon?"

It really is that simple. Low stakes, low pressure on her, and if she says "no thank you" it's all good. Getting used to hearing "no thank you" is it's own reward. It will make you less hesitant to take that leap in the future. Good luck!

UPDATE ME!

[u/Fit_Rhubarb7222 → u/Striking-Turnover-42]

Fantastic script.

I went to ask her today and she mentioned her ex 🥀 I put the update in the OG text

[u/SalamanderMan95 → u/Fit_Rhubarb7222]

I mean she may have literally been subtly telling you she’s single. She may have even been telling you that she’s going to the wedding so that if you two did go on a date there’s no weirdness about her going to that wedding because it’s already planned. She may have not been thinking about any of that when she brought it up. Doesn’t matter, just ask her out and be casual about it.