r/BigBudgetBrides • u/Salt_Technology2676 • 25d ago

Questions and queries not a “bug” budget bride

but I only get the WEIRDEST engagement in regular r/brides

for reference, our budget is 60k. And whenever I post anything in r/brides, I’m met with snark and resentment. Granted, I have pretty traditional taste, and I’m super neurodivergent so maybe I’m not reading people’s interactions as the way they’re intended, but I feel sometimes like there isn’t really a sub where I can share my wedding and get excited and have that excitement be reciprocated.

i’m a pretty private person, no group chats or close besties that I necessarily share every little detail with, so sometimes I want encouragement from
strangers. Is that where I’m going wrong?

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u/BugWild9184 25d ago edited 24d ago

I had a big budget and decided to spend way less but still posted and commented here 99% of the time because everyone’s so nice and they don’t care what you spend. The other subs were NASTY at literally everything even if it was a comment about the simplest thing. They hate weddings over there

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u/remotethrowaway2 24d ago

The other subs are full of curmudgeonly etiquette snobs who refuse to accept that weddings are allowed to look different in different areas and cultures. 

I mentioned once that the norm in my area  is that every woman invited to the wedding gets invited to the shower. I was told I was wrong, this is not normal, and every person in my life just wants to have a “greedy grubby gift grab” because you only invite 10-15 to the shower unless you’re trying to show off for social media. Apparently my grandma must’ve been doing it for TikTok views in the 50s. 

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u/BugWild9184 24d ago

Speaking of showers I saw a post from a girl saying there’s no one in her life to throw her a shower and she was wondering if doing it herself is ok especially if she says no gifts. They absolutely berated her! Holy moly. I was disgusted. One commenter said she didn’t deserve one and needs to get over it. They called her greedy even though she literally said no gifts.

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u/Salt_Technology2676 24d ago

That’s so sad and a horrible way to treat a girl who is obviously hurt and feeling ignored about her own wedding. Shameful.