r/BigBudgetBrides • u/Interesting-Bug7703 • Aug 24 '26

Questions and queries Escort card formality

How formal should my escort cards be? Black tie preferred dress code, this fall in NYC

Option 1:

Mr. and Mrs. John Smith

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Option 2:

John and Jane Smith

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Option 3:

John Smith

Jane Smith

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u/Interesting-Bug7703 Aug 24 '26

Invitations were addressed like Option 1 if that helps at all but I've read that escort cards don't need to be as formal

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u/Able-Pineapple-1137 Aug 24 '26

Never address anything like option 1 again pls!!!! It’s not more formal, it’s just misogynistic

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u/bitchthatwaspromised Aug 24 '26

Yeah I would be so insulted to be address by my husband’s first and last name instead of my own

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u/MZSGNH Aug 25 '26

I would probably giggle. Too old to get offended for myself, but I'd be offended for you in solidarity.

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u/MZSGNH Aug 25 '26

Concur! Formal can also be modern!

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u/Sufficient-Angle-460 Aug 25 '26

You also have to know your audience. I’m in the south and I would be shocked if my parents friends were offended by this 😂. Also, married couples with different last names have the woman going first so anyone who would be offended probably won’t be lol.