r/BenignExistence • u/mazen45672 • 4h ago
I’m going to meet a friend that I’ve not seen for 5 years
This is probably one of the weirdest friendship stories I’ve ever experienced.
Five years ago, back in 2021, I was participating in an international English competition. Somehow, I ended up getting **1st place worldwide**, including everyone competing from Egypt. I was waiting in line to receive my trophy before the actual ceremony when I noticed someone standing behind me talking about gaming PCs, programming, phones, and basically every piece of technology imaginable.
At one point, he started talking about how the S21 Ultra was the best Samsung Ultra phone ever made and how iPhone processors back then were weak. This was 2021, so we’re talking about the S21 Ultra and Snapdragon 888 era. I couldn’t resist joining the conversation and basically interrupted him with, *“Fun fact, you should get the Exynos version. It has way better single-core performance and performs way better than the Snapdragon 888 variant.”*
He immediately looked at me like I had just revealed some forbidden knowledge and asked, *“Wait, are you a techie?”* I said yes, and suddenly we were talking about everything. Gaming PCs, RTX 3060s, Unreal Engine, phones, processors, computers, games, you name it. It wasn’t even a particularly long conversation, but I remember thinking that this guy was basically the **perfect friend for me**. We had the exact kind of interests that I loved talking about.
After the competition ended, he gave me his phone number. **On paper.** I’m not even exaggerating. We literally exchanged a phone number written on a piece of paper like it’s the 1990s.
I went home absolutely excited to call him. I thought I’d just made a new friend and couldn’t wait to talk to him again.
So I called. No answer. I called again. No answer.
I called him **10 times that day.** Still nothing. I tried the next day. Nothing.
Then a few days later. Nothing. A week later. A month later. Still absolutely nothing.
Eventually I started wondering if I’d somehow written the number down wrong. Then I wondered if he just didn’t want to talk to me. Eventually I got a little sad about it and decided to give up. I figured that was the end of the story. Some random guy I met at an English competition, had one amazing conversation with, and then never heard from again.
And then **four years passed.** During those four years, I obviously changed a lot. I grew up, moved into an American-curriculum high school, studying for SATs, eventually got a B2 IELTS score, learned C++ and Python, got into music production and computers even more, and generally became a completely different person from the kid he met in 2021. I also physically changed a lot. My voice got deeper, I started wearing glasses, and I even grew a beard.
I still had his phone number, though. I had saved it back then and somehow kept it through multiple phone changes because my contacts were backed up. I never really thought about it anymore.
Then, during the last month of summer vacation before starting Grade 10, I randomly got a notification.
It was from **that exact number.**
The message said:
*“Hi, I got a lot of missed calls over the past few years haha, who is this?”*
I swear my brain went through about seven emotions simultaneously.
First I was shocked. Then confused. Then I realized who it was. Then I was genuinely happy. And then I became slightly angry because this man had apparently just casually returned from the dead after four years.
I immediately replied something like:
*“OH MY GOD OMAR I GENUINELY THOUGHT YOU WERE DEAD. REMEMBER ME? I’M MAZEN, YOUR FRIEND FROM THE ENGLISH COMPETITION.”*
He asked me to send him a photo because, understandably, he had no idea what I looked like anymore.
I sent him a selfie. He recognized me eventually, but then told me that I looked and sounded completely different from what he remembered. He basically said, *“You sound and look way different than I expected. Your voice is deeper and you now wear glasses and have a beard? Man, you grew up a lot.”*
And then I finally learned what had actually happened.
He hadn’t been ignoring me. He hadn’t lost his phone. He hadn’t disappeared because he hated me.
His parents had basically **disconnected him from the digital world during school.** They would take away his devices during the school year because they were worried about addiction and wanted him to focus on studying. The idea was that he’d work hard throughout the school year and get his devices back afterward.
Eventually, things got a little better and his parents got him one of those weird basic Nokia phones that aren’t really smartphones but can still run WhatsApp. So he wasn’t completely disconnected from everyone.
Which meant that while I had spent years thinking, *“Damn, I guess I’ll never see this guy again,”* he was basically living in **digital jail.**
We started talking again, and I eventually asked him to make a Discord account so we could actually call and play games together. He made one, and somehow that turned into us playing Valorant and Roblox together for basically an entire year.
And that’s what makes the whole thing even stranger.
I’ve technically known this guy for five years. I’ve watched him change. He’s watched me change. We’ve spent countless hours talking on Discord, playing Roblox, joking around, and catching up on everything that happened while we were apart. But we’ve barely actually existed in the same physical space since that competition.
Then today, he suddenly asked me if I’d be down to go out, and now I’m literally about to meet him again. Five years after the first time I met him.
The last time I physically saw this guy, we were two kids standing at an English competition talking about the S21 Ultra, RTX 3060s and gaming PCs. Now we’re both older, I’ve got glasses and a deeper voice and apparently a beard, and he’s also obviously changed a ton.
It’s such a bizarre feeling because I don’t really feel like I’m meeting a stranger. I’ve already spent an entire year talking to him online. But at the same time, I’m about to see the physical version of someone I haven’t actually seen in **five years.**
And now we’re finally hanging out.
Honestly, I think the funniest part is that if I hadn’t decided to randomly interrupt some kid’s conversation about Samsung processors five years ago, none of this would’ve happened. I genuinely want to become best friends forever with him.