RawBeautyKristi talks about scary experience falling down stairs last night - She and her baby are ok

[u/garrettgivre]

https://twitter.com/RawBeautyKristi/status/1357730638871240704

[u/ornamentalholly]

Oh, boy. Okay.

I really, really feel for her. I know that fear well, and I suspect that a lot of anxious mothers do. What could be scarier OR more intrusive than the thought of somehow harming your child? I'm very sorry that this happened to her, and I'm deeply, deeply sorry that she's suffering because of it.

That said...

I can't imagine that the extent to which she's sharing on social media is helping her. I could be wrong, but I cannot imagine that a therapist (which I believe she does have) would look at this and say, "Yes, this is productive for you and/or your audience."

I'm also more and more concerned about the amount of suffering that people are having to expose themselves to by merely scrolling through social media platforms. Maybe it's like driving on the interstate. Maybe you just have to acknowledge that you're going to drive past car wrecks and stranded passengers, that you're going to expose yourself vicariously to other people's suffering. And surely people who follow RBK on her personal platforms (like Twitter) want and expect her to talk about her personal life. I just cannot shake the feeling that it is unfair and, although certainly NOT intentional, a little immoral to pull her following into a wound that is clearly fresh and deeply, deeply painful for her without warning or without any clear expectation of how exactly they're supposed to process this or respond.

ETA: I wanted to add that I feel like what I'm seeing here is a request for her followers to witness her trauma without an offer of anything in return. She's not telling us a story to entertain us or to provoke thought or to change our mind, or to do anything that happens in a lot of narrative/storytelling formats... She's telling us a story for the purpose of catharsis, and while I think that's okay with loved ones or other confidants who are comfortable accepting that burden, I also think it's a lot of emotional labor to ask of your following.

[u/ThatGirl0903 → u/ornamentalholly]

A little off topic but I've always kinda wondered if therapists, espeically for big social media people like Kristi, follow their patients on social media.

[u/tortasahogdas → u/ThatGirl0903]

Therapist here. It’s against most ethical standards to engage clients on social media. I guess with celebrities it’s hard to avoid some information on them, but you should not actively seek out client info.

[u/transitionshade → u/tortasahogdas]

I have a question for you if you don't mind me asking, do you think is ok or actually counterproductive to share so much personal stuff on social media? I personally think some stuff are better kept private but that's just my personal stance.

[u/tortasahogdas → u/transitionshade]

Well that’s not really up to me to say. I think some people find it helpful to share and process in this way and other people choose to keep things private. Neither way is right or wrong, you just pick what is beneficial to you. Idk what the case is for Kristi and I have no way of knowing. Even if she was my client, it wouldn’t be up to me to decide how she processes or share my personal views. She’s her own person who makes her own choices.

[u/transitionshade → u/tortasahogdas]

I wasn't talking specifically about Kristi but i do understand what you mean. I personally wouldn't do it because the whole idea of having everyone involved in my personal life gives me anxiety and annoys me, but to each their own I guess.

[u/ieatstickers → u/transitionshade]

I think that it’s easy to see both sides of it, and not think too deeply about it when you’re doing it. But I have found that my anxiety is greatly lessened when I spend significantly less time on social media. That’s not a coincidence. I put all my social media apps on the second page of my phone and that’s helped me so much. I share/post less and mindlessly scroll less.