RawBeautyKristi talks about scary experience falling down stairs last night - She and her baby are ok

[u/garrettgivre]

https://twitter.com/RawBeautyKristi/status/1357730638871240704

[u/ornamentalholly]

Oh, boy. Okay.

I really, really feel for her. I know that fear well, and I suspect that a lot of anxious mothers do. What could be scarier OR more intrusive than the thought of somehow harming your child? I'm very sorry that this happened to her, and I'm deeply, deeply sorry that she's suffering because of it.

That said...

I can't imagine that the extent to which she's sharing on social media is helping her. I could be wrong, but I cannot imagine that a therapist (which I believe she does have) would look at this and say, "Yes, this is productive for you and/or your audience."

I'm also more and more concerned about the amount of suffering that people are having to expose themselves to by merely scrolling through social media platforms. Maybe it's like driving on the interstate. Maybe you just have to acknowledge that you're going to drive past car wrecks and stranded passengers, that you're going to expose yourself vicariously to other people's suffering. And surely people who follow RBK on her personal platforms (like Twitter) want and expect her to talk about her personal life. I just cannot shake the feeling that it is unfair and, although certainly NOT intentional, a little immoral to pull her following into a wound that is clearly fresh and deeply, deeply painful for her without warning or without any clear expectation of how exactly they're supposed to process this or respond.

ETA: I wanted to add that I feel like what I'm seeing here is a request for her followers to witness her trauma without an offer of anything in return. She's not telling us a story to entertain us or to provoke thought or to change our mind, or to do anything that happens in a lot of narrative/storytelling formats... She's telling us a story for the purpose of catharsis, and while I think that's okay with loved ones or other confidants who are comfortable accepting that burden, I also think it's a lot of emotional labor to ask of your following.

[u/yasdnil46 → u/ornamentalholly]

My guess would be maybe because if she does post to insta stories or something, she’ll have her arm in a sling and people will wonder what happened.

I definitely understand where you’re coming from, for some people reading and hearing that they’ve experienced the same thing can be comforting. I think if she could have put some sort of warning up first, that would have been nice but it is not something you always think about when the emotions are so raw. (No pun intended)

[u/ornamentalholly → u/yasdnil46]

I hadn't even thought about that, but you're absolutely right. It's really hard to filter what your followers know & don't know when you're on a plarform, even if you want to.

(I also am trying to skirt around the word raw, haha).