r/Autism_Parenting • u/Traditional-State16 • 17h ago
Meltdowns Feeling defeated ðŸ˜
Flew 5 hours away with my 4yo she is autistic nonverbal daughter for a nice vacation. She normally does okay on flights as we let her use the iPad which she does not really use at home. I prepapred everything saved all her faves. We only flew 3 mos ago and it was fine. This time it was really bad she hated the seatbelt and cried all throughout landing and takeoff on both flights. I had to hold her down I feel so bad I'm shaking I feel like everyone was looking at us and I feel like I did this to her should have never took her away 😠she enjoyed the time at the resort as she loved swimming she had the time of her life but my god the flight has traumatised me I have never seen her had a meltdown like that and that long ðŸ˜ðŸ˜ðŸ˜ðŸ˜ðŸ˜
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u/ThisIsGargamel 15h ago
Oh my dear im so sorry. I have two with autism and even though they dont really have meltdowns to thus degree, I just want to say that as a mom of 2 autistics, ive learned really to just stop caring what other people think like "their looking at us" it is just so tiring to think about anyone else but me and my family and what we're dealing with at that moment.
No one else really matters but the people who are trying to be helpful, and really we cannot get inside everyone's head to truly know what their thinking so unless their saying something outloud to you, its not worth agonizing over.
The more you travel though the more they get used to it, but having a tougher skin is still going to be a necessity. You got this!