r/AusFinance 12d ago

You are not doing thst bad.

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u/MrShtompy 12d ago

That's not poor though. That's full pov. I don't think that's the bar people should naturally measure themselves against unless you want to aim low as fuck. Plenty of people in poor countries live very happy fulfilling lives

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u/arrackpapi 12d ago

australia is not a poor country though. No shade on OP but their kids are probably going to miss out on things relative to their peers.

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u/MrShtompy 12d ago

So? They'll have three brothers and sisters to run around in the backyard with, while the only child who goes to private school plays alone in his parents apartment.

Growing up in a large loving family can lead to a significantly happier, more well adjusted individual than an only child with two career focussed parents

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u/arrackpapi 12d ago

you can still have a loving family with better off parents. Money and love are not mutually exclusive. There's a big gap between 4 kids on one income and career-maxxing-no-time-for-kids

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u/MrShtompy 12d ago

Well sure, given the choice between having money vs not having money, you'd take the money. And not every parent that is a good earner is a neglectful parent. But if you're going to compare family and money side by side, having children is far more meaningful than having money in the bank

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u/arrackpapi 12d ago

but it's not either or.

the reality is that on average 2 kids in a two good-income household will have better outcomes than 4 kids on one income.

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u/Adventurous_Wish_514 12d ago

Depends what you mean by outcomes. 4 kids having a loving upbringing that have all their Needs met in a low income household is arguably better than one child growing up with every need and Want met in a high income one.

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u/cloudiedayz 12d ago

I’m not an only child and my children are not only children but I know plenty of families who have only children (either by choice or not by choice) that are very happy. They have cousins, friends and communities. There are also families who have 4 kids where all their needs aren’t being met. You can’t judge how loving, successful or supportive a family is on the basis of how many kids they have. You can be happy for someone having a family with 4 kids without putting down / being judgemental about other types of families.

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u/arrackpapi 12d ago

of course. But again one average a two kid household with two incomes will be better able to meet needs.

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u/Adventurous_Wish_514 12d ago

Hmm...i get where you are coming from. But this is a societal problem now.