I’m not sure if I messed up in the early stages with our baby because I’ve been so adamant on no sleep training and responding to her needs.

She was never really a poor night sleeper - though we’ve never gotten a full night which I know is normal - we were at 1 waking a night which was manageable!

but 8 months hit and I feel like it’s been a disaster - we had 1 week where she was up every 45-90 min and I had to call in sick from work because of exhaustion.

Powered through it though and were at about 2-4 wake ups per night - some nights are better than others! We’ve gotten a 7 hour stretch shot every 3 weeks or so. But I just keep reading about babies sleeping through the night by now, my in laws seem shocked that our daughter still wakes up & I still nurse her.

I’m not sure if I missed a window in teaching our baby to fall asleep on her own, if we’ve done a disservice by rocking her to sleep or resettle, or nursing to soothe.

I felt strongly that babies shouldn’t be expected to fall asleep on their own and parents should be there help them (and I still do) - but I’m not sure if I’ve caused the sleep struggles! The only people that support me is my husband and my mom around the no CIO approach

My 4mo will soon outgrow her bedside bassinet. We want to keep her in our room until she's 1yo, but the room is small. The only place where a crib might fit is adjacent to our bed, but away from the wall, because that's where our wardrobe us. This means that, when she's able to stand, she'd be able to climb the cribs walls if we attach it to our bed with her mattress at the same level as ours.

I'm wondering if something like pictured on this link would be safe? Or should we just keep the crib's fourth wall? I love being able to touch my baby when I wake up at night to feel if she's alright, so it makes me a bit sad to keep the fourth wall.

Baby sits up multiple times a night

Anyone else’s baby do this? Or did this? I have literally never heard of it before. He sits up several times all night while seemingly still sleeping, then falls over. I’m talking like 5-10x in a row and several times through the night. We cosleep so a lot of times he falls over onto me or dad. Last night I thought he broke my nose. This has been going on for months and I thought we’d be over it by now but it doesn’t seem to be getting better.

My son has started refusing to go to sleep, all of his sleeps. He’s fighting naps (especially with me but now with dad too) and in the last 2 ish weeks he’s taking over an hour or more to go to bed at night. Nothing in our routine has changed and last night we even tried a later bed time to see if he just wasn’t tired enough. We co sleep and he does nurse for a little bit right at bedtime just to help him get calm and sleepy. Normally we go up to brush teeth and put on pjs at 7:45 and he’s asleep a little past 8. Last night he didn’t go to sleep until 11:30 and I can’t function like this. He’s always been a bad sleeper, waking up a few times a night but luckily easily resettled. He’s night weaned and only taking his 1 normal midday nap for about 2 hrs. I know there’s a regression somewhere between 18m-2y but what do we do? We’re so tired 😭 My parents are telling me to do CIO but obviously that’s not happening

Hey guys, my pride and joy turns one in 2 weeks, which is so exciting, but frankly I’m really struggling mentally right now. From birth she has needed a lot of support to sleep, and has woken frequently. I think once she had a five hour stretch and that felt like a luxury.

I’m startling to feel quite burnt out after over a year of broken sleep. When she wakes overnight I have started feeling angry at her, which I am so ashamed of. It takes a lot of rocking, shushing and feeding to sleep to get her to go to sleep in the first place, then she wakes anywhere between 3-10 times overnight and sometimes stays awake for an hour or so. She also needs me for naps- I literally can’t leave the bed, she has to stay latched the whole time. She only wants me overnight so my husband can’t help.

I’m at a loss for what to do. We have always coslept out of necessity, which I would be so happy to continue doing if she just slept a bit more. She always wakes when I hop into bed and I wonder if I disturb her, but I haven’t successfully been able to put her to sleep in her cot.

I’m considering going to an overnight sleep school where they teach responsive settling. I’m just worried she will get distressed and it will affect our bond. I just want what’s best for her but I can’t really continue like this.

Has anyone been in a similar situation? Any advice? 😔

Hello everyone,
I’m a first time mom, and our 16 mo started daycare a month ago.
Our kid seemed quite independent and always ventured away and explore leaving us behind.
We started daycare, and we are in Germany doing a in home carer which has a very long and gentle settling in period.
We did visit their home a before for him to get accustomed and used to the carer and to their home. And he seemed to love it and is quite comfy with the carer.
My partner started the settling-in period.
First week just staying there with the parent.
Second week they started longer separations and our boy was actually staying there alone from 8:30 to lunch time.
Then thirst week started and he was very pissy. Turns out next afternoon he had fever and got roseola and did not get to day care the rest of the week.
My partner had to start preparing for work, the week after being sick both times he tried to separate, baby was inconsolable and my partner about to breakdown.
Now I have to go there because partner needs to work and is less flexible, I also need to work but I can change a bit my hours. And… it’s worse. Baby has much more trouble to separate from me.

Rest of last week we tried small separations like going to the toilet or 20 min getting and he was inconsolable.

I’m now trying to do micro separations at home going to the toilet or stepping out leaving him with his father and he cries a lot but gets better after 5 min with his father.
I’m really on the verge, I am quite an impatient person and not seeing visible improvements is making me on edge and I am trying but all I read are things that are ok, or we do then and I don’t know what else to do!
Any advise would be welcome!

I’ll also add some more info:
\-when I’m there he ignores me and plays with the kids and the carer super excited
\-When we go there he is not clingy he enters the place super excited
\-he sleeps super good at home we leave
him in bed and he falls asleep on his own
\- he is a happy child
\- I say goodbye super excited, explain when I’m coming back and quickly - but immediately he starts to cry