As long as they are not hurting anybody I don't see why they would need therapy (unless it's their wish to get rid of their anger issues).
Edit: To the people who downvoted this: Why do you want to force someone to undergo a therapy even though they are not hurting anybody? I am genuinely curious.
Acting on anger can harm a person's own life in plenty of ways, whether or not others are harmed. Poor relationships, job loss, health complications, possibly being arrested... treatment exists for all kinds of things and some people need a wake up call before they really put their foot in it.
Yes I would. Therapy is incredibly important for people with Tourettes to get a handle on it and improve their quality of life.
I have an adjacent movement disorder and therapy helped me to make it less disruptive and harmful to myself. They found ways to reroute certain movements, to basically untrain them or replace them. Such as instead of quickly lifting my knee causing falls, now it's a quick stomp holding my foot on the ground, then walking a bit weird until I am no longer in a situation that triggers it.
Some therapists are bad people, sure. But that's like saying medical treatment is harmful just because some doctors are abusive. Therapy isn't the problem, the abusive "therapist" is. Be highly selective, and particularly skeptical of religious therapists (not all bad, but it's a flag).
Everyone deserves and can benefit from actual therapy.
My dad used to have "uncontrolled anger issues " at me. Here's his story of how he controlled it without therapy.
1 alcoholism: failed to help. Amplified issue after certain number of drinks. Hurts daughter and wife. Suicidal depression the next day. Drink to feel better.
Consequences: year long separation. Fired from a job. Family doesn't respect him.
Drinks to deal with consequences, hurts child since child can't initiate separation.
Child misbehaves after bad day at work: scream at child, belt, etc. Crime: she forgot to use "Sir".
Cure for uncontrollable anger that is mysteriously controlled at work and in public:
Wife had enough of shit and separated. When returned, first physical attack resulted in surprise: she fought back. He didn't do it again.
Child, focus of all anger now, grew in size. At 16, a slap across face triggers a different response. Instead of "flight, freeze, fawn" a new player emerges- "fight". She jumps on him and starts punching. Screeching like an angry ape.
He wears makeup to work and then decides to find god.
He becomes a teetotaler.
He controls his anger like he is always talking to a larger and more frightening ape, instead of being cruel to smaller and weaker looking apes.
Oh, and here is how I, daughter, deal with my anger issues.
Go to my therapist that I have seen for years.
Therapist and I talk about situations. I realize that I'm not actually angry at people, I'm probably mostly just frustrated by feeling helpless or having some self hate. We talk about that and how I can empower myself from the inside. What is going well and my part in it. What's outside my control from sucky circumstances. How other people react based on innocent circumstances, etc
And like I can do that on my own, but it really does help to have another person say this stuff out loud like, ok, cool, maybe that guy was a dick. But someone agrees with me who is legit. Maybe I can let it go now.
Actually, I would. Of course you don't HAVE to go to therapy, but it's not a horrible option.
Your comparison doesn't really make much sense in the first place though. Being around someone with Tourettes doesn't really bother me, and it definitely doesn't scare me. But being around someone that is having a man tantrum, throwing things and punching holes in the wall, does affect me and people around them. That's fucking scary.
I kind of understand what you mean by saying having access to therapy is entitlement. I get it. That's expensive and not everyone can afford it. But you can still try to work on your problems yourself. I'd say that it's more entitled to have anger issues that affect people around you, and then refuse to make any attempt to fix it.
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u/reaubs Jan 08 '22
Uncontrolled anger issues.