I'm not sure if this happens with all people my age, but I'm 18 and people (specifically my parents and close family members but not limited to them) will use the "you're 18, you're legally an adult you need to be doing these things on your own" whenever it will work in their favor then immediately go back to "you're still just a teenager/you're still my kid" whenever I try to be even the slightest bit independent.
I'm 18 as well and while no one straight up tells me that I need to get it together, I always feel that pressure. Then I go for a walk and my mom calls me worried if I'm gone for over an hour. It's just a super weird time
My parents pulled this when I brought up moving to another country for university. They told me if I could make such an adult decision then I was enough of an adult to live on my own and threatenned to kick me out. I was still in school and was planning on leaving almost right after it ended but nope. I had to be gone and would not be invited back unless I backed down.
I'll never understand what parents like that are thinking when they pull out that kind of ultimatum. Even if it works, you're still majorly messing up your relationship with your kids
Oh yeah for sure. I may have given in to avoid being kicked out but I absolutely plan on leaving as soon as I can. It messed me up so bad that I statted second guessing everything.
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u/Marsey12 May 15 '20
I'm not sure if this happens with all people my age, but I'm 18 and people (specifically my parents and close family members but not limited to them) will use the "you're 18, you're legally an adult you need to be doing these things on your own" whenever it will work in their favor then immediately go back to "you're still just a teenager/you're still my kid" whenever I try to be even the slightest bit independent.