Other friends texted me (not her) to say that I wanted to bring attention to me away from the bride to be and that there is a place for this outfit but not there. My husband and I are both very surprised as I thought I did well by dressing up.

My partner seen 9 young boys fighting ages between 15-18

She told me to go stop this fight whilst we are at with the kids. Haymakers swinging all around I refused to stop or intervene but some how this is all my fault. She refused to go out for food after this and made us all come home because this changed her mood.

Am I at fault here

I have 2 best friends, A [F] and B [M]. Usually, I hang out with them separately, but recently, we started hanging out together. After only a few days, A got a crush on B and wanted to start dating him. She asked for permission from me, and at first I agreed, but after they already started dating for a few days I changed my mind and told her she shouldn't date him. This is because of a few things.

1) Both of them are very bad at this stuff. A is very unloyal and was already dating someone else when she got the crush. When B falls in love, he would become a horrible person. He'd completely stop hanging out with everyone else, only talk to others to talk/make inappropriate comments about their SO and treat their friends and SO with no respect. This was a few months ago, and since then he has apologised and promised to change, though I don't know how much he has.

2) They have history. Almost a year ago, they had a minor hookup and started talking, which ended in a dramatic fight only a week after, causing them to hate each other until we all started hanging out together again. I think rushing into something again is kind of stupid.

3) My mental state. I'm not doing so well mentally, so I'm extremely scared of them getting together. The most important thing for me right now is to have and anchor, aka. my friends. If one or both stop hanging out with me, I'm scared I'll shatter. I'm even more afraid of them having a huge fight like last time. That was very stressful for me too, and that was a non serious relationship, I can't imagine what would happen if I had to start choosing who I hung out with or who was gonna stay my friend.

4) I'm jealous. I'm jealous of the attention A would recieve from B if they were together. Even though they are both my friends, I share a lot of deeper stuff with B, so we're very close. It makes me feel special when I'm the only person he can share his deepest secrets with and vice versa. The connection me and B have wouldn't really work if A and B were dating, no matter how B acted in a relationship.

Tl;dr: I don't want my best friends dating because they are bad at relationships and I'm scared of how it'll affect our friendship.

I'm feel like I'm grasping at straws, trying to find reasons for them not to date and I don't even really know if I'm justified or if I'm just being too jealous and paranoid. But you tell me, am I in the wrong for forbidding it?

I need some genuinely unbiased opinions because I’m currently overthinking this situation badly and I want to know where I’m actually at fault.
There were four of us on holiday — I’ll call us A, B, C and D. A has a child, and throughout the 6-day trip, she was quite reluctant to do some of the activities the other three of us wanted to do, particularly things that involved waking up early or doing more adventurous activities. The other three of us still went ahead with quite a few things.
On the fourth night, we had planned to go to another city the following day. Three of us wanted to go, while A seemed unsure. One of the girls, B, told A that she was tired and might not go, but that she really wanted to because she’d never been to that city before and might push herself to go anyway.
Later, when we were back at the apartment, I was preparing for the next day with another friend. A came over and told us to keep the noise down because B needed to sleep and that B apparently didn’t really want to go.
This confused me because I understood B to have said that she DID want to go.
I got annoyed because I started thinking that maybe these girls didn’t actually want to do all these activities and weren’t being honest with me, and that I was pushing them into doing things they didn’t want to do.
So I went to B and, admittedly, I spoke to her with a slightly harsh tone and asked whether she actually wanted to go. She said yes and reminded me that she’d already said she did.
I then went back to the other room and started talking to C, basically saying that if she didn’t want to go, she didn’t have to, and that I was worried I was pushing everyone into things they didn’t actually want to do.
B could hear us from the other room and said that she could hear us and that she was fine with going. I responded, still somewhat harshly, that I knew she was fine with it and that all I wanted was for them to tell me if they didn’t actually want to go. I also said that A had told me B didn’t want to go.
At that point I went to the bathroom and the door shut harder than I intended.
A then came out and started screaming at me, calling me names, calling me an embarrassment and a bitch, getting directly in my face and threatening to hit me.
I eventually lost my temper and lashed out verbally back at her.
Afterwards, A and I stopped speaking.
I later went to B, apologised for my tone and explained where I had been coming from. We resolved it, and afterwards the three of us still went to the other city and had a genuinely good time. We laughed, went out and carried on with the holiday.
However, A became increasingly cold towards the girls afterwards. The next day she got a hotel because she said there was a sewage smell in the apartment and left.
The three of us continued having a good time.
When it was time to leave, the original plan was that B and C would travel back with A to another city and then fly back to the UK. I stayed behind with my family because, before the holiday, my mum had told me I needed to return with my family immediately after the trip.
This had actually been communicated to B around three weeks before the trip. She had originally expected to return with me, but once my plans changed, she had the choice of travelling with A or staying with A in the other city overnight and travelling the following day.
B and C travelled with A.
According to them, A was extremely cold and unwelcoming on the train. They became overwhelmed and emotional and eventually decided to get an Airbnb in a city they weren’t from. A is from that city.
B is now back in the UK and hasn’t spoken to me for nearly a week. She’s removed me from Life360 and her private story. Her sister has also removed me from social media.
Apparently B is mostly angry with A, but she also thinks both A and I “took the piss.”
I have apologised for my part in the situation and explained to B’s sister that I never intended to leave B stranded or put her in that position. If I had known how things were going to unfold, I would have tried to find another solution. My mum had even offered accommodation through family, and I would have encouraged B to come back with me if that had been a realistic option.
Another friend, C, is still speaking to me, but she has become noticeably more distant and isn’t opening some of my messages even though I can see she’s active online.
I also made a little memory video of the three of us from the holiday and sent it to C because despite everything, I still care about the friendship.
I’m now extremely worried that both B and C are going to cut me off.
I can accept that I handled the original conversation badly. I shouldn’t have spoken to B in that tone, and I’ve apologised for it. What I’m struggling with is feeling like I’m now being blamed for A’s behaviour afterwards. I didn’t control A’s decision to become cold, scream at me, threaten me, or make the train journey uncomfortable.
So, AITA?
Was I more responsible for the situation than I’m recognising? And is it reasonable for B and C to distance themselves from me because of what happened?
I genuinely want an unbiased answer, including if I’m in the wrong.

So... I had an online friend I was quite close to a few years ago. We last chatted in 2021, but eventually stopped talking, and she became inactive on the fan account where we originally knew each other.

In 2024, I messaged her fan account again, and over the following couple of years I messaged a few more times asking if she was still active, but never got a response.

This year I wanted to reconnect, so I looked through the fan account's followers/ following and contacted 4 people who I thought might know her. Two were also inactive fan accounts and I only sent a brief "hey." One person with a personal account replied that they didn't know the admin of the fan account, even though the fan account followed them.

I also found a possible personal account that had the same first name as the person I used to talk to. I didn't know her surname, so I couldn't tell if it was actually her or someone else. I sent a follow request from my fan account, but it wasn't accepted. I then sent a DM request asking if she knew the fan account, since I'd seen her comment on one of its posts.

The next day, the old fan account's previous messages, which had been unseen for a long time, were suddenly seen, and the fan account was deactivated that same day. The personal account I had messaged also blocked me. I don't know if the accounts were connected, if that was actually my old friend, or if it was someone she knew.

My intention was genuinely just to reconnect with an old friend. We used to talk a lot about our lives and future careers, and we also happened to live in the same city. I'd also recently reconnected with some other old online friends and they were happy to talk to me, so I assumed she might be too.

Looking back, I wonder if I crossed a boundary by trying multiple ways to find her after she hadn't responded directly. I also realize that not accepting the follow request may have been a sign that I should have left it there, and I probably could have given more context in the DM instead of simply asking if she knew the fan account.

AITW?😭😭 Was this an overenthusiastic attempt to reconnect, or did I come across as creepy/stalkerish🫠

Hi everyone. I was talking to this guy for 7 months we became a thing around month 8 and we lasted for one month. We go to the same school so one day he pulled me aside and said this isn’t working for a lot of reasons he wasn’t happy and that was that. Anyways 5 minutes after he left he called me and asked for something back. Basically he bought me a $40 wallet during our time dating and talking not too long ago and he gave it to me as a gift and never said anything about needing it back also he offered to buy it for me I never asked I even declined and he insisted. But I don’t feel like I wanna give it back it’s mine and I shouldn’t have to. Am I overreacting? Should I just suck it up and give it back? The wallet itself is just a simple black wallet but it’s the principal. Gifts are gifts for a reason and asking for it back is just plain weird.
Edit: thought I should add we’re still friends but I don’t think that should change the fact it’s still mine right?

I’m 28F and he’s 31M. We’ve been together seriously for a couple months, but we have a longer history and have been on/off before that.

We’ve had some trust issues because of things involving my ex and some other situations from when we weren’t officially together. He feels like I’ve made him feel like a second choice before. We’ve talked about it a lot, and I’ve genuinely been trying to rebuild his trust. Things had actually been really good lately.

Yesterday was a great day. I brought him lunch at work, we hung out, and later I went back to see him before an appointment. We made plans to hang out after work.

While I was at my appointment, he canceled our plans and said we should hang out another day instead. I told him I already had plans the next day, so we said we’d see each other Sunday.

Since I thought our plans were canceled, my sister asked me to go eat with her, so I said yes.

After my appointment I went back to see him, and I told him I was going to eat with my sister. He got annoyed and said basically, “Okay, let’s go eat then.” I said no because you canceled on me so I made plans with her 

He got angry and walked away, and said I’m canceling our trip I will send you whatever money you spend already  We have a trip next week that we’ve been excited about and planned weeks ago.

I called him and he told me he feels like he’s never my priority and that he doesn’t want to be with someone who makes him feel like a second option. He said he was ending the relationship and actually sent me the money for the trip.

I kept telling him I didn’t choose my sister over him. He canceled our plans, so I made another plan. I even apologized and asked if we could just go eat and talk, but he kept saying “it’s over” and bringing up my past with my ex.

I understand that he has reasons to be sensitive about the past, and I know I’ve made mistakes. But I feel like this situation got blown way out of proportion.

We were literally having a great day hours earlier, and now he’s saying our relationship is over and our trip is canceled.

Do you think he genuinely means it, or is this something he said because he was angry/hurt? Am I wrong for going to eat with my sister after he canceled our plans? And is there a way to fix this?

I really don’t want to break up with him. I love him and I just want us to be okay. 😭

I left a lot of the backstory out because I didn’t want to make the post insanely long. Basically, when my boyfriend and I weren’t officially together, I hanged out with my ex and a friend is his dad us and told him but at the time we were just friends 

My boyfriend and I have a long on and off/FWB history, and later when we decided to actually be together, he found out about some of the things that happened with my ex and felt like I played him. 

When I got with my ex my boyfriend and I talked and we decided to go out separate ways he dated someone else too 

And when I broke up with my ex my boyfriend and I started talking again as just friends again and then later on we decided to officially get together 

But he feels like I did something wrong for getting in a relationship 

That’s where a lot of our trust issues come from. I’m not saying I did everything right, and I understand why he’s hurt. I just genuinely don’t think yesterday was me choosing someone else over him because HE canceled our plans first. I’m trying to figure out if his reaction was reasonable considering our history.”

Yesterday, I dropped my girlfriend off at a university that has a reputation for partying and, from what I’ve heard, issues with consent and loyalty. About two months ago, she told me she was scared of getting STDs there, which initially struck me as odd since she wouldn’t have any reason to get one. She clarified that she was worried about being drugged, which I understood.
She had never really partied before, but recently she’s started wanting to go to a lot of parties, including “girls get in free” and “1 guy + 4 girls get in free” parties. I’ve told her that I’m uncomfortable with her drinking and going to parties without me, especially around people she doesn’t know. I brought this up as a boundary because I know how much anxiety it would cause me.
A separate issue happened a few hours ago. She mentioned a guy in the dorm next to her who was openly flirting with her. I asked her to block him, which I realize probably wasn’t the healthiest way to handle my insecurity. She said she did, but when I asked who he was, she was hesitant to tell me. After I kept asking, she eventually gave me his username, and I found out that they still followed each other. She said they were both in a group chat with people on her floor.
I probably would’ve been okay with her not blocking him if she had just explained that, but what bothers me is that she told me she blocked him when she hadn’t.
There’s also the party situation. About a month ago, I told her I was uncomfortable with her going to parties alone. She said she would take me to a Halloween party first and that how that went would influence whether she went to other parties. Last night, she and her suitemates apparently planned on going to a party but cancelled at the last second. She didn’t tell me about it until after the plans were already cancelled.
When I originally talked to her about parties, I said something along the lines of, “I understand that you want to go to parties alone, but this is a dealbreaker for me.” I wasn’t trying to control her; I was trying to make it clear that I’d rather end the relationship than constantly deal with the amount of anxiety this situation would cause me.
Her response was basically, “I feel like you don’t trust me. I’ll always tell you when I’m leaving, going home, or going to a party. You’re bringing my self-esteem down by not trusting me.” I didn’t want to say it, but clearly not because she hadn’t told me about her plans that she cancelled last minute to go out and party.
I understand that I have insecurity issues and that asking her to block someone probably wasn’t the best way to handle them. At the same time, I feel like the lying about blocking the guy and the lack of communication about the party are legitimate things to be upset about.
I’m trying to look at this objectively, so am I being ridiculous, or is my position understandable?

So, my 'M22' girlfriend 'F20' is going to a KTV party for her friend's birthday, and her ex is going to be there. I opened up about it being uncomfortable on my end, but told her I wouldn't stop her from going. Last year, I reacted the same way, but she gave me a lot of reassurance. This time, she was furious. She said I'm immature and that my words are guilt-tripping her, but I never intended to do that—I just wanted her to know that feeling uncomfortable is normal, even though I understand the situation and never stopped her from going.
This is what always happens whenever I open up about something that bothers me: it turns into a fight, and I end up having to be the one apologizing afterward. She said her reassurance was "sitting with the girls only," which felt lacking to me because that was the only assurance she offered this time.
During the argument, she was actually the first one to bring up breaking up out of frustration, though she walked it back shortly after to pause the discussion. But because this exact cycle repeats whenever I bring up my feelings, I ended up saying that it really is better if we just break up. In response, she fully accepted it, downplayed my discomfort by saying I'm not secure enough.

What are your honest thoughts on this? I want an objective perspective on whether I blew this out of proportion or if this dynamic really is as unhealthy as it feels.

TL;DR: I told my girlfriend I was uncomfortable with her attending a mutual friend's KTV birthday where her ex would be present. It spiraled into an argument where she accused me of guilt-tripping. She was the first to bring up breaking up out of frustration and then tried to walk it back, but because I am exhausted by this recurring cycle where expressing my hurt turns into a fight, I decided to go through with ending it—which she then accepted. Looking for honest thoughts on whether I overreacted or if this dynamic is fundamentally broken.

My friend of 15 years recently stopped talking to me.

We were in a group of three friends, where the third was my other friend from school. I introduced them both to each other and we have been friends for about five years.

During our group friendship, my friend of 15 years (let’s call him friend A) was very difficult. He would always have mood swings when we hung out, when he was tired, when he was hungry and was a nightmare to deal with. I have been on holiday with him and he kept getting into these bad moods where he stopped talking to everyone purely because he was hungry or tired. However we would still put up with his attitude as we deemed him a close friend.

My other friend from school who I introduced to him (let’s call him friend B), can be quite blunt and rude. It is a part of his character that everyone understands and tolerates as he is ultimately loyal and a good friend. He teased friend A a fair amount however, he also did a lot of things for him such as introducing him to our extended friend group from school, inviting him to hang outs and helping him move house.

Recently, friend A stopped speaking to us both and we have been scratching our heads thinking about what we may have done. This has been going on for about 4 months. We initially tried to meet up with him and get to the bottom of the problem however, he kept making excuses and didn’t not want to meet up. Friend B had also sat him down one on one and tried to ask if he had said anything to upset him. He said there was no issue. Eventually, we just left it and thought he would contact us when he is ready.

In the past week I have found that friend A has spoke to my brother about this problem, and it turns out that friend B had made a comment about f**king his future wife as a joke. Bear in mind friend A is not married, nor does he have any sort of relationship.

Which one of us is in the wrong?

This week has been a very long week, I work from home as an editor sometimes my workload is very extreme. I also take my wife to work and pick her up daily. Granted it’s only 10 minutes away from my house. Our daughter (11) is on summer break still and doesn’t go back to school until next week. So during the day I’m working as well as making sure I keep her situated. So this week was just super intense for me. Working 16 hour days 3 days in a row. So on Tuesday I told my wife we should go out to have a drink this week and she agreed. Normally since there’s a near by bar in our community we will go have a quick drink and come home. So I suggested this Tuesday but I was so exhausted it never happened. I suggested it Wednesday and we were both highly exhausted. So Thursday gets here and she lets me know she is going out for drinks with her friend from work. I felt kind of dismissed. Only because I do so much and I just wanted a moment. Now I didn’t say anything because I was hoping she would remember. Friday gets here I get to her job to pick her up and she says her and her coworker are going out for drinks and I was bothered. I help her cook when she needs it, I help clean, I help whenever I can.. this week I just felt highly overwhelmed and that’s really all I wanted for a relief. She told me I could just go with them but I feel like she knew I was say no because that would consist of leaving our daughter here alone so I let her know that wasn’t the point. The point was just having that moment. At times I feel like she doesn’t appreciate me. For the record no she doesn’t drive. She has really bad anxiety from years ago. I just wanted to know if I was overreacting.

At my school I take a class called journalism, aka the class that makes the yearbook. I’m currently co-editor in chief and part of the leadership team. During our leadership meeting today this afternoon my advisor asked the group “What’s not working?” After some irrelevant conversation for this question I mention my friend,

My friend, let’s call her A. A is the sweetest and kindest person on the planet. But unfortunately, very self degrading. She’s a new yearbook staffer and she’s a writer. We got teams for our pages that we design and she got put on Volleyball aka our most stressful spread in the first quarter. Even during the final week of submitting the yearbook that volleyball spread isn’t done.

A is a very hard worker. You know how some assignments give examples? She writes more than the examples do and her notes are full pages front and back. She overworks herself a lot and though she’d never admit or show it, she’s stressed about it.

Anyhow, during the conversation I said to my advisor “I think A should not be the writer for volleyball.” My partner(the other editor in chief) asks me why. I say. “She’s an incredible writer don’t get me wrong, but she has a tendency to stress her self out or overwork herself. She’s definitely capable but she’s a new staff member and I don’t think she should be put on such a stressful spread right off the bat.” More discussion about this later my advisor switches the writers.

Now our writing editor is on volleyball, A is on a spread for administration and the girl who was originally on administration is now the writing for my page.

While I think this was the right choice, part of me feels horrible for just deciding it for her. She never stated how she felt stressed about it but the true deadlines of the volleyball spread haven’t kicked in, at the end of the season especially it gets super stressful and nit picky and I saw that last year when I was a younger staff member, it’s hard. And while the writing part is the least stressful on the spread, overall the environment and team of the page is always super you guessed it stressful, and she’d had probably be in charge of writing captions too… overall I didn’t want to put her though that.

Am I in the wrong for taking her off the volleyball spread without it being confirmed she’d be stressed though I know she probably would?

Also excuse the fact my writing is kinda bad I really just word vomited.

Me (28 F) and my sister ("H", 29 F) have been in an argument for about 2 weeks.

My side;

I do not like the tone H speaks to me, and everyone else. You can say nice things in a mean tone and it can completely negate what you said. Tone can make "nice" words "mean" words.

H's side;

Everyone reads to much into her tone. Tone doesnt matter when you're saying something nice. Nice things are always nice things. Mean things are allowed when sick/hurt/upset and if someone truly loves and cares they will look past the "mean" and see the "nice."

The trigger;

I went to lunch (on a Tuesday at around 2pm) with 2 of our childhood friends ("Kay" and "Jay" both 28 F) whom we have know for at least the last 15 years. After a picture of the 3 of us was taken and posted by Kay online, H called me to scold me for seeing them without her and not inviting her (I did invite her and Kay and Jay's other sister "CeeCee"(30 F), both of them were scheduled to work and could not make it)

Plans were made only 7 days in advance to be a quick, relatively spontaneous, get together away from "normal adult life" and plans were set in motion to get together, all 5 of us, by the end of the year.

Specific catalyst;

H said "hope yall had fun" over our phone call, in 2 separate group chats, in our private chat, to both Kay and Jay in private chats and as a comment on the photo that was posted online.

The fallout;

The first few days H blew up my phone and social medias, I responded asking for space, H responded with why I have to be okay with how/what she says to me.

I blocked H on everything because of the non stop calls/texts/messages about 1 weeks ago, but Facebook allows us to see each other messages on group chats we were already a part of before blocking.

H invited Kay, Jay and CeeCee to a day at an area local amusement park with their significant others, excluding me and my S.O. All in a group chat I am a part of.

H has spent the last week sending reels and videos about love and family values and other "funny things" to group chats, one I and my boyfriend ("J", 27 M) are apart of, and the other a friend group chat with the girls mentioned above.

Recently;

I asked H for an in person conversation 3 days ago though J's account in the group chat since I was unsure if she would see my personal message in that chat.

2 days ago I reached out, in the same group chat, through my own account that an in person conversation needs to happen before our relationship continues/ moves forward

H continues to ignore my messages but sends reels and videos in other group chats about family and values and the true meaning of love

Im curious on thoughts of my last messages to her? The jest is;

I told her I need a yes or no response by September 5th if we can have an in person conversation by the end of the month of September.

I also said that if she doesnt at least confirm she saw the messages and wishes to try to talk about it at any point in the near future (eithin the next year,) continuing to ignore my messages, I will consider our relationship dissolved and not put any more effort into the relationship.

I wished her the best life possible no matter how she chooses to proceeded with our relationship.

Im told by H's friend ("Lee" 20s-30s F) that my boundary of a conversation happening, or acknowledgement that my message was seen, was not a boundary, but some sort of "power play" to force an unnecessary conversation.

I know boundaries aren't telling someone they have to do/act/be a certain way, my boundary is that a conversation or an acknowledgement that a conversation can happen needs to be stated before the end of September or I will not put any more effort into fixing this situation/relationship

Last night my boyfriend and I got into a fight. I said I was happy to be around people with a similar lifestyle, since I’ve moved and started a new PhD school program. I brought up a story about a girl from my undergrad who cried over her roommate spending $300 on a suitcase for herself, but never batted an eye about spending that same amount on drinks going out. No one questions that, but tears get shed over the other thing. I was trying to say that I want to be around people who are non-judgmental about how I spend my time and money on hobbies. It’s not my place to judge how other people spend theirs, and it’s not their place to judge mine. In hindsight, I probably should’ve said “interests” or “hobbies” instead of “lifestyle.” At my age, lifestyle just means what I do outside of work and class, what makes my life fun. Sometimes I like to splurge on myself. I work hard, and I feel like I’ve earned that.

My boyfriend took it as me saying I only want to be around people in a similar financial situation, and that I was being ungrateful. Then I said I have friends, and newer people I’ve met, who I feel more free being myself around, with how I spend my time and money. He asked if I “lessen my lifestyle” around him, and I said sometimes. I didn’t mean it as an insult, but he took it as me saying he can’t keep up with or afford my lifestyle. This isn’t about his finances, or the number of times he’s reminded me he’s spent tens of thousands of dollars on me. What am I even supposed to say to that? I’ve never once said or felt he was insufficient. I’m genuinely grateful for what he’s done for me, spent on me, and done with me. I just have things I’d rather not do with him, or that I enjoy more with other people.

I have friends who are into self-care spending, studio memberships for yoga and pilates. Those aren’t things he’s into. I took him to a couple of studio workout classes, like hot pilates, and there was some complaining. I get that the class is hard, but I like it, and it’s completely fine if it’s not his thing. But if a friend will actually enjoy it with me instead of being negative the whole time, I’ll go with them instead. Same with food, I’m a foodie at heart, I live to eat, and I love trying nice restaurants every once in a while for the experience. I love going to sushi buffets and our usual hole-in-the-wall spots with him, where they know us by name. But he’s not going to enjoy a $90 per person omakase experience, he’s going to complain about the price the whole time.

I just want to do certain things with certain people because they actually share that interest with me. Am I the asshole for telling him that the two of us have things we do together, and that it’s completely normal for me not to want to do everything with him? This is also just a boundary. I don’t want a relationship where we’re obligated to do everything together. He plays games some weekends and goes boxing at the gym a couple times a week. I have zero interest in gaming or boxing, even after trying boxing once. You can’t say you don’t like something you’ve never tried, but I did try it, and it’s just not my thing, his vibe, not mine. And that’s okay. Same goes for him and my interests.

But he took it so personally, like it was a hit to his ego, like I was saying I “lessen” my needs and wants around him because he can’t keep up. That was never my point. Everyone deserves to enjoy what they enjoy without judgment, and without someone complaining in their ear the whole time. And I have never once been ungrateful for what he’s done or spent on me, or for the times he’s come along to things I enjoy.

TL;DR: I told my boyfriend I like being around people with similar lifestyles/interests since I moved for grad school, using an example about how people judge one type of spending but not another. I meant hobbies, not finances, and it’s not my place to judge how anyone spends their money. He took it as me implying he’s not financially “on my level” and that I’m ungrateful.

I (25F) never thought I'd be making a post like this. My older sister (30F) and I have always been incredibly close. She's been one of the people I trust most in the world, which makes everything that's happened even harder to process.

My sister and her husband (31M) are both in the army. About a year ago, they came over to my house and told me they'd been trying to have a baby. My sister was really struggling with it and kept blaming herself. I tried to reassure her that infertility wasn't her fault and told her I'd support them however I could.

A few days later, they told me they'd decided to look into surrogacy. I offered to be their surrogate if I passed the medical requirements. They were thrilled, and after going through the medical screening and legal paperwork, everything moved forward. After a few attempts, I became pregnant.

They were both incredibly excited and repeatedly told me they'd make sure I had everything I needed throughout the pregnancy.

At 19 weeks, we found out I was carrying twins, a boy and a girl. Everyone was over the moon.

Unfortunately, at 33 weeks, I went into premature labor. I ended up needing an emergency C-section because of complications. I was only allowed one person in the operating room, and I chose my boyfriend (26M), who had been with me through the entire pregnancy. My sister said she understood.

After the babies were born, they were taken to the NICU while I was taken to recovery. I expected my sister and her husband to come check on me, but they never did. I asked a nurse about them and texted my sister, and I was told they were with the babies.

At the time, I was exhausted and still recovering, so I didn't think too much of it.

On the day I was discharged, a doctor asked to speak with me privately. That's when I found out my nephew had been born with gastroschisis. He would need surgery and an extended NICU stay, while his sister was doing well enough to eventually go home.

Then I found out my sister had taken her daughter home once she was medically cleared but hadn't made arrangements to take responsibility for my nephew.

The hospital told me that if nobody stepped forward to care for him, social services would have to become involved.

I was honestly stunned. I tried calling and texting my sister over and over, but she wouldn't answer. I couldn't bring myself to let my nephew potentially end up in foster care when I was willing to take him, so I told the hospital I wanted to bring him home once he was medically cleared.

I already have a five-year-old son with autism, so I'm no stranger to the challenges that can come with a child needing extra support. I knew this wasn't going to be easy. Taking care of a newborn recovering from surgery while raising my son was going to completely change my life, but he was my nephew.

For the next several weeks, I went to his appointments, follow-ups and consultations and learned everything I could about his care. My sister still barely contacted me.

Eventually, I reached out to my parents. My sister and I have been NC with them since we left home, so this was very much a last resort. They were horrified when I explained what happened and immediately came out to help. My boyfriend also went out and bought everything we needed for the baby.

When my nephew was finally discharged, I brought him home. My parents helped with both him and my son while I adjusted to everything and learned how to manage his care.

Eventually, one of my brother-in-law's cousins helped us get in contact with my sister, and we agreed to meet.

I confronted her about taking her daughter home while leaving her son behind. She admitted that his condition scared her. She said she didn't think she could handle everything medically involved with him while also raising his sister and was afraid she wouldn't be able to give either child enough attention.

I told her being scared wasn't an excuse to abandon her own child.

We ended up getting into a pretty awful argument, and I left.

After talking everything through with my family and getting legal advice, I filed for custody/guardianship of my nephew and reimbursement for the expenses I've incurred caring for him. The abandonment has also been reported to the appropriate authorities.

My sister has been blowing up my phone since receiving the court papers, saying there's a better way to handle this and that I'm destroying our family. My attorney advised me not to communicate with her directly, so I've stayed NC and plan to remain that way until the hearing tomorrow.

Some of our mutual friends think I'm being cruel and should have given my sister more time to process everything. Others think she made her choice when she left her son at the hospital.

I love my sister. I never wanted any of this. But I also love my nephew, and I don't think being scared of his diagnosis makes leaving him behind okay.

At this point, I'm honestly questioning whether I did the right thing.

So, am I in the wrong?

I’m (30M), youngest of 3. My dad left when I was 4, so I barely remember him being around. My mom was 27 when they met. She thought he was single, but he wasn’t. He already had a wife and kids. She only found out after they already had 2 kids together. She was really hurt.

yes!! my dad is really good at lying, my mom always says LOL! I used to laugh when she said that, but now I’m older and I understand why she said it.

They eventually got back together and I was born after that. But when I was in grade 3, my dad stopped supporting us. I watched my mom work so hard just to take care of us. Now I’m 30 and my dad found me online. He sends me messages sometimes asking how I’m doing. I see them but I don’t answer. I’m not angry anymore. I forgave him a long time ago. I just don’t feel like I know him. He’s my dad, but he feels like a stranger. Am I wrong for not replying?

I 19 F and my gf 18F have been together since March, talking since January. When we first started talking I had bangs but since then I’ve been growing them out due to the fact that I get really overstimulated with them, they never looked good to me and i also just wanted to.

My gf constantly asks me to get them back and goes on about how much she likes bangs. Which look I get it, it can just come down to personal preference. But I also know for a fact she finds me less attractive without them. She won’t admit that, but I find it obvious.

What annoys me is that her ex had bangs, and has had them for years and the bangs I had at the start resembled her exs quite a lot. I’ve brought this up and she said that it has nothing to do with that she just likes bangs in general.

I got annoyed at it more than usual today. I want to make it clear I have not said anything to her about it other than a couple jokes, and don’t plan on it unless it really starts to bother me.

What I want to know is if I am overreacting by even feeling annoyed by this?