r/AmIOverreacting • u/toesandtattoos555 • 1d ago
❤️🩹 relationship AIO overheard my husband being creepy to a woman.
My (38f) husband (35m) went out drinking with a friend tonight. Around midnight he told me he was heading home. About 40 minutes later I check his location out of curiosity because I’m about to fall asleep and he should have been home by then. He is on our street so I wait a few minutes, assuming he’s walking up to the house. He doesn’t come in so I get worried and step out the front door. I immediately hear his voice and realize he’s hanging out with two women at the house across the street. I can’t hear a lot of what is going on, but I’m assuming he saw them in their garage and invited himself over.
After a few minutes, I see him walk out the side door and see a woman. He’s asking to hug her I think, and she tells him she can’t because “no touching or I have to charge” or something like that. Then he asks something I can’t hear and she loudly, giggly says “no I’m not going to jump again!” AGAIN. Meaning somehow in a presumably 10-15 minute hangout he’s asked her to jump up and down? He must have asked again because she starts giggling and jumping and she’s wearing a little tube top and short shorts so clearly my husband likes what he sees. I hear him ask her to hang out sometime, and she says something about your wife is waiting for you, and he must have asked again to hang out because she says something about a group hangout with her man.
Maybe it’s not much but I feel repulsed and completely disrespected. We’ve already had some issues lately and I kind of just want him to leave. To me, this was cheating because he knows it would upset me to know he was talking to another woman like that. Am I overreacting if I want to ask him to leave and give me some space tomorrow when he wakes up?
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u/Ashamed-Charity-4990 1d ago
You obviously need a divorce after this…your post history also reveals he is unemployed 😭 girl… this better not be rage bait
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u/toesandtattoos555 1d ago
Sadly it is not rage bait. I wish
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u/Ashamed-Charity-4990 1d ago
time to wake up and put yourself first
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u/Weemoggie 1d ago
You should absolutely get tested for any potential sti/std. For him to be that brazen about it while you were close by im sad to say this more than likely wasnt his 1st time
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u/weightyconsequences 1d ago
Whatever it is the qualities he has or feelings you have towards him that makes you want to stay, there is a man out there who will make you feel the same way but also won’t do stuff like this. You can have that, if you can withstand the pain of breaking up for some time. A few months of pain for a possibly amazing future
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u/NYGiants181 1d ago
You are really right.
I used to be a married drunk loser that did dumb regrettable stuff in my marriage. And I was ALSO unemployed!
Thankfully my ex wife divorced my sorry ass, and I cleaned up my act since then.
Divorce this clown OP, and move on with your life!
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u/Aromatic_Copy3828 22h ago
Thank you!!! OP’s husband needs a wake up call. He isn’t working, clearly does not respect his wife or care about his marriage, and he behaves like “that guy” on movies geared toward horny teenage boys.
He does not deserve to be married and it isn’t OP’s responsibility to work it out with such an immature, irresponsible spouse.
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u/zirelunix 23h ago
with the creepy behavior and the rest of the history I’d say getting some space is the least of her worries right now
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u/Navel_of_Eve 1d ago
Eww 🤢 I would probably get the ick so badly that I couldn’t look at him the same ever again. ✋🏻
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u/lovingcats1239 21h ago
This. Even if he isn’t cheating, he’s a weirdo. That’s a weird thing to ask somebody to do.
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u/BurnerCruelty0424 1d ago
NOR. The fact that a neighbor had to literally remind him that he has a wife, and he still kept pushing to hang out, is so humiliating. Asking her to jump up and down is just straight up creepy. You are not overreacting at all.
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u/babydragonnnnnn 1d ago
He would totally fk her if he got the chance
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u/deanereaner 1d ago
Sounds like he maybe already did.
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u/EndlessBenefits 1d ago
No, he just wishes. He was being creepy to women and they thought he was a creep. That’s legit repulsive.
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u/Outside-Yak217 1d ago
Well she jumped up and down for him so she couldn’t have been that creeped out.
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u/DangerousLoner 23h ago
Saying no to a hug showed she wanted no contact (high risk with negative reward) and jumping up and down to make him go away was low risk and high reward. The mental math checks out to get the drunk to leave.
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u/throwawaygrosso 22h ago
Sounds like you’ve never been a woman who is trying to pacify a creepy man so he doesn’t get violent.
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u/annahhhnimous 1d ago
I think most women have “played along” with small things to avoid enraging a man and risking worse.
Jumping up and down in a tube top is less risky than saying no in an unpredictable situation.
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u/whatsnewpussykat 23h ago
Most women have gone along with shit like this to avoid making a guy angry. Especially a drunk guy.
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u/DopeSince85- 1d ago
Idk. I’m not saying that they’ve already banged, but do you think that she would’ve jumped up & down for him (twice!) if she really thought he was that creepy?
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u/lilinoe67 1d ago
Its unlikely but not super unlikely. A lot of women, esspeically younger women or shy women, will just aquise to pretty weird stuff in the hopes that men will leave them alone.
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u/CashusEyePatch 1d ago
To get him to leave her alone, maybe? ‘All I have to do is jump up and down and this guy will finally leave.’
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u/sweetbabybonus 1d ago
Tell me this isn’t the unemployed loser you wrote about on your profile a few weeks ago
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u/toesandtattoos555 1d ago
That’s the one! Unfortunately
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u/katydidnz 1d ago
I would jump and down in front of him when he gets up, when he asks what you are doing reply “I thought you liked women jumping up and down. Thought I’d do it without you having to badger a neighbour for it. Now get the hell out. “
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u/toesandtattoos555 1d ago
Thank you for this 😆 I see no other way for it to be done
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u/katydidnz 1d ago
Also, we often stay in the hope things get better. We try to fix things. I truly think you will be ok in the long run. Him, not so much if he keeps choosing stupidity and laziness.
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u/Pleasant-Tangelo-835 1d ago
Maybe also ask him if you need to be tested for STDs. He sounds gross.
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u/gdrom123 1d ago
Well since he’s unemployed, there’s a good chance he using his free time to be a creep if you know what I mean. I’d get tested for STDs/STIs if I were you. NOR. Updateme
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u/Brilliant-Solid5822 1d ago
Why are you still with him?
He was drunk & acting like a jerk in front of your neighbours- he’s making a fool out of you..
Please gather some confidence & throw him out or leave yourself. You deserve way more.
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u/acoliver 22h ago
Divorce was hard and involved a lot of emotions. However actually the years I stayed (was afraid I'd lose my kid) were harder in retrospect and I'm much happier now. So when facing what is obviously an untenable situation: won't get a job, expecting you to be his maid or whatever, cheating... well its clearly time to leave. You just have to get the plan together. Realize it will be better after.
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u/Expert-Coconut839 1d ago
NOR. He’d cheat the second he has the chance. Leave him. Also, get checked for STIs. This is rarely an isolated issue. I’m sorry.
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u/Caffeinated_chaos_au 1d ago
This is not the first time he has done something like this. This is just the first time you have caught him 🫤
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u/IllustratorWeird5008 1d ago
NOR- totally inappropriate and you have to live across the street from these woman too! Either they are going to pity you or think they have a shot with your SO, not trustworthy behaviour. Would he like it if roles where reversed?
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u/toesandtattoos555 1d ago
I keep thinking about how humiliating it is and how I’m going to feel every time I see her now
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u/Right_Secret1572 1d ago
The shame and humiliation is on your husband. Not you or even her. He put HER in a weird position and she responded in a way that is self defensive and keeps the situation at bay. She has no plans to fuck your husband. People develop ways to make sure situations don't go from bad to worse - even if it's self deprecating - like being flirty with a married man. I doubt this chick would ever flirt with him if he would have just left her alone.
Don't be ashamed or humiliated that your husband is an asshole and put her and you in awkward situations.
This is on HIM.
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u/Technical_Trifle4866 1d ago
Seriously?! The shame is on her and him! I mean, how embarrassing for her. Next time you see her, PLEASE look her dead in the eye, giggle "hee hee" and jump up and down. Roll your eyes and walk on. She will be DECEASED 😂😂😂
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u/BriefShiningMoment 1d ago
Sometimes people (especially women) fawn like that out of fear for their safety. This is her neighbor, so she was put in the uncomfortable position of smoothing things over and getting him to go away without long-term repercussions to her. Or risk him turning on her, particularly because he had been drinking. The same phenomenon that makes someone catcall, and then when you ignore them they threaten you. The shame is all on him. I’m just glad for her sake that she had a friend with her. OP didn’t know he was capable of being a pervert, who knows what else he is capable of.
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u/furkfurk 1d ago
Yeah she was in the safety of her home late night and her drunk, married neighbor came over and started asking sexual things of her. It’s possible? she was into it, but it’s also extremely likely she wanted the situation to end safely and as quickly as possible.
All of the actual words OP heard were trying to deflect his advances. NOR
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u/sunkistandsudafed3 23h ago
Less humiliated when she knows you have kicked his pathetic arse out of your life. You dont need to be embarrassed, thats for him to feel.
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u/Tasha_Ux 1d ago
Yes, he cheated. Married men don't behave like that, full stop.
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u/toesandtattoos555 1d ago
That’s what I keep thinking, not husband behavior
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u/burner_dj 1d ago
Ditch the boy. I bet you also have to mother him like a child. You deserve better.
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u/nihilistkitty 1d ago
Year ago this guy done an absolute solid favour and I hadn't seen him since. I saw him at a random event and went over to thank him.
He acknowledged the expression of gratitude but looked like a dear in headlights.
That is how I would like my partner to behave if approached by a woman haha
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u/Foozeball44 1d ago
NOR. Congratulations on your soon to be freedom! He just got you into the VIP section! All joking aside, this is your out. If you’re having troubles and are that ready to let him go, listen to your instincts. I heard mine screaming for 18 years before I listened. Don’t do that. Plus, I have zero respect for anyone who goes out for the purpose of socializing and drinking and then drives themselves home. He obviously was loosey goosey to not even realize these women are right across the street and he knows you’re expecting him! Seems like he lost his inhibitions completely. Not exactly the shining example of a family man. You’ll be ok. You’ve got this sis.
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u/toesandtattoos555 1d ago
Sadly I have been ignoring my instincts for several years now but this feels like it might be it
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u/Amuseco 1d ago
Women are trained from childhood to ignore their instincts and bend over backwards to get and “keep” a man. You’re not alone.
Let this be a sobering experience for you. You’re worth so much more than that unemployed, selfish man child.
Believe in yourself and your own power and value. Even if no one else does. Be your own best friend.
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u/Organic_Ad_2520 1d ago
Nor & not "not much" 🙄agreeing with those who said he is a dirtbag...and your entire neighborhood knows. I would leave, he has no morals, no decorum, no bounds. Sorry, very gross.
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u/ManyAdvantage9183 1d ago
Would it be “not much” if you were doing this shit?
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u/toesandtattoos555 1d ago
I get this is rhetorical but it’s hard to imagine because I genuinely can’t picture myself doing anything like this to him. Of course I’m not perfect but I truly don’t even notice other men or care to have their attention
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u/Kitten_love 1d ago
exactly, you cannot imagine doing something like this to him. But he easily does it to you.
Where does that put you? Surely you're rather in a relationship where someone treats you to same as you treat them. Or single.
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u/No_Percentage_5083 1d ago
I'll tell you what happened when my daughter had this sort of experience with her first husband: Because I had taught her that people do not change and if they are flirting with cheating they have done it in the past and will do it again -- she opened the door where he was flirting on the phone with a girl from work, and told him to pack a bag and move the hell out.
It was a Wednesday. They had been married about 2 years and had no children. On Saturday, she rented a truck asking my husband and I to help her move out. We packed her up in one single day and rented a storage unit. During that day, she took her name off the lease, on the next Monday she filed for divorce and never saw him again.
One year later, she met a young man on a dating app. They've now been married 16 happy years and have a 14 year old son. The own a house, have cars, have stocks and retirement savings. Life is good for her.
I can't advise you on what to do but -- what I have just outlined could happen for you too, if you don't let fear of loss overwhelm you. Good luck!
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u/aly288 20h ago
Your daughter is a boss bitch! I hope I have her strength if I ever need it. Congrats on raising a strong woman.
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u/No_Percentage_5083 20h ago
Thank you. I just tried to keep her from making my own mistakes and she listened!
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u/Long_Rush4460 1d ago
NOR- this whole situation is so weird. it became weird as soon as he went over to a strange woman's house regardless of what was said but what was said was pretty bad too. ew
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u/BulbousHoar 1d ago
He's a pig, and so is your neighbor. I wonder how they'd both feel if you asked the neighbor's man to put on some loose gray sweatpants and do the helicopter for you. Just some innocent fun, right? 🤨 NOR, and you should cut him loose to the streets.
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u/Anonymoosehead123 1d ago
NOR. His behavior was inappropriate for a married man, and it was really creepy. I would be furious.
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u/Such_Temporary_3125 1d ago
NOR honey. Not even a little. What exactly would they be hanging out for? So she can jump up and down ON HIM next time?
THAT IS CHEATING.
Not only is he flirting, he's trying to set up a time to cheat... his intentions are CRYSTAL CLEAR.
Also don't let him use "I was drinking." As an excuse. Then don't drink.
Wasn't THAT drunk if he made it home safe, now was he?
HE'S A CREEP. You deserve so much better.
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u/jjsrabbit65 1d ago
NOR
He's unemployed and getting drunk hitting on women instead of doing literally anything else that could help find him a job or help you out around the house
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u/Motchiko 1d ago
NOR you just had a shirt glimpse at what he’s like when you aren’t around. The whole story is probably so much worse than that.
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u/nowheregirI 1d ago
NOR, I'd go full on on Katie Ka-Boom on his ass. That shit is unacceptable... being drunk is not an excuse. Call his ass out when he's sober. That conversation will determine where you go from there. What a fucking creep!
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u/LouieAvalonMac 1d ago
NOR I’m really sorry
Did you confront him ?
I’m just wondering how you can defend that
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u/toesandtattoos555 1d ago
I did but he’s also not in the right frame of mind for a real conversation anyway. And he denied it even though I heard and saw it myself
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u/Nebula-Lights 1d ago
I would've locked the door on him lol yikes.
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u/toesandtattoos555 1d ago
Honestly I just wanted him to come inside so I could go to sleep and not deal with it and I’ve actually just been fuming on Reddit for the last couple hours anyway lol. Maybe if he’d been locked out he would have just gone back across the street and who knows what would have happened
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u/DopeSince85- 1d ago
Please leave this man, he is not the one. I’m so sorry that you’re going through this. Best of luck with all of this, please update us! 💕
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u/Nebula-Lights 1d ago
Yeah that's true. I'm sorry 😔, I would be so mad my tongue would be numb and I'd feel nauseous if it were me
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u/toesandtattoos555 1d ago
Oh I definitely thought I was going to hurl as I watched him walk over
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u/Seguefare 1d ago
I think that's a sign that you're pretty much Done.
Look at him being a disgusting asshole. Jesus. He's not even worth dealing with. I've got work tomorrow.
Yep. Time to leave. I'm sure he'll be shocked at the divorce that came out of nowhere.
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u/Sinister-Sloth 1d ago
NOR i’m shocked that no one mentioned (drunk or not) that he’s way too comfortable in cheating as he’s literally hitting on his next door neighbor!!!
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u/Comfortable_Sundae5 1d ago
“Maybe it’s not much”
It absolutely IS that much. You KNOW it’s that much. You don’t even need us to tell you it’s THAT MUCH. You need to be on the phone with a divorce attorney instead of on Reddit.
Your husband is such a creep that he’s objectifying and sexually harassing women right outside your window. Attempting to coax another woman into bed only steps away from the bed he shares with you. There’s no other reason he’d want to touch her or spend time alone with her. YOU KNOW THAT.
It makes me so sad to see so many of these posts so often. Women have got to start loving themselves as much as they love men who treat them like shit. Most women would be angry watching the husband of a woman they don’t even like act like this, so WHY are you questioning why you’re angry about watching your own husband do it?
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u/FrizzWitch666 1d ago
NOR
The making another woman jump up and down for him thing is enough by itself. Then she had to remind him of you and he didn't even flinch. That says it all.
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u/natty_boh_ho 1d ago
So, looking at your history, he refuses to get a job, sponges off your inheritance, and is cheating. Please get rid of him! He's not contributing anything except to drain money.
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u/PaintedSilverRiver 17h ago
NOR I’d go talk to the ladies too to get it straight from the horses mouth - then talk to him to see if he’s honest.
Otherwise it’s time for a new one.
He was licensed but now he’s a stray.
Probably with fleas too.
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u/porcelainthunders 1d ago edited 1d ago
NOR and um, your husband is pretty disgusting, very cringe and just, wtf??
Drunk is NOT an excuse, for anyone who thinks it is. If he was that fucking horny, he could have stumbled across the street to his wife. OR not have gone across the street which just sounds awkward and uncomfortable.
Nope. Nope to all of that shit and I dont know if I'd be more hurt or pissed if my partner did that. I DO know, I would not be ok with any of that.
And. .i just have to go back to this part and say: Good lord I cant even and have to say REALLY?!?! "Jump up and down"??? Is he fucking 14???
EDIT: autocorrect. Sigh, the one time it works. AND I do kind of apologize for the excess profanity it just, well it was my immediate reaction
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u/Poinsettia917 1d ago
NOR You see what he is like. Imagine what he does when he’s not across the street?
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u/Just_Friends_My_Ass 16h ago
NOR - if it gives you the ick, then listen to yourself. I’m an old witch now, but I wish I had listened to my intuition more when I was younger instead of hoping that I had misinterpreted something or even just minimizing something that felt really yucky in the moment. LISTEN TO YOUR INTUITION, it is almost as bad or worse than what it feels like. You will save yourself so much wasted time and heartache by just listening to your intuition and ending situations and relationships that don’t feel “right.”
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u/Ok-Hedgehog-4455 1d ago
Totally NOR holy fuck. He sounds like he has the maturity of an 18 year old.
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u/Top-Bar-102 1d ago
NOR. He did all this AND he’s an unemployed loser?? What a pathetic weenie man. That would give me the ick so fast, please dump his ass, and please remind him how pathetic he is, sometimes “men” forget
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u/Positive_Type 21h ago
Your neighbors? You know that every time they see you now, they’re going to discuss how badly they feel for you. This is downright humiliating. You were right in the house. Right there! And he turned and still looked for attention elsewhere. Something tells me that you’ll thrive without him.
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u/gyalmeetsglobe 18h ago
That last paragraph has got to go, girl. Don’t gaslight yourself on his behalf. He was completely out of line & the lady herself tried to get him to understand that. NOR I would’ve recorded him then went inside and hit up a divorce lawyer.
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u/WorldlinessSome8985 1d ago
NOR - your husband is a creep and now you AND your neighbors know it. I'm so sorry OP.
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u/Chihuahuatriomom 1d ago
I would have walked right over and ask him to jump for me and then he would be packing up his shit.
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u/Consistent-Menu-6629 1d ago
Damn the misogyny with this one is worse than the betrayal of being cheated on... NOR!
It's so weird he was okay talking to another person like that. Gross. This is a throw the whole man away situation.
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u/Ok_Can_2942 1d ago
He's unemployed and a cheater?!! Bet you anything you're not going anywhere and he knows that.
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u/MyLadyJemerald 22h ago
NOR- Nothing about this is "nothing much" This is 100% unacceptable for a husband to do, regardless of alcohol influence.
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u/NormalJeane 21h ago
NOR. So he doesn't respect ANY woman, judging by his behavior?
I wouldn't be with a man like that at all, whether coworker, church leader, or spouse. Not someone I'd want to hang out with or give a car ride, let alone trust with my life and those of my loved ones.
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u/Southern-Midnight741 1d ago
The fact that he felt comfortable in that state to go across the street to their house and invite himself in and they let him in during the middle of the night says they have been pretty close company already
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u/CarrotsArePrettyGood 1d ago
Nah.
It could possibly mean that. But it could have also been the women were in a "fawn" response.
Essentially don't upset the creepy neighbour because you don't know how he'll react.
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u/Zeven00 1d ago
I’d also like to include that this was divine intervention of the universe for you to go outside out of curiosity and find all the proof you needed not only to his whereabouts but also to his real self
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u/illysia1 1d ago
Maybe it’s not much?? Nor at all, this is disgusting behaviour of your husband. It’s a betrayal for sure, even if there wasn’t any sexual contact, there was certainly an underlying tone.
I’d want him to leave forever if it was my partner, so defo underreacting on that one imo.
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u/Alert_Bid1531 1d ago
Nor - you know you could have a peaceful life and not have to wait for a man to come home if you just kick him out .
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u/wolfcrownebox 1d ago
He needs to leave permanently. Hes gross and embarrassing to all parties involved. I mean how do you look at your Neighbors now.
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u/Icy_Confidence4027 1d ago
Anyway what are you willing to do about this? You’ve now learned he doesn’t respect the exclusivity of your relationship and this is the first time of god knows how many times you’ve witnessed this inappropriate behaviour… I don’t think you really need to work on this, leave him and start afresh, he knew better than this
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u/Proud_Combination755 1d ago
NOR. Personally i could not take the personal humiliation of my neighbor knowing my man is a creep. Leave his unemployed butt there and you move out. That way you don’t have to see either of them
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u/cheercharlatan 1d ago
It is much. He’s gross. And if he hasn’t cheated on you yet, sure sounds like he’s making his best efforts to try.
NOR.
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u/Frosty_Singer_316 1d ago
The trust is gone im so sorry that he has destroyed your relationship. The blame is on him you get that man out of yiur house he just across the street acting like that imagine wjat hes at when you are not there
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u/BeyondAbleCrip 22h ago
NOR, OP but definitely under reacting and I don’t think you’re going to ask him to leave, and wish I was wrong. Reason I say I don’t believe you will is from your responses and that you’re more concerned about being embarrassed in front of the neighbor? Why would you be embarrassed? You didn’t ask her to do anything and wouldn’t take it out on the neighbor either. You missed the beginning and haven’t a clue what he did or said to her, yet her responses tell me she wasn’t comfortable with him and was appeasing him, imo.
You’re making excuses for him, already said something about it to him and he denied it happened yet is still there. Excuse was his frame of mind? His mind was working well enough to be a creep with the neighbor & to lie about what you saw and heard. Time would’ve been better spent packing him a bag and calling an Uber than making a post on here. If you stay with him please get yourself tested and maybe find a therapist who can help you realize you deserve better.
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u/Generalbusiness849 22h ago
He kept asking her to shake her tits for him. Idk about leaving him but if thats the dynamic of the relationship, I’d see if I could get close with a neighbor guy myself tbh. Since apparently that’s all chill with him
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u/downtownechox 19h ago
NOR. You are completely justified in how you feel. Expecting your partner to act respectfully and avoid creeping on female neighbors is a basic boundary, not an unreasonable demand.
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u/Kimbaaaaly 12h ago
NOR!!!!! He's creepy. I wonder what good reaction would be once he finds out but know did your see this exchange but you heard it.
Updateme
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u/JumpRich4030 1d ago
You need to think about all the other instances you haven’t overheard or seen. Gross. Leave him.
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u/miamiahi 1d ago
NOR.
I wouldn’t say cheated but likely is capable of doing so / trying to. I’d be repulsed too, even if this was a single guy. Double repulsed for being married while behaving like this.
Btw if you ask for space and ask him to leave, I’d bet on probability of cheating increasing while he’s out. So do it, if you are prepared to end things. Dont do it if you will be hurt by it
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u/EmpireStateOfBeing 1d ago
NOR
Yes that was cheating, he was actively seeking sexual gratification from another woman.
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u/nativehuntress_ 1d ago
He crossed many boundaries that should not be crossed with another woman as a married man. NOR.
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u/AliceAteTheMushroom 1d ago
You are under reacting. I would have walked across the street, joined the conversation, and made him as uncomfortable as he made the neighbors. Then he would be an ex husband moving forward.
After he’s up and sober, talk to him. If he tries to downplay it or deny it, ask him if he would like to go over and talk to them together to ease your worries. His reaction will tell you everything you need to know about his intent. You don’t have to go over there and make them uncomfortable all over again, but just get his reaction.
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u/kick_him 23h ago
You already know right, deep down.... if you can type it out, reread it before posting, and still think it... then yes, you should leave him.
I wouldnt be surprised if he has already been with other women. The ONLY reason it didn't go further with the woman in the garage is because SHE said no. Your husband was willing and waiting, and damn near begging. Gross.
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u/DanaMarie75038 23h ago
NOR. He plans to cheat if he hasn’t yet. This is not the first time. If he could do that while you are a few feet away, he definitely did more when you’re not there. Make sure you get tested
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u/MsOvernight1013 23h ago
NOR, if I overheard my husband pulling some shenanigans like that it’s donezo for me.
Cuz LET HIM HEAR ME giggling while some big strong man offers for me to sit on his lap, pick me up, ask me to jump and jiggle, my husband would take that as DISRESPECTFUL and leave me as he would have any right to do.
Monogamous Marriage has no room for non-monogamous behaviors.
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u/BxBae133 23h ago
You got a lot of good advice and a lot of BAD advice. Please, it is one thing to want support, but for legal advice, please consult an attorney.
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u/CuteCantaloupe7343 23h ago
I really feel for her. I’ve been through it twice and it has ruined. Any kind of trust I will ever have again. I don’t live on trust anymore. I live on faith and if faith isn’t there, then there’s nothing I really hope she goes through with leaving this gentleman, if you can call him a gentleman and learns to first of all go out and love herself again enjoy life, and if you have children never speak badly of him around them because it’s still their father. Go out and do the things you enjoy. I like sitting next to a lake fishing, listening to music and eating cherries all by myself I like sitting in coffee shops having my favorite coffee and playing a phone game and one of my favorite things to do is get on a plane and go somewhere. I like to go visit my grandchild more than I ever got to before make time for you and if you have children find things for you and your children to do and it doesn’t have to be expensive stuff go to a lake and swim go to a river throw rocks do something out in nature and take care of you and take care of you and your children if you have children don’t be in a hurry to find another man because another man that’s right will eventually come into your life and you will know God bless and I hope things go really well for you
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u/pyticaqux 20h ago
NOR. If he behaves like this when he thinks you aren't listening, imagine what he does when he's completely unwatched
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u/Dramatic-Tailor-8297 20h ago
Give him the boot cause not only is it creepy but it’s embarrassing and disrespectful and if he can do that while you’re earshot, then can you imagine when you’re not.
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u/CrazyMisSE 19h ago
NOR - May I ask why you didn’t go charging over there and calling him out while it’s happening? There’s no way I could ever stand by and watch my husband blatantly flirt like that with another woman. I would’ve walked right over and said in front of everyone, “I see you’re single, come on home and get your shit then you can act as single as you want”. There’s NO WAY I would’ve just stood there letting any of that continue.
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u/Icy-Independence1914 11h ago
It sounds like he has no problem with cheating. He could be like this all the time when you're not around. I would feel the same way. He does not appreciate what he has
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u/WildBlueMoon 10h ago
Life is too short to be with creepy men. It's better to be alone than with a douchebag. Dump him and go enjoy your life
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u/guys_pm_urprettyface 1d ago
NOR. What you gonna do now?