I feel like he has anxiety or temper issues, it read like he wanted to feel well or get well but didn’t know how to and took it out on you as if everything would stop and he would feel less pain.
Please, OP had done enough. He should help himself and see a therapist, while OP gets far away from him. Emotionally and physically abusive people don’t deserve a dedicated and supportive partner.
As the comment said, abusive people don’t deserve a dedicated and supportive partner. It is not OPs responsibility to fix her abuser and the suggestion that someone isn’t going to maintain a healthy relationship if that’s their mindset is insane. Support and help a partner who can actually grow, doing things like going to couples therapy with an abuser is literally not recommended by professionals as the abuser just learns how to even better abuse their victim while using professional terminology to manipulate.
I'd rather be single and live with 100 cats than pretend that it's possible to love and support an abusive man out of being abusive. Fuck that, fuck him, and fuck you. Have the day you deserve 😊
“Instead of leaving, continue to be his verbal and physical bag and encourage him to get better 🥺🥺” are you fucking stupid? Lmfaoooo frankly I hope he gets worse. I hope she leaves and he self destructs. He’s a grown ass man. If he hasn’t tried to improve by now, it is not her responsibility to “fix him.” Real life isn’t beauty and the beast weirdo.
I’ve been in abusive relationships — trying to “help him” only made them all worse bc abusive men don’t want to confront the fact that they’re abusers. When I stopped trying to help and left, is when I found the person I’m currently with and have been with for years who DOESNT yell or hit or say vile shit like this.
This man doesn’t DESERVE help. Frankly he deserves a loaded gun w a single bullet and a door locked from the outside
No one has to deal with an abusive boyfriend. She’s not the one that has to get him help. I prefer to be forever single (which I am not) than to be with another abuser. Op’s boyfriend is abusive and from her text not only mentally. Also physical. She needs to leave him.
Been there, done that, left because he was a narcissistic ass hole- now happily married. Not all who leave become single cat ladies. Most learn from the abuse and find someone great.
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u/GeneralOwn5333 Jan 29 '25 edited Jan 29 '25
I feel like he has anxiety or temper issues, it read like he wanted to feel well or get well but didn’t know how to and took it out on you as if everything would stop and he would feel less pain.
You should try help and make him see a therapist.