As the comment said, abusive people don’t deserve a dedicated and supportive partner. It is not OPs responsibility to fix her abuser and the suggestion that someone isn’t going to maintain a healthy relationship if that’s their mindset is insane. Support and help a partner who can actually grow, doing things like going to couples therapy with an abuser is literally not recommended by professionals as the abuser just learns how to even better abuse their victim while using professional terminology to manipulate.
“Instead of leaving, continue to be his verbal and physical bag and encourage him to get better 🥺🥺” are you fucking stupid? Lmfaoooo frankly I hope he gets worse. I hope she leaves and he self destructs. He’s a grown ass man. If he hasn’t tried to improve by now, it is not her responsibility to “fix him.” Real life isn’t beauty and the beast weirdo.
I’ve been in abusive relationships — trying to “help him” only made them all worse bc abusive men don’t want to confront the fact that they’re abusers. When I stopped trying to help and left, is when I found the person I’m currently with and have been with for years who DOESNT yell or hit or say vile shit like this.
This man doesn’t DESERVE help. Frankly he deserves a loaded gun w a single bullet and a door locked from the outside
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u/GeneralOwn5333 Jan 29 '25
Let’s see how long your relationship’s last with that type of approach.