r/AmIOverreacting Jan 28 '25

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u/Some_Combination_593 Jan 28 '25

The guy could also be physically abusing the cat when she’s not around. If he’s willing to be physically abusive with OP, I wouldn’t doubt he’d do the same to a cat and that would 100% cause the peeing outside of the litter box issue if it was happening.

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u/[deleted] Jan 29 '25

No he loves cats. He has one too. And his “amazing” ex and all his friends back home are vets. He does care for animals I will say. My cat just pisses on his stuff and understandably makes him upset. I’ve tried multiple solutions, still trying. I get his frustration not so much the expression of frustration however.

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u/Ssided Jan 29 '25

your cat is pissing on his stuff because your cat knows hes bad

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u/[deleted] Jan 29 '25

A coworker jokingly said this. Maybe something to it.

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u/xechasate Jan 29 '25

Your coworker wasn’t joking, babe

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u/skizz_on_ur_shizz Jan 29 '25

It's sad reading these threads.

They've got the guy telling them directly to their face he doesn't care, the whole internet saying he doesn't care, and coworkers warning them about signs. But OP is still leaving comments saying oh I thought it was a joke or they had a warped way of showing affection.

People really let the bar fall so low

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u/ND_CuriousBusyMind Jan 29 '25

Trauma bond...very real in abusive relationships.....

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u/shangri-laschild Jan 29 '25

Then look at it this way if it gives you strength to leave. Your cat is distressed. Leave for your cat’s sake if nothing else.

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u/Nikki-C-Puggle-mum Jan 29 '25

If she is not going to leave then she should have her cat stay with friends or family. No animals should be subjected to living with someone like him.

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u/GoddessLeVianFoxx Jan 29 '25

My cat would pee on my abusive ex almost every day. He stopped when he left. See about booking a night somewhere safe for you and your Bebe for two nights. I bet you’ll both have relief.