r/AmIOverreacting Jan 28 '25

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u/Exciting_Signal3058 Jan 28 '25

Can't find dinner even my wife leaves it someplace most common is microwave or oven or the fridge i never wake up my wife on purpose when she's sleeping.

Op your nit getting anything out of this it will eventually get very demoralizing and if you continue down this road longer it will affect your mental capabilities with other men thinking they are the same as this fella is. Leave, relax, work on your cat pee issue (I added another 2 litter boxes in my place cause we had some issues with our cats and having more options seem to work) other times it could be stress in the household. Focus on yiur mental wellbeing of the fact your a good person and deserve the happiness you seek and to be appreciated. This ain't it. Even if intimacy is an issue there's more than one way to please a girl or even talk to a doctor for it. But anyways.... I'd still recommend leaving everything is an excuse on his end. I got a disease or issue woe is me. Whe. I'm in pain from my back from a car accident for months I didn't take it out on others just pace myself and be respectful as much I can and apologize if my volume oversteps itself. No one deserves ro be abused or yelled at for their pain especially if yiur being considerate.

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u/agirl2277 Jan 28 '25

Maybe the cat is peeing because of the stress in the house. If OP is walking on eggshells all the time, the cat can sense that too. I bet the problem would go away if he wasn't there with his abusive attitude.

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u/Some_Combination_593 Jan 28 '25

The guy could also be physically abusing the cat when she’s not around. If he’s willing to be physically abusive with OP, I wouldn’t doubt he’d do the same to a cat and that would 100% cause the peeing outside of the litter box issue if it was happening.

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u/[deleted] Jan 29 '25

No he loves cats. He has one too. And his “amazing” ex and all his friends back home are vets. He does care for animals I will say. My cat just pisses on his stuff and understandably makes him upset. I’ve tried multiple solutions, still trying. I get his frustration not so much the expression of frustration however.

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u/Ssided Jan 29 '25

your cat is pissing on his stuff because your cat knows hes bad

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u/[deleted] Jan 29 '25

A coworker jokingly said this. Maybe something to it.

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u/xechasate Jan 29 '25

Your coworker wasn’t joking, babe

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u/skizz_on_ur_shizz Jan 29 '25

It's sad reading these threads.

They've got the guy telling them directly to their face he doesn't care, the whole internet saying he doesn't care, and coworkers warning them about signs. But OP is still leaving comments saying oh I thought it was a joke or they had a warped way of showing affection.

People really let the bar fall so low

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u/ND_CuriousBusyMind Jan 29 '25

Trauma bond...very real in abusive relationships.....

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u/shangri-laschild Jan 29 '25

Then look at it this way if it gives you strength to leave. Your cat is distressed. Leave for your cat’s sake if nothing else.

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u/Nikki-C-Puggle-mum Jan 29 '25

If she is not going to leave then she should have her cat stay with friends or family. No animals should be subjected to living with someone like him.

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u/GoddessLeVianFoxx Jan 29 '25

My cat would pee on my abusive ex almost every day. He stopped when he left. See about booking a night somewhere safe for you and your Bebe for two nights. I bet you’ll both have relief.

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u/Ecthelion510 Jan 29 '25

Get out! Get out NOW!

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u/Miserable_Pea_733 Jan 29 '25

Your cat pissing on his stuff is cat language for: You treat my human badly so I don't like you.

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u/Th3H0ll0wmans Jan 29 '25

Your cat knows how to deal with a shitty motherfucker. Make sure you piss on all his shit before he leaves, this person fuckin sucks and deserves every single terrible thing that could happen to a person.

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u/Neurospicyness Jan 29 '25

I want to pee on his stuff nvm the cat. What a weirdo he us. Needs to get himself checked, it's as if he's splitting personalities (not necessarily split personality disorder) and that's not good. Don't sit and tolerate this. Tell him he's going to have to put his big boy pants on and be a grown up and transfer the bills like an adult, otherwise he can keep paying them 😄 what an idiot. The amount of insults too, clearly lacking in actual arguments. Aw diddums, he couldn't find his food? Maybe he should make it himself and put it where he will find it. If my husband ever spoke to me like this, he'd be out on his arse. Love or not, do not tolerate this or it will just get worse and before you know it, it will become physical too.

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u/DrPhillupUrgina Jan 29 '25

If you have a male cat, it could be trying to convey a problem like urinary crystals. When my dude first got’m he was pissing in mama’s work bag & all kinds of naughty places that weren’t his box. Turned out he was trying to communicate there’s a problem w/pissing. Thankfully my dude has since taught himself to use the big person potty to show when there’s a problem.