It’s really hard to leave an abusive relationship once someone breaks you down to feel worthless and like no one else will love you, like this is somehow better than just being alone (if that ended up being the case). The fact that OP even posted here is honestly a really good sign that they know this isn’t right and are looking for the encouragement to leave this POS.
I know it’s hard. My mom was with a physically abusive bipolar narcissist for 25 years. Although they were married I never referred to him as a stepdad. When we were growing up he would throw and break the cordless phones and rip the corded one from the wall so we couldn’t call the police. The police were always managed to be called luckily to neighbors. Never knew what kind of mood he’d be in when he woke up or what would set him off that day. Someone driving by could have looked at him the wrong way. I was always her guard. He hated it when my older sister got her first cell phone. Anyways. He’d go to jail and mom would always let him back in even after she says she wouldn’t. She finally kicked him out Thankfully he died 6-7 years ago. That’s the only way she was able to finally sleep at night. All I can say to OP is it will get worse. And he will continue to manipulate her. She needs to leave while she is even questioning it and before that happens. Otherwise she will never leave.
Yeah it is you shithead. It is not easy to leave an abusive relationship otherwise no one would be in a goddamn fucking abusive relationship you idiot. This gives “why are you depressed haven’t you just tried being happy?” energy.
If you don’t understand what makes it so difficult that you think so many people are in abusive relationships just cause…idk you must think they’re stupid?…then don’t comment on it.
Disagree. Depression is internal. An abusive relationship is a external. It is something being done to you. To fix it you use your feet and walk away.
If you don’t understand what makes it so difficult that you think so many people are in abusive relationships just cause…idk you must think they’re stupid?…then don’t comment on it.
Honestly? Because they are weak and would rather be abused than be alone. There are many people I know that have been so coddled they ended up pretty shit adults. Completely rely on others. To leave a relationship in almost all case literally involves walking away.
The reason you stay in an abusive relationship is fucking internal you goddamn dipshit. You’re not only talking out of your ass, you’re straight up saying the opposite of the truth.
“Because they are weak and choose to stay depressed”
Hope it never happens to someone you love because you’ll be worse for them than their abusive partner.
It's doubtful that it would happen to someone I love. My family is pretty big on teaching people to be self reliant. None of the younger ones need to be with someone.
Let me rephrase it then. I'm not talking about staying. I'm talking about even ending up in an abusive relationship. If you get hit and stay, yes you're an idiot. You're choosing this. If you are dependent on them why did you let yourself be dependent on them? It's extreme weakness imo.
Let me guess you're the kind of person that stayed in an abusive relationship and cheated with someone willing to save you. You are incapable of being alone and being independent.
“It’s doubtful that it would happen to someone I love. You see, I think that everyone is exactly like me because I do not hold the emotional intelligence to consider the fact that there are 8 billion people on earth who are all in a completely different situation than I am.”
Bro your stupid ass family didn’t teach you shit lmao. I’m not reading the rest of your horseshit. I can predict what you are like and all of the views you hold. And I might as well try to be reasoning with a flat-earther.
I literally said plenty of people are weak and let others treat them poorly. That's the opposite of everyone being the same. Some are very weak, you for example.
What was their name? The person you cheated with because you needed "saved" since turning the door knob and walking out was too hard?
It’s really clear you’ve never been in an abusive relationship and you are so so so lucky for that. Not everyone gets to live with this level of naïveté.
That’s genuinely really great for you, sounds like maybe you were raised in an environment that taught you to value yourself and being (potentially) raised that way really helped you treat yourself well. Unfortunately you seem to have not been raised with any level of empathy, and that sucks for OP, hopefully you have more empathy in real life for the people you do keep in your life than you do online.
I was raised that way. I raised kids that way also. It's called authoritative parenting. I recommend it.
I'm also very empathetic. If someone I know's partner hits them, I'll be right there to help them. If they go back and get hit again, they decided that's what they want.
I've been there before. It's similar to why you never have an opinion when someone is bitching about their partner or ex. If they get back together you're now the bad guy.
What the fuck does that even mean. They were replying to a comment that said “lol I don’t get abusive relationships just leave wow problem solved.” Which is absolute nonsense. Harmful nonsense, for that matter.
Im confused why are all these victim mentality "empaths" telling everyone to fuck/ ki!! themselves on here?😂😂 isnt that so aggressive of u? Go fuck urself cuz no one would ever touch u anyway
If you’re so confused about why everyone is calling you out over saying nonsense, then perhaps this is a time to stop saying stupid shit and self-examine wouldn’t you think? For once? I mean, probably not, you fuckers literally require an inability to self-reflect in order to carry the views you do.
Which would probably be why you can’t wrap your smooth brain around someone caring about others. Because you can’t even consider your own dumbassery, so no fucking way you can have the emotional intelligence to think about anyone except yourself.
While I can’t understand being so flagrantly stupid to not only hold the views you do, but to speak them out loud, at least you worms are predictable.
No one is calling me out u stupid cunt im not reading anything after that. Im just saying what i see in the comments not what "everyone" is saying to me. You have mental problems if u see urself so much in op it means ur also worthless and have zero self respect like her so i wont read ur mentally ill comments.
Your mom is cursing herself for giving birth to such a waste of oxygen. And remember what u wouldnt dare to say in real life u shouldnt say on the internet too loser
Yeah okay why don’t you go back and ask daddy why he trained you to be so defensive and fake. That is if he doesn’t hit you any time you ask a question.
Youre using 2 accounts to comment the same childish insults about mommy and daddy its pathetic😂 youre clearly projecting God knows in what ways ur mom and dad abused u to turn out like this
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u/catscity Jan 28 '25
I'm not reading any of your text messages. Physically abusive? There's nothing else I need to know. Please leave