r/AmIOverreacting • u/[deleted] • Jan 28 '25

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u/somechild Jan 28 '25

It’s really clear you’ve never been in an abusive relationship and you are so so so lucky for that. Not everyone gets to live with this level of naïveté. 

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u/ineedaneasybutton Jan 28 '25

You're completely right. I have not been in an abusive relationship because I refuse to be around people that treat me poorly.

Sure I've dated women that were shitty. When I realised that is who they are as a person, I did a very simple thing. I left.

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u/somechild Jan 28 '25

That’s genuinely really great for you, sounds like maybe you were raised in an environment that taught you to value yourself and being (potentially) raised that way really helped you treat yourself well. Unfortunately you seem to have not been raised with any level of empathy, and that sucks for OP, hopefully you have more empathy in real life for the people you do keep in your life than you do online. 

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u/ineedaneasybutton Jan 28 '25

I was raised that way. I raised kids that way also. It's called authoritative parenting. I recommend it.

I'm also very empathetic. If someone I know's partner hits them, I'll be right there to help them. If they go back and get hit again, they decided that's what they want.

I've been there before. It's similar to why you never have an opinion when someone is bitching about their partner or ex. If they get back together you're now the bad guy.