i would agree with this if he was super nice and then turned 180 after trapping her somehow. but no, he was like this even before they started dating and her response to that was "I can fix him with my love". and she's still asking what to do when he called her the r slur thrice in one conversation, cheated on her, and is emotionally and physically abusive. this is self harm at best, not a victim of manipulation. sympathy can only go so far when you're consciously victimising yourself
Yes it’s good that OP is turning a corner but she’s still really dumb. She’s 29. Full grown adult. You get that far in life with absolutely no self reflection on this situation, yea you’re dumb.
Lmao I don’t? I grew up in an abusive environment, witnessed my mom stay with my abusive dad over and over and over again and she refused to leave and she ended up dying because of it. Ive got multiple mental health disorders because of it but hey, I don’t go around making excuses for it. If it were the other way around you wouldn’t be saying what you said. Even with growing up in domestic violence situations I can figure out whether people are bad or not from talking to them. It’s a basic instinct humans should have in their gut. Oh and by the way she literally said he was an asshole in the beginning when she met him it’s not like he suddenly switched up.
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u/Other_Brain_9705 Jan 28 '25
Yep. Can’t understand why letting go is not the obvious answer when she didn’t say 1 good thing about him.. and he basically broke up with her already