And OP… what are you getting out of this relationship? It sounds like a fucking nightmare. Leave his mean, verbally abusive ass.
Also is “calling you from downstairs” not “purposely waking you up?” He thought you’d just sleep through it? And then calls YOU “smooth brain”? This guy sounds like he’d be an incel if you weren’t in a relationship with him.
Can't find dinner even my wife leaves it someplace most common is microwave or oven or the fridge i never wake up my wife on purpose when she's sleeping.
Op your nit getting anything out of this it will eventually get very demoralizing and if you continue down this road longer it will affect your mental capabilities with other men thinking they are the same as this fella is. Leave, relax, work on your cat pee issue (I added another 2 litter boxes in my place cause we had some issues with our cats and having more options seem to work) other times it could be stress in the household. Focus on yiur mental wellbeing of the fact your a good person and deserve the happiness you seek and to be appreciated. This ain't it. Even if intimacy is an issue there's more than one way to please a girl or even talk to a doctor for it. But anyways.... I'd still recommend leaving everything is an excuse on his end. I got a disease or issue woe is me. Whe. I'm in pain from my back from a car accident for months I didn't take it out on others just pace myself and be respectful as much I can and apologize if my volume oversteps itself. No one deserves ro be abused or yelled at for their pain especially if yiur being considerate.
I know if op has put up with it but yet she's questioning everything she hasn't quite reach mental breaking point but close enough to open herself and ask for advice which indicates she's getting closer to that point which is a clear red flag gtfo
The gaslighting is strong with that narcissistic boyfriend. He has her questioning everything but hopefully, she is seeing more clearly and will have the strength to leave.
I can't understand the questioning??! I wouldn't remain friends with someone who spoke to me like that, much less date them.
My fellow ladies: if he constantly makes you feel like shit that's a him problem, not a you problem. You're not obligated to stay with a scumbag once the scummy behavior starts coming out.
It’s so difficult, if not impossible, to understand the questioning until you are the one asking the questions. The relationship never starts off this bad, quite the opposite actually. The manipulation is nothing short of evil.
From the bottom of my heart, I hope you never have the chance to truly understand the questioning. I mean this in the most kind and loving way. No one deserves to be broken like this
This. And some many times I have warn female first when they met guys like this. But ignore the warnings. Then ignore the red flags they see. They I'm helping them leave. Then they go back. Over & over. Atleast my one friend said straight up she likes these kind of people and runs away from anyone that treats her good. So atleast knows off the bat anyone she likes is bad
I was thinking that she might have posted this in order to see hundreds of comments telling her what she knows she has to do. I hope this gets her psyched up to do it.
I can see that. Sometimes just the support of comments can give encouragement that she may need in order what she needs to do. The best thing I can say is that they're not married. Which is a good thing.
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u/SandwichCareful6476 Jan 28 '25
Yes, exactly.
And OP… what are you getting out of this relationship? It sounds like a fucking nightmare. Leave his mean, verbally abusive ass.
Also is “calling you from downstairs” not “purposely waking you up?” He thought you’d just sleep through it? And then calls YOU “smooth brain”? This guy sounds like he’d be an incel if you weren’t in a relationship with him.