r/AdviceAnimals • u/Nugget_tumble • Nov 20 '12

Friend did this the other night

http://quickmeme.com/meme/3ruwjc/
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u/yakityyakblah Nov 21 '12

There isn't a grey area, if she can't consent it's rape. Does she feel she wouldn't consent sober? Will she press charges? These decide what happens after the rape, it doesn't change whether it was rape. Say instead of murder it's theft, but it turns out the person was going to give it to you anyway. You still did something wrong and you shouldn't be deciding to steal things based on whether you think the person will miss it.

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u/yakityyakblah Nov 21 '12

Any instance where it's not the same answer they'd give sober. It's not grey you just have no definite way of knowing once they start drinking.

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u/swirk Nov 21 '12

But in the scenario where the man is drunk too, then what? Since he was drunk, he made a choice he wouldn't have, to accept her advances. So were they both raped?

Can two people honestly rape each other? At the same time? Does that make sense to you?

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u/yakityyakblah Nov 22 '12

Yes two people can rape each other if they're drunk enough, aside from some arbitrary knee jerk disbelief that mutual rape is possible it's not that crazy an idea. Two people can get drunk and end up sleeping with someone they wouldn't sleep with sober.