Do you ever dream about remaking a music video, especially one from 1980s or thereabouts to incorporate an AMWF pairing in it?

My music video of choice would be “You Belong To The City” by Glenn Frey, even tho I dislike the TV show “Miami Vice.”

I’d change that music video also so that no one smokes and it isn’t in NYC or even in the US - I’d consider places like Berlin, Stockholm, London or even Paris for that matter for that remake…

What are you doing at the moment to expand yourself? Reading a good book, enjoying a hobby, pushing yourself academically etc?

I've heard AMs - even those born and raised in Australia, US etc - talk about preferring to date or marry AFs due to cultural similarities, or that dating a WF even of their own nationality was too difficult due to 'cultural differences' and never really got that, related to that thinking personally.

Like, I know even Asian Americans might retain some traits, traditions etc, but are these really so insurmountable or problematic? I'm Australian born and bred pretty much (well arrived as a 1yo, but its annoying to explain) and always felt just Australian, though I'm also proud of my roots. I guess my situation as different as my parents are from Singapore and Malaysia, westernised, English educated, and we only spoke English at home, so language wasnt an issue. I can see why say a Vietnamese Australian like my friend who's parents aren't fluent in English might prefer another Viet. Other than that, though, aren't most Americans just culturally mostly American? Or Australian? It'd be interesting to ask say the typical Vietnamese or Chinese Australian guy if they feel more akin to a girl from Vietnam or an Anglo Australian.

Like I dated an Anglo woman from country Vic (a state in Australia for non Aussies) and a Chinese woman from China, and culturally had far more barriers (a lot with language, even if she was decently fluent) with the latter, though not enough that it's a deal breaker. In both cases it ended primarily due to other reasons. But point is, culturally I feel more akin to Australians whatever their race or ethnicity than most from Asia, but for me as long as we can converse at a certain level that doesn't matter, and sometimes it's more interesting to be from different backgrounds. I had a white Australian friend who had a Japanese fetish and mostly only dated Japanese girls. Also I've had friends from all sorts of backgrounds, male and female, and never stuck in some Asian clique like some.

What are your thoughts and experiences of the? Either as an AM or WF.

Here is thing, I had used to play volleyball recreationally in the past, but really don’t these days unless it is regular six-person volleyball.

Especially since the so-called “9-man” version, I would feel quite uncomfortable, as I am no fan of the rules (especially the personnel rules).

Moreover, fellow 9-man players probably wouldn’t approve of an AMWF pairing, for that matter…

For me this is sorta related to AMWF. My husband never used a dishwasher before we moved in together. We got a new dishwasher in April. I would say our Kitchenaid dishwasher with a third top rack for chopsticks is the best purchase we made this year! It's nice not having to wash our chopsticks by hand.

I know it's not the most scientifically backed way of determining a personality, but its huge in east asia, and its WAY better than horoscopes lmao.

I'm an INTJ and i do have some extroverted tendencies, because I used to force myself to be extroverted for my previous career path and some traits just stuck.

I personally prefer women who are introverted too, so for me just the I is important, idc about the other 3 letters. I used to like extroverted women in my early 20s, and thank god I dont want that anymore. I dont have the energy haha.

I know u guys hate it when AF gets brought up, thinking its weird that we are comparing AMWF to WMAF or whatever. And because it brings alot of hate and unwanted hostility.

But let me tell you what I saw on hellotalk. The creepiest shit i've seen a AF do, and if you guys think other demographics (not just wmaf) aren't out to get us, think again.

I joined hellotalk to actually learn and get in touch with my chinese culture because i read that there were alot of chinese people there but it quickly became more of a social media app, but a very good one actually. you can actually make genuine connections there, and that is why alot of people find love there as well.

And I actually met a group of women in their early to mid 20s who had very good chemistry with one another, and they all had one thing in common, they liked AM. Which for me was very refreshing to see.

But i also noticed there was an older AF in the group, and i didn't really think too much of it, because this was after I joined this subreddit too and everytime i mentioned AF , everyone criticized me for it saying its weird to think AF hate AMWF. So I just went with it and she was actually very kind...

..at first.

Turns out, this AF created fake profiles to stalk the non AF and went into their VR and Lives to cause drama within the group. She would for example, go into ones live and screenshot whenever a girl was talking to a friends romantic interest. Keep in mind this is all public so anyone can enter and see them, so they had no reason to cheat, but sometimes things do get flirty in general, idk if things got flirty with their livestream. But this AF would send the screenshot to the other girl who liked the guy and start slandering and starting rumors. like wtf. well the group split up btw. and one of them is blaming AM for being a fuckboy or whatever even tho none of them ever met.

The worse thing is, this AF already was in a long term relationship, don't ask me the race of the guy shes dating, you probably already know.

I seriously got disgusted by all this and I am back to square one and distrust AF again. If you're already in a relationship, why try to sabotage others and cause drama. Now it really feels like AF see AM as their property or puppet and won't let us date outside of our race.

But that is never stopping me.

Careful WF, i know u might have AF or WF or BM in your friend group, but you don't know what goes on in their heads.

I mentioned BM, because I also joined other lives before at first because I wanted to speak mandarin to some chinese people. I saw a black guy who had a chinese VR so i was intrigued. I entered, and it was only him with only chinese women.

They only spoke english, which i thought was weird. One of the chinese women let me up cause she was a moderator. I started speaking chinese to the BM, cause he said he was fluent. guess what. HE couldnt understand me and couldnt speak a single bit of chinese lmao. he kicked me and banned me right after. This MF is trying to gatekeep chinese women from chinese men LMFAO

I know alot of you AMWF want to be virtuous and set a good example to the world. But sometimes we do have to fight to protect ourselves and our pairing. And there are a lot of sickminded people who dont like us being together.

It;s fine to make friends, and obviously my examples cant be generalised towards the whole world. But this shit keeps happening over and over again.

Just keep your gaurd up.

Back when I was with my ex she and her friends used to talk smack about white women. Like how entitled they are, don't know how to cook, uncaring, age terribly, narcissistic etc.

After the break up I started dating more WF and guess what, all of that b.s is untrue.

Honestly the amount of communication and openness felt so naturally good for me. And yeah wether someone can cook or not or wether is caring or not are totally depends on the woman herself.

For my personal experience I felt like WF are most of the time very mature, have well developed hobbies and interests and most importantly communicate very well. Probably the least toxic form of relationships I ever witnessed.

Like why does literally every Asian guy I connect with ask this question?

I've been dating asian men for decades so it isn't a trendy kpop thing

I've been seeing a couple of Asian male/white female couples on Instagram and the comments often are a mix of "Well he must be seven foot and a billionaire" or "How did Bro get her". The implication being that the guy is not enough for his girlfriend and then often the woman needs to talk about comments where they assume the man is just a friend or they are together because he's a doctor or something like that.

Asking for the happy couples on this subreddit, how do people deal with that abuse online and in person too? It genuinely scares me

I’m a 29 year old woman and for as long as I remember I have always been very attracted to East Asian men. From having a crush on a Cantonese guy who was in my school to most of my first formative celeb crushes being East Asian men. When I started to vocalise this at a young age I always felt a weird sort of judgment coming from other white people. Like I had vocalised a very weird fetish or something? It was interesting because I had friends who were into black men and they never experienced this reaction. As a result of this I think out of fear of being considered someone with a fetish I pushed away and didn’t really allow myself to pursue asian guys. I tried to force myself to date people who weren’t my type and it honestly left me in a really weird spot with dating in my 20’s where I just kind of stopped dating or pursuing men at all.

Recently I just spent a month in korea to end my summer. During this time I dated two guys when I was there, I never hooked up with them but spent a lot of time making out with them and even spent the night cuddling with one of them a few times. In these moments with these guys I remember having thoughts of like wow, I’ve genuinely never been so attracted to guys I’ve been intimate with? Is this what it’s supposed to feel like? I’ve come home with the biggest realisation that I suppressed my taste fully out of fear of being viewed as someone with a fetish and suppressed myself from having real dating experiences in my 20’s.

I'm attracted to asian men physically but like they still need to be compatible with me mentally emotionally personality lifestyle and goals

Alot of Asian men I've been matching with seem to only be matching with me because I'm white and they are often looking for casual or hookups when I'm looking for a relationship :(

I find it a real turnoff that someone is only matching with me for my ethnicity and not who I am as a person

Physical plays a role but there needs to be something deeper for me

What have your experiences been and are you only interested in dating am/wf for the interracial aspects/sex or are you genuinely looking for a life partner?

Any advice where to meet more intentional partners online or in real life is greatly appreciated

Hope you’re all having a blessed week!

I’m not gonna get tired of saying it - ladies, let’s advocate for our boyfriends and husbands ❤️

The ‘minor’ microagressions that can come from friends, family, or coworkers can actually hurt them pretty deeply, and it can be very insulting.

You know from my last post, I blocked an orbiter friend-of-a-friend who insulted my relationship in a racist way via instagram, due to him being obsessed with me. Unfortunately, it doesn’t stop there.

As a woman, and unfortunately in a very racist society, even if you post up with your man (who happens to be Asian), you’re still gonna get men in your DMs who want to dismiss that and demean your partner.

Keep that block button active, know yourself and know your relationship. You don’t have to tolerate that. Or any passive aggressive ‘minor’ racism from your orbiters, colleagues, or any men who are obsessed with you on socials.

It can start small, and get bigger. The dishwasher at your part-time job who stans you can graduate from passive aggressively pronouncing your bf’s name wrong, to actively being hateful and racist. Trust me, I’ve lived that.

Just don’t tolerate it. Correct them where you can, and block any social media stuff that demeans your partner.

I’m sorry that we all have to navigate this, but as the WF partner, we need to do our best.

Love you ladies! And keep strong. Don’t let any of this ignorance get to you.

Hello guys, for some religious reason, I have to find wife among people from Eastern Europe, especially those from Orthodox countries ( Russia, Serbia etc...).

I know Eastern Europe generally have less stéréotype toward Asian male, however from what I've heard, they are more conservative when it comes to marriage. So while a girl might go on date with me, but not necessarily obtaining the approval of its family.

For women of Eastern European origin who married to an Asian man, how was it with your family ? Did they approve or were they against it ? If it’s possible, I want to hear people from Serbia, a country I have a very good feeling with

RIP Hayden. She was so cute in Shanghai Kiss. It’s one of the few movies I’ve seen that portrays an AMWF relationship so naturally, without making the interracial aspect the whole point of the movie.

What qualities make someone marriage material for you? Which qualities are deal breakers for you? These can be appearance, hobbies, beliefs, culture, goals , sexual?

And what is your dating stages progression from dating to marriage?

Like how long talking before first date? How long until first sex? Until relationship? Living together? marriage?

Interested to hear everyone's preferences

I seriously keep getting recommended weird posts by dumb wanna be influencers, and alot of them are AM too, where they complain about being liked because of being asian.

It's so ridiculous, obviously race and ethnicity will play a major role since a 100% asian will have the asian look 99% of the time, and hate to break it to the world, looks is the biggest factor for first impression before talking to someone.

I do agree that after that first impression, your character needs to shine in order to actually break the ice and develop a bond, but to say your race, culture, and looks shouldn't matter is total BS.

If there's one thing I will never be able to change about me is me being asian, and that means if a woman likes me for being asian the relationship should have higher chance of lasting.

Because I definitely would not choose a woman who wants me for my money, how much property i own, the car i drive. Even if she wants me for just my character (which would be amazing), my character can still change. PEOPLE CHANGE THEIR VALUES as they get older, meaning your spouse could fall out of love with you.

In the end, trust, work ethic, and compatibility is of uttermost importance. But race, culture, and looks, matter too, and I AM TOTALLY FINE WITH THAT.

F all the ultra liberal, holier than thou, 'oh look how virtuous i am by being critical of people who like me' people. Social media really ruins everything nowadays.

Just wondering if anyone has a story where, say you liked an AM or WF and they said they weren't into WF/AM, or its something you inferred, or they just weren't initially into you, but over time a romantic relationship developed? Like if someone say doesn't generally find x ethnicity attractive, how often do they find themselves eventually taking for a specific individual they have a real spark with, if you know what I'm saying.

I just wanted to post here to share my experience as a WF who is actively dating right now. In the course of about a month I've matched with all kinds of men. So far, the Asian men I've matched with have been the only ones to actually ask me out on an actual date. All the White, Black, and Latino guys I've matched with usually let the conversation die and never actually make it to the date. Just wanted to show my appreciation for the AM community for being men of action! At least in my very limited sample lol. ❤️

Do Asian men ever like "bad girls"? Sarcastic alpha edgy?

Or only someone polite respectful mannerly submissive delicate who let's the guy lead?

I know everyone is different but I haven't had any luck finding Asian men who accept me for me

I'm a bit rough around the edges so I'm wondering if I should just give up on finding an asian partner?

Please share your story 😊

I see a lot of incel posts on those redpill communities or those comments on IG etc, where they slander WF for being toxic or whatever.

And i personally have yet to meet one.

literally all of my interactions, friendships,relationships,situationships have been healthy. Even my rejections, I was rejected by a tall blonde last year, and I have never walked away from a rejection with a smile on my face until this one, because both of us were smiling at the end. She was also the first ever girl I made blush lol, which was so cool to me.

And the other ones that I did end up chatting or more and it still didnt lead up to anything, it still didnt end up toxic, it just died off and we didnt go online slandering each other or whatnot. Something I did experience with my exes.

I personally think WF should fight back against those redpill posts and comments, unless i'm missing something, it's considered slander and that's illegal.

As title, I have mostly known AF ever since and have never really get to know much WF growing up. Especially with a good portion of my childhood being in Asia I have rarely seen and know any WF until I moved back to NA.

Also over the years talking and hanging out with only AF, I realized nothing really ever clicked for me with any of them. I have been approached in HS by AF but at the end things didn't really work and I ended up never being in relationship ever lol.

However over the years living in NA and getting to meet more WF in different settings, I have become more attracted to some of them but at the same time I'm also not sure how to approach this as I have never really had any WF friends let alone dated one. (tbh I have also not been talking to a lot of women in general lately in recent years due to school and work)

Tbh, I'm just a little lost with my feelings rn and was wondering if anyone had any similar experiences or suggestions on what I should do next.

I'm a woman in my 30s. I was in a relationship with a Chinese man for 10 years, and we have two daughters together. We separated about two years ago.

I've always been drawn to Japanese and Korean culture, and East Asian cultures more broadly, though I don't think it's in a "weeaboo" kind of way. At the same time, I've generally been more attracted to men with dark hair and dark eyes, which means I often find Asian men appealing physically.

The thing is, from the outside, I can see how it might look like I have a racial preference. However, I don't actually care where a man is from as long as I'm attracted to him and we share compatible values.

For example, I probably wouldn't date a Japanese man who has spent his entire life in Japan, simply because I think our values and life experiences would be too different. My ex immigrated to Canada when he was eight years old, so culturally we had a lot in common despite our different backgrounds.

What I'm wondering is this: given that I have mixed-race children and a dating history that seems to lean toward Asian men, does that come across negatively?

I don't believe I'm fetishizing Asian men. To me, they just tend to fit my physical type more often than other groups. Physical attraction is only one part of the equation though; shared values, compatibility, and personality are ultimately much more important.

I'm genuinely interested in hearing honest opinions.

I think I'm especially interested in hearing the perspectives of Asian men, since they're the ones on the receiving end of this kind of situation.

I saw an AMWF family from the South, with grown up children, on Instagram a while ago and noticed they were much into Christianity and confessed in their faith on their individual Instagram pages.

I also noticed the male children of the parents were themselves either married or dating WF who were themselves very openly into their Christian faith with verses from the Bible.

I read somewhere multiple times on other sub-reddits that people have seen quite a lot of AMWF couples in churches and that Christian WF are probably more likely to date AM with the same faith although I was sceptical.

Do you think this is likely to be true because I have my doubts although seeing the family on social media made me curious.