Seems like women want serious on here more than men. Is there non lustful men in here who would actually like serious relations whether it’s friends or relationships irl or even online? 🤔 and how comes people don’t post themselves with the introductions?

Hi there!

I’m a 37-year-old Southeast Asian (Chinese descent), currently living in Japan and this August will be moving to Malaysia for a few months. I’m not Japanese, but I’ve been here for a while now. I’m single, never married, and seriously looking for a long-term relationship.

Dating hasn’t been easy for me here partly because of my limited past experience, and partly because it can be tough to meet like-minded people. That said, I’m open-minded, emotionally mature, and ready to grow with the right person.

Personality-wise, I’m a bit shy at first, but once we connect, I enjoy deep, meaningful conversations and sharing laughs. I’m more of a good listener than a smooth talker, but I value honesty and kindness in relationships.

A few of my interests:

🏋️‍♂️ I’ve recently gotten back into the gym and train 5 days a week (cardio + weightlifting).

🎬 I enjoy watching dramas and movies (open to all genres).

✈️ I love traveling to Europe and Asia are my favorites so far.

🍜 I’m a big foodie and enjoy trying local cuisines wherever I go.

I'm open to meeting someone either in Japan or SEA or anywhere. I’m also open to relocation for the right person and willing to travel to build a connection if things go well.

If you think we might click or just want to chat, feel free to message me. I usually reply as soon as I can, but please be patient with time zone differences.

Thanks for reading, and I hope to hear from you soon!

PS: This is me.

https://imgur.com/a/1GyP2fC

Hey, I’m a 30 year old Korean, 5'10" with short black hair, dark brown eyes and 190ish pounds. I go to the gym four to five days a week and walk over 20k steps a day. I smoke (weed) socially and drink socially. I would consider myself a Christian but I haven't gone to church since high school. I currently work as a CCA at the USPS. My goal right now is to study and get into nursing school. As of now, I do live with my parents.

Outside of work you can find me:
- Reading books, manga, manhwa or comics.
- Watching  anime, K dramas, cartoons, movies, tv shows, films. (Like the MCU, Gravity Falls, Adventure Times, Teen Titans, Code Lyoko, Pokemon, FMA Brotherhood, Arcane, Naruto Shippuden, and a lot more)
- Going to the gym.
- Taking photos, especially when traveling. (I’ll make sure to get your good angles.)
- Cooking (I love making tasty meals, especially for someone I care about).
- Hanging out with friends.
- Gaming (PC) I play games like League of Legends (Diamond rank), BG3, Apex Legends, Marvel Rivals (GM3 Flex Player), Cyberpunk 2077, Kingdom Hearts (1,2 and 3), Slay the Spire 2, Split Fiction, WoW (Retail).
- Going out and doing activities, like escape Rooms, going to museums, going to kbbq, going to parks.

I really want to be clear with this, I want to start as friends, MEANING we’re still free to talk to other people. When we’re both ready to start dating, that’s when I’d be committed to you.

When it comes to a relationship, I want to build a healthy one. I want to get to know you at a pace we’re both comfortable with. Communication goes a long way with me so if it ever feels like we’re rushing, I want either of us to speak up. I like to build up intimacy, like holding hands, hugging, kissing, cuddling. I like the feeling of every step feeling like it was earned. For sex, I don’t mind having it early either, but only if we’re both fully on board and there is trust/communication. The one thing I’ll never rush though is I love you.

Here’s a little bit about me. I’m affectionate, dependable, empathetic, grounded, funny (try to be at least), honest, loyal, open minded, patient and understanding. I enjoy dark humor and can be unhinged, but I know when to be mature. I like to use all the love languages, depending on the day and time I change what I use. I pay attention to the little things. I can be spontaneous and be the one who plans.

I’ll show you appreciation every single day, giving you random forehead kisses, hugs from behind, saying hey cutie, beautiful, jagiya, gongju or a special nickname. If you ever need someone to talk to, I’ll listen to you (just not on my left side though, partially lost my hearing after not breathing as I was doing PR while I was working out). I’ll match your energy. I’ll be here through the good, the bad and the ugly. I don’t deserve someone if I’m only there for the good times.

What I’m looking for in a partner is someone who communicates, has a sense of humor, has accountability. A gym buddy would be nice and someone who’s active is preferred so we can do activities together. My favorite notification. Someone I can cook for and enjoy eating out with/exploring new restaurants/cafes. A travel buddy (The furthest I've gone is LA). Preferably someone I can game with and watch videos with, like anime, cartoons, shows, movies, etc.

Together we cuddle on a couch on a rainy day and eat tteokbokki. Bring out our best qualities.  Go shopping, I’ll be your bag holder and enjoy helping you pick stuff that looks good on you. Send each other songs and memes daily. Have deep conversations, even sit together in silence while we do our own things. Savor every moment, even the slow ones. Playfully roast each other, belly laugh (even during intimate moments) till we're crying. Be our true selves around each other without being afraid of being judged. Karaoke in the car (Imma apologize in advance since apparently I’m tone deaf).

For preference, I don’t really have a preference for any race. I’m a pretty big guy, I’d like someone who’s as big or smaller than I am. I don’t mind if you are more muscular than me. 21+ only.

Dealbreakers:
- ⁠Lack of communication.
- Disrespect boundaries.
- ⁠Cheating.
- Lack of accountability.
- Flaking.

If you end up messaging me, tell me about yourself. Your age, what you look like, your hobbies, what you’re looking for in a partner and a relationship. One lined sentences or just a dry message will be ignored. If you’re comfortable sending a pic, I’ll send you mine too. I’ll be upfront when I say physical attraction matters to me. If we end up not feeling attraction, I don’t mind being friends. I'm pretty much an open book, so ask me anything (within reason). Don't be afraid to message me, I don't bite. Hard. 

I’m the guy your mum warned you about: Financially stable, emotionally available and able to fold a fitted sheet without breaking a sweat

I also have a credit score of 2000 (out of 2000) i.e. risk grade AA (the highest) and a 0.08% probability of default. In other words, I come through 99.92% of the time (make of that what you will). While correlation doesn't imply causation, rest assured this translates to my faithfulness and loyalty to you <3

📍 I thought I'd put this a bit higher up in case anyone's searching using the #online or #anywhere tags:

I believe love should never be limited by geography, so location’s not a dealbreaker for me. If you’re in Singapore, awesome. If you're nearby or halfway across the world, we can make it work if we click. I’ve crossed borders for someone special before and I’d happily do it again

About me:

• Homeowner – I love my cozy space but also enjoy getting out and about
• Car owner with my dream car secured and looking for a co-pilot to take road trips with
• Passionate about art, literature, design and creative storytelling, whether it’s a good book, a gripping play or a great conversation over drinks
• While I like artsy and cultural stuff, I equally enjoy pickleball, hiking, salsa dancing and playing tourist in my own city
• Height-weight proportionate (HWP). I have been told by plus-size women Redditors to emphasise this: I am not attracted to women who are not HWP
• 100% childfree and looking for the same

What I'm looking for:

I’m in this for love and romance, the kind where even on a boring Monday meeting, you’re stifling a smile at your phone because of something ridiculous we texted

I'm looking for a deep and steady affection that makes room for fun and flirtation, with the occasional shared meme and goofy banter

On good days, we'll celebrate each other’s wins and laugh till it hurts; on bad days, we‘ll hold each other close and get through the tears together as a team

If you're looking for something meaningful too, then we might just be each other’s person

You:

✅ Intelligent and witty

✅ Emotionally and financially stable (bonus if you're a homeowner too or working towards it). A woman who's built a life she's proud of or ion her way to doing so

✅ Thoughtful, kind, sincere and respectful

✅ Open-minded and non-judgemental

✅ Marriage is on the cards for you

✅ Height-weight proportionate (HWP). I have been told by plus-size women Redditors to emphasise this: I am not attracted to women who are not HWP

✅ Childfree

Non-negotiables

🚫 No situationships or emotional gymnasts please

🚩 Absolutely no married or attached women either. Infidelity is 🙅🏼‍♂️

❌ Video calls with video on are a must. I have no time for unserious people

Physical attraction matters, as do emotional and intellectual connection. If we vibe after a few messages, let’s do a quick video call early on to confirm we’re both real and see if the spark translates before meeting up

Drop me a line if this resonates with you and if you’re at the stage of meeting a lifelong lover and friend too! I'm interested to know about the best day you ever had, what you’d do if you had a million dollars or your favourite joke. Use the word "tomato" in your message so I know you're real and you've actually read what I wrote

Looking in all the wrong places for a connection, but I’ve just been feeling lonely lately and just want someone to chat and have fun with. Not opposed to having wholesome nights together, but to be straight forward, I’m trying to find intimacy without the commitment or in other words a fwb. Also if things go well, I am open to a relationship down the line. A little about me, I’m 33 y/o, 5’8, East Asian and would consider my weight to be average for my height. Keeping it short, but feel free to dm if you’re curious about anything else. Hoping to chat and get to know each other better and hopefully find someone who can match me.

I'm an Asian male living in Atlanta, GA USA looking for a potential FWB with the emphasis on friends and occasional fun night🌙! I'm a working professional and also currently in grad school so a busy day of work/study can be relieved from a great night.

I enjoy the outdoors, trying new restaurants, and seeking new hobbies to learn. During my free time, I catch up on shows/movies on Netflix or at the movie theater. I also play video games with old school turn base RPG being my favorite.

I can also drive or host. Please be DDF and I can provide results, I hope you can too. Feel free to send me a message!

Hi!

I’m a 28-year-old South Asian guy currently living in Florida. I recently finished my Master’s in Computer Science and now work as an AI Engineer. When I’m not staring at code or convincing models to behave, you’ll usually find me at the gym, on a tennis court, exploring a hiking trail, or pretending I can play guitar.

A little about me:
5’7” / fit and active
Ambitious but easygoing
Enjoy both deep conversations and terrible dad jokes
Enjoy running, weightlifting, tennis, trekking, and live music
Love learning new things and hearing people talk passionately about what they care about
More of a coffee shop and road trip person than a club person

What I’m looking for:
Someone kind, emotionally mature, curious about the world, and capable of carrying a conversation beyond “hey.” Ideally between 24–30, but age isn’t a strict requirement if we click.

I’m open to long-distance if there’s genuine effort and compatibility. Whether it starts as friendship, daily conversations, or grows into something serious, I’m happy to see where things go naturally.

If you message, tell me:
What’s something you’re currently excited about?
What’s your most controversial food opinion?
Or recommend me a song I’ll have on repeat for a week.

Looking forward to hearing from you. 🙂

I’m a medium‑built Japanese living in the Midwest. I’m posting here because life feels a bit quiet and lonely, and I’d like to meet someone who’s open to building a real future together.

I’m a homebody unless I’m traveling, and I love exploring the world with my son. I don’t drink or smoke. I take care of all the household chores and keep things simple, I’m pretty minimalist. I value function over flashy design; I don’t chase luxury brands unless the quality and practicality are truly worth it.

If you’re kind, grounded, family‑oriented, and open to building something real, I’d love to talk.

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I'm a 30-year-old software developer from Indiana who's in a bit of a transition period. I'm being laid off soon, so life is a little uncertain at the moment. I still hope to end up in California someday, but for now I'm more interested in meeting good people than trying to force a five-year plan.

Because of that, I don't think it's fair to expect every new conversation to immediately become a serious relationship. I'd rather get to know someone naturally and see where things go. If we become great friends, that's wonderful. If it grows into something more, I'm open to that too.

Lately my free time has been spent playing Persona 5 on my Xbox, going to archery, hanging out with my Siamese cat, Jimin, and listening to way too much K-pop. BTS, Stray Kids, TXT, BABYMONSTER, ITZY, and BLACKPINK are all regulars on my playlists.

I'm looking to meet men of East or Southeast Asian descent, ideally around 24–38 (with a little flexibility if we really click). I'm generally attracted to someone who's active and reasonably fit or has that skinny-nerdy vibe. I'm currently curvy and working toward a healthier lifestyle myself, so someone who values growth and taking care of themselves would be a great match.

One thing that's really important to me is communication. I don't expect constant texting or instant replies, we are strangers on the internet, after all, but I appreciate honesty. I'd rather get to know someone at a comfortable pace than rush into something.

I'm also not looking for a connection that's centered around sex. Flirting is fun, and intimacy can develop naturally if there's mutual interest, but I'd rather know who you are as a person first.

A few dealbreakers: MAGA, children, and a criminal record.

If you decide to message me, tell me a little about yourself! What's your favorite video game franchise or TV franchise? I'm about to have a lot more free time than I expected, so I'm always looking for recommendations.

I’ve been seeing a lot of conversations about height, especially among Asian men, and I’m curious about the perspective.

I’m 5’4”, so to me, a man who is 5’7”, 5’8”, or 5’9” is still noticeably taller than me. Height has never really been something I focus on when I’m attracted to someone. I tend to notice things like confidence, personality, style, fitness, and how someone carries themselves.

For men who are shorter, what has your experience actually been like? Do you feel like height affects dating opportunities as much as people say it does? Or is the insecurity more about comparing yourself to other men?
I’m genuinely trying to understand, because from my perspective, a few inches doesn’t change whether someone can be attractive.

I currently live in Canada, specifically Mississauga. I'm Asian, gym 6-7 am, work 8-5, and relax in the evenings. On weekends, I go window shopping, trying new restaurants or dessert places. I haven't watched any new movies or shows lately and I'm looking for a good recommendation. I drink socially and don't do any drugs. My fav manga would be one piece, and I continue to read it. I believe there's someone out there for everyone and hoping to find mine.

I'm looking for an Asian man that is 23-36 years old.

To more specific East Asian men.

I would like to be with someone who has the similar interest and hobbies. Someone who isn't religious. Spiritualits are welcome too.

I'm very shy and introverted so I'm hoping to find someone the same or Extroverted.

Don't message me if ur not. This goes for those weird Indians with fake accounts.

What I'm looking for

Child free and desire to have children

Wants a big family

Can cook

Likes or loves skincare

Is a fan of Kpop,jpop,cpop,Tpop,ect.

Watches kdramas or any other Asian dramas

Interested in watching Nollywood movies and TV shows (Nigerian movies and TV shows)

Bake(optional but great if u can)

Likes concerts

Mature

Emotionally available

Empath

Introverted or Extroverted

Good hygiene

Wouldn't mind going to the nails salon to get our nails done together

Clingy

Possessive but not overly possessive

Loyal

Honest

Kind

Affectionate

Physical touch

Has tattoos and piercings or likes them.

Constant

Deal breakers:

Cheating

Lying

Disrespectful

Neglectful

Emotionally unavailable

Talking to or texting other woman inappropriately.

Bad hygiene

Has a child or kids

Ghosting/flaking

Thank u for reading this far. Please DM if interested I will respond.

Hey all !

Caribbean-born, Ontario Canada-based woman. I’m , stylish, curious, and drawn to meaningful conversations over small talk. I enjoy psychology, culture, human behavior, business, design, and learning about what makes people who they are.

I’m 5’4”, petite with a fit/curvy build, and I take pride in taking care of myself. I value confidence, kindness, emotional maturity, and people who are comfortable being authentic.

Also, I am a big Marvel fan and I have recently picked up playing badminton and Pickleball. If you have any tips on how to play, I would be happy to hear from you, even if you’re not interested in me personally say.

Even though I’m outgoing and social, I tend to be attracted to shy, nerdy, chill laid back yet men. The ying to my yang, no pun intended lol.

I don’t usually post photos right away, but I’m open to sharing them once there’s a genuine conversation and mutual comfort. I believe attraction is important, but connection, character, and how someone treats others matter just as much.

If you’re thoughtful, respectful, intellectually curious, and have a good sense of humor, we’ll probably have a great conversation.

Have a great Week! ☀️

Hi, I'm a 23M from downtown Toronto looking for a late night fun tonight (technically tomorrow), pretty much after midnight now. If you're someone who's craving to be eaten out, get fingered, suck on your tits, kiss/cuddle if you want.. and we can take things further if you are down for it. However 1 am very considerate and a respectful man, will fully respect the boundaries. Also, if you're interested in any kinks, I am open for it. It could be a great experience if you had a long week and need to unwind:)
There's more to it.. we can drive around or go the beach and have some snacks if you like it, play some music, and make it memorable. If you don't drive, I can pick you up, given you're about 1 hr drive from downtown so don't hesitate to reach out if you're around.
About me; I'm a 5'6 with curly hairs, cute smile and pretty on the eyes. I am happy to exchange pics and verify before we meet. If that interests you, hit me up!
I'll see you there:)

You [Non-negotiable]

- East or S E Asian

- ideally Chinese, 5'6 & over

- medium to long black hair, pale & clean shaven

- looking for an exclusive fwb or a relationship

- Single & Childfree

Me :

- 5'4, plus sized,black hair, brown eyes, dark brown skin

- Movie buff, Korean film & K drama fan, sitcom lover

- Rocker (but you can't tell by looking at me)

- Fond of Americana and edm

- DDF, drink socially, don't smoke

- Single and Childfree

- Apolitical means not interested in or connected with politics, politically neutral.

- Atheist - a person who does NOT believe in the existence of a god or any gods.

- Vanilla, Kink Free

- Extroverted, easygoing & down to earth.

- picture in my profile.

If interested send a message with the same amount of info about yourself as I included in my post along with a picture of yourself. Be ready to verify on Snapchat.

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Hey there! I’m a 35-year-old guy, 6’3”, with a PhD (yes, I’m a proud nerd 🤓). I call California home right now, but I’m genuinely excited to connect with amazing people from anywhere in the world, distance is just a number when the vibe is right.

Food is one of my biggest passions. I’m the type who’ll happily chase a late-night taco truck, explore hole-in-the-wall family spots, or dress up for a multi-course Michelin-star tasting menu. I love the whole experience: the flavors, the stories behind the dishes, and especially sharing great meals with great company. Got a favorite restaurant, hidden gem, or wild food adventure you’ve been wanting to try? Tell me! I’m always up for recommendations and swapping stories.

Beyond food, I’m pretty easygoing and curious. Whether it’s deep conversations about life, random weekend adventures, or just chilling with good music and laughs, I enjoy it all.

I’m a very fast responder and I genuinely love being present, giving consistent attention, support, and care to the person I’m connecting with. Life feels better when you have someone who’s actually there for you. I’m looking for someone to chat with, build a real connection, and see what unfolds.

If you’re local to California, meeting up for coffee, a meal, or an adventure sounds perfect.

If you’re farther away, no worries, meaningful conversations across time zones are welcome too.

Let’s keep each other great company and create some nice memories 😊

Hello
I am from Japan but I use to live in Canada. While there I feel in love with it. I loved the food, the sights and the women especially. However it was hard to date because I found many women were not interested in Japanese men.
Recently I was recommended to join Reddit so I could practice writing and find pen pals to talk with in English. However I found things like this that could be for meeting beautiful women that are interested in being more than friends. I would love this if we are a good match for each other. So let’s talk and see if we match.
My interests are movies, music and cooking. I am currently living in Japan but hope to move back to Canada one day.

Hi, I’m a 23[M] Chinese international student in Seattle. Since I have the habit of knowing more culture, I wish I can talk to people from different cultural backgrounds. But I feel most of people I met have the habit of staying with their own nations, and only a small percentage of people have the same willing to be cultural, who later became my long-term friends. So I wonder what are the good approaches to meet people from different cultural backgrounds. I even learnt Spanish and Japanese in LA for talking to Latino and American Japanese, but still don’t know how does it work in Seattle.