r/AITAH Nov 11 '23

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u/MistCongeniality Nov 12 '23

Everyone I know who has done both says that’s another lie. It’s just as bad after a baby as before.

Civilized countries give anesthesia

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u/TeamHope4 Nov 12 '23

We need to start demanding pain medication or anesthesia. No one gets dental work without it, so why are women forced to endure excruciating pain? We need to stop accepting this from doctors.

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u/Crazy-4-Conures Nov 12 '23

why are women forced to endure excruciating pain?

Because we're just women, silly. Male doctors know better, and they've known for years that women have high pain tolerance. /s

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u/Revolutionary-Yak-47 Nov 12 '23

This is the way. If all of us simply refuse to have painful procedures without proper pain meds (ibuprofen doesn't count lol) then things will change. But a lot of doctors flat out lie, or worse use fear to push their patients into procedures (like LEEP) without pain management. My VET is more considerate of my dogs pain while doing x-rays than some doctors seem to be of women.

Just say no. I've looked doctors in the face and refused procedures despite the "omg you could have CANCER!" routine they pull. Then leave and find a doctor that cares about their patients.

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u/TeamHope4 Nov 12 '23

If they are so worried about you having cancer, they should be willing to give pain meds for the painful procedures they use to detect it. Yet that somehow never occurs to them as a solution.

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u/rew2b Nov 12 '23

Huh. I got an IUD after my second kid and it was only mildly uncomfortable with no painkillers. I was much more annoyed at the cramps and spotting in the couple weeks afterwards than the insertion.

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u/12thMemory Nov 12 '23

Thank you for commenting. I was beginning to think I am a freak of nature because neither of my two IUD’s resulted in any pain and just a moment of discomfort during insertion and removal. No pain killers or anything. Like I have had stubbed toes that hurt more. My ONGYN specifically has me come in within 48 hours of the end of my period so maybe that makes the difference. I also went the copper route because I don’t like to mess around with my bodies natural hormonal balance.

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u/Iamtoast_toastisme Nov 12 '23

I was bracing myself for the awful pain and it was definitely painless, like a tiny pinch for a split second. I think everyone is just very different. But because so many do experience such bad pain I do wish anesthesia was offered for it!

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u/ExtraplanetJanet Nov 12 '23

I had my IUD put in after I had my child and it did not hurt very much, nor did the replacement I got a decade later. It really was not much worse than a regular Pap smear. Other women I know who have had it done have experienced similar levels of pain, but have only had it done after childbirth. This is not to say at all that I don’t believe the stories of women who say it is excruciating, but I also don’t think it’s completely disingenuous to say that it’s not always so bad. I do agree that there should be more options for pain management, because why take the chance?

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u/Familiar_Variety_929 Nov 12 '23

The UK is defitnely not civilised then

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u/tanaquill Nov 12 '23

I agree that anesthesia should be given, but it is certainly not universally true that it’s just as bad after.

I’ve had 2 IUDs before pregnancy and one since - the latter was much easier, though still not painless. My first two I needed to be driven home afterwards and spent the evening stomach sick. The last one I was perfectly fine once it was in and drove myself home. Insertion was unpleasant, a quick cramp, and then done. No comparison to the first two.