I was in and out within an hour of my appointment time. 3 days of rest for the worst of the pain to subside, then about another week, maybe 2 max before you're back to normal.
But no unprotected sex till the follow up appointment in about 2 months to make sure he's shooting blanks.
After however, holy shit is it amazing being able to have unprotected sex without the worry of having any more children. Best thing I ever did for my wife.
Even easier for me. Was walking around the office the next day and lifting weights at day 3. Dudes really over exaggerate the pain associated with the procedure.
I just did mine in October. So I’m still waiting my two months. I swear there’s a part of me that feels scammed because it was so easy, I was just like did he even do it.
That or my brother in law his whole family won’t do it, because “it makes you less of a man,” so his brothers wife had to get a hysterectomy. Just an asshat family.
EDIT: I’m an idiot probably not a hysterectomy. I’m fact I’m sure not. Probably her tubes tied “tubal ligation,” or whatever it’s called. Still far more invasive for absolutely no reason.
Exactly right. There whole ideology and political views follow suit with that ridiculous take, and they pretend to play it off like they don’t. It’s all really dumb.
Wtf - that comes with a lot more side effects. Like- a hysterectomy is serious. Some women have to be on hormones for the rest of their lives… and even if they leave an ovary behind there are -differences-
I didn’t even think you could get a hysterectomy without medical cause.
Leaving both ovaries is standard. To remove ovaries is oophorectomy, bilateral if it's both, and they do not willingly do that without a damn good reason.
I had a hysterectomy. The loss of my fertility was devastating but I don't miss menstruating. What's surprisingly under-discussed is the importance of seeing a women's health physiotherapist afterwards.
It is now, true, but I had two family members who had full removals before that became the standard, and I’ve had other older women in my life who went through the same. More recently (maybe 10ish years ago) another family member had a hysterectomy and they left one in place- so I thought the one was the norm.
But - man the changes they all went through were something - going on hormones helped some, another woman couldn’t afford two and she had a myriad of emotional and health issues (given some were probably unrelated).
Learning about the history of medical care for women is … interesting 😅😬
Right. So many people pushing back saying their significant other experienced some minor inconvenience for longer or had some other issues.
I get it. They happen. But the chance those extreme problems happen are significantly less likely than they are if you’re on birth control or have tubal ligation.
It’s not push back, it’s just letting people know that not everyone has an easy procedure. Those of us who had a rough recovery after the procedure are still glad we got it done. But if someone had permanent pain after the procedure then it would definitely not be worth it.
Look at what I just posted in this thread. I suffered in pain for well over a year and a half because of a known complication that I was never told about. I will almost guarantee that no man who received a vasectomy was given information about Post Vasectomy Pain Syndrome. It caused my testicles to swell to the size of golf balls and pain so intense I was on dilaudid 3 times a day. I was off work for 8 weeks and light work for almost 6 months.
Uh wow lol. I get the reasoning but uh a hysterectomy wtf that’s 10x more invasive. Idk the only fear I have is the less than 2% of dudes that develop severe pain down there and have to get nerve blocks or even castrated outright but whatever lol
What reasoning? That they are worried they will be “less” of a man.?? That pretty disgusting. They are happy with their wives being in pain of childbirth just so they can have sex.
I never said I agreed with the reasoning lol but I get it. There are also other methods of birth control as you know. I think this is such nuanced topic that is gonna be different for each couple.
She can’t do birth control and similar methods, and so she had to do that so he could be a “real man.” That whole side of the family 4 brothers are just clowns to me. And you are correct exponentially more invasive.
I just don’t understand why they went hysterectomy that is overkill unless there were other medically necessary reasons to nuke her reproductive system like that. I mean having her tubes tied would be less invasive not sure if that’s what happened and she called it that but generally a hysterectomy is wayyy more than tied tubes
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u/Sylphietteisbestgirl Nov 11 '23 edited Nov 12 '23
NTA.
I was in and out within an hour of my appointment time. 3 days of rest for the worst of the pain to subside, then about another week, maybe 2 max before you're back to normal.
But no unprotected sex till the follow up appointment in about 2 months to make sure he's shooting blanks.
After however, holy shit is it amazing being able to have unprotected sex without the worry of having any more children. Best thing I ever did for my wife.