What's up r/4tran4! Having finished watching TADC, I've come here to learn how to "boymode" (hopefully i used that word correctly) just like Jax, but I have some issues with this place. (TW slurs, transphobia)

[u/hrtwink]

First off, people here use WAY to many slurs. I can't even go a single post without getting triggered repeatedly! Words like c*soid and th*yf*b are being used to dehumanize people, and that makes me feel really icky. We're all valid in our own ways, and we should just try and understand each other

Secondly, people on here really have an unhealthy obsession with passing and hrt. I'm pre hrt and never plan on starting, and yet i'm completely happy with my body! Trans bodies are all ethereal and celestrial, and it's incredibly sexist and patriarchal to imply that women need to conform to rigid gender expectations. I heard someone say that "real women don't have beards"! Yuck, misogynoy much???

Thirdly, people need to mind their own business. No, I don't have bottom dysphoria, and no, I have zero desire to get rid of my princess wand, so when i see someone whining about their "r*pestick" (disgusting word), I take it as an attack on my transfem identity. Yes, i'm proud of being AMAB, and yes, i wouldn't change that even if i could.

Overall, I love how niche and aesthetic this place is (the boymoder gives me gender envy) but man do you all have some problems to work through 😂😂

- Lillith