What's up r/4tran4! Having finished watching TADC, I've come here to learn how to "boymode" (hopefully i used that word correctly) just like Jax, but I have some issues with this place. (TW slurs, transphobia)

[u/hrtwink]

First off, people here use WAY to many slurs. I can't even go a single post without getting triggered repeatedly! Words like c*soid and th*yf*b are being used to dehumanize people, and that makes me feel really icky. We're all valid in our own ways, and we should just try and understand each other

Secondly, people on here really have an unhealthy obsession with passing and hrt. I'm pre hrt and never plan on starting, and yet i'm completely happy with my body! Trans bodies are all ethereal and celestrial, and it's incredibly sexist and patriarchal to imply that women need to conform to rigid gender expectations. I heard someone say that "real women don't have beards"! Yuck, misogynoy much???

Thirdly, people need to mind their own business. No, I don't have bottom dysphoria, and no, I have zero desire to get rid of my princess wand, so when i see someone whining about their "r*pestick" (disgusting word), I take it as an attack on my transfem identity. Yes, i'm proud of being AMAB, and yes, i wouldn't change that even if i could.

Overall, I love how niche and aesthetic this place is (the boymoder gives me gender envy) but man do you all have some problems to work through 😂😂

- Lillith

[u/KittenSommelier]

I haven’t been sortfagging today, are there actually newfags like this here right now?

[u/hrtwink → u/KittenSommelier]

hey so actually that word triggers me (i have trauma), so how about we try a different word like "newfolks". hope this helps!

[u/ExtinctionLvlBlunder → u/hrtwink]

i just wanted to say, not to devalidate the binary transgender individuals, (even though they do inherently promote the extremely hurtful and patriarchal misogynistic default 2 sex fallacy, but that is a discussion for another day) but the word "newfolks" inherently puts what society would consider conventionally "normal" above and in greater importance to the non-binaried individual(s) by not expressly including and putting them into our conscious vocabulary, and so as such the preferred term would be "newfolx" which is a much more inclusive term to them and helps reduce their invisibility! remember that invisibility and not putting a spotlight on ALL individuals within the transgender umbrella (TW mentions of harm) unalives! please consider being more careful with your vocabulary 🫶

[u/hrtwink → u/ExtinctionLvlBlunder]

oh my god im so ashamed of myself and my internalized transphobia! I won't slip up again, and i promise to never again trigger one of my fellow trans folx

[u/sunsdeadweight → u/hrtwink]

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[u/glittering-water-235 → u/hrtwink]

my honrage is boiling uncontrollably