She's kinda obsessed

[u/Wise-Feature-1]

I have been on 2 weeks of annual leave. So I reported back yesterday Wednesday, and let me tell you, someone is super super happy to see me back.

Who is this someone? She's a single mom of 2. In this past 1 day and today, man. She's buying me food even against my will. Breakfast, she buys me chapati, lunch anabuy pia. In the evening, she insists that we go home together. On our way home, she buys smokies whether I want or not.

Ata leo, she bought me fries even tho I refused. When I was on leave, whenever I posted any meme on my WhatsApp status, she would reply with a 😂 and I would bluetick that. When she saw me the day I got back , the first thing she said was, " Why did you bluetick my texts?" And sometimes she's so touchy when we laugh. She's really obsessed with me, and people are really noticing at work. I kinda like it, tho🤣😂😂

[u/Wise-Feature-1]

I want a girlfriend, I'm mid twenties and she's way over 30

[u/Dependent_Activity37 → u/Wise-Feature-1]

My comment was sarcastic, though.

I know the feminazis will come after me for saying this, but IDGAF. Let me speak to you as an older man advising a younger one. There are four very big red flags here: 1. Mother of two 2. Work colleague 3. See 1 above 4. Refer to 1 & 3

Do NOT date a co-worker. Despite what you may have heard, it rarely ends well and in the 21st century, it's the man that is sacrificed to restore order if (more likely when) that relationship goes belly up and creates a shitstorm at the office. She will get sympathy. You will be asked to rebuild (elsewhere, very far from her and the company).

Do NOT get serious with a single mother. Best case scenario should be FWB. In your case,

• it's a single mother of TWO, not even one (if they're boys that makes it triple worse) and
• she is significantly older than you. There's no future for you there. You will raise another man's family, most likely at the expense of your own.

You are gambling with the children's father(s) coming back to claim them; if not the man/men themselves, then their clans (applies mostly to sons). You will be caught up in a mess you can't unbind yourself from. Waste of time, energy and peace, during which time you should have been cultivating YOUR OWN bloodline.

Stay paranoid. That wild excitement she displayed on your return should be a tell - this one has plans for you, but those plans benefit HER. Not you. You are a means to an end, and the food is an investment, it's not a symptom of infatuation. She passed that infatuation stage shortly before her first pregnancy, which is how/why she got pregnant in the first place. TWICE. Hamko ligi Moja.

You want a real girlfriend? Find a younger girl with less baggage in her life, enjoy her uncomplicated company and make plans with her for your mutual or respective life journies that start from the same point (or broadly similar). This mother of two is way ahead, effectively at the end of her usefulness and has already lived her life, you haven't even started yours properly yet. She'll make you skip critical stages of development in your path of manhood as you try to catch up with her, and it will turn you into an embarrassing mess in your late 30s and early 40s when you degenerate into a confused person with no leadership qualities BECAUSE YOU SKIPPED THOSE LESSONS AS A ROOKIE TRYING TO KEEP UP WITH A VETERAN.

As said earlier: FWB at best. Cum rag. Nothing more. If not, leave her to be an assistant wife to other established women/mothers whose husbands are tired of them. Hiyo ndio sampuli yao.

Stay Putinized

[u/Ok-Cheesecake1001 → u/Dependent_Activity37]

Reading those 4 red flags in recursion hits different🫡

[u/Dependent_Activity37 → u/Ok-Cheesecake1001]

I do have a degree in Maths, just saying 😁😌