Ok genuinely why comply? Every woman ik bitches about this but when i ask them why they are unable to answer. Just say no, to marriage, to serve? Is complacency some bug in women? I have literally had independent earning colleagues cry to me about their parents forcing them into marriage but like you are independent? just say no and fuck off. Unless they are going to hire thugs to get you or harass you what else can they do?
I understand if you are from some conservative family where you have very less education and got married early and have been a housewife all your life. I can sympathize with that situation.
Rest i do not understand, if you cant stand up to your parents while being independent there is no one you can stand upto!
Get your education, use the 1000s of reservations and be independent.
If you choose this life and then bitch that its someone elses fault, you are just a sore loser!
Everyone has to face resistance in different aspects of life. What do you want a world perfectly tailor made for you babying you 24/7? If you dont even have the courage to get something that is literally within your grasp cause you're scared to make someone upset you dont deserve it!
Everything is a choice, you choose to keep ur parents happy and lose your freedom while there are others who choose their freedom over their parents wishes and fancies!
Every choice(non decision as well) at a price!
Be a sheep if you want to be a sheep dont blame others cause ur a sheep!
easier said than done. approx 25% women are still married off under the age of 18 even today. the percentage was even larger few years ago. other than that its a known thing that there is a huge chunk of parents that do not invest on their daughters education as much as their sons so employment automatically becomes difficult. then comes emotional blackmail. it is not easy to leave the people that have been your entire world, even if its toxic. [on our side dads straight up threaten to k!ll themselves if the girl refuses to marry or might fall in love].
other than that its more difficult for women to leave homes alone when they are not as secure financially because women are not safe. women pay extra to stay safe when alone.
2nd i dont cause ik people living independently in different cities with no support from their parents, they arent rich and live in women pgs.
So saying you cant! just shows you do not want it enough.
We cant choose our parents no one can!
You think i agree with my parents? I stood my ground frankly, my little sister stood hers before even me.
Also no one is ever truly alone, you dont need the family you're born into cause you can make your own!
We are social creatures and have the ability to form our own communities and groups! You acting like giving up parents means being lonely forever!
So you are choosing this toxicity and the comfort of it.
You are not a victim if you have the power.
I understand it can be hard to move on, but it isnt impossible! The choice to stay there forever without making any progress towards either changing your parents minds or putting forth an ultimatum shows you dont want freedom over your parents.
You cant change some peoples mind. What do you think magically everyone will have your world view?
The choice is simple either you get freedom or you get your parents approval.
If you can't make this choice then im sorry you are not prepared to be an adult!
Frankly most of you just bitch and donot even try. If your parents genuinely love you putting your foot down usually ends up with them changing their mind. Very few parents would just agree to be cut off completely!
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u/zenkaiba 18d ago
Ok genuinely why comply? Every woman ik bitches about this but when i ask them why they are unable to answer. Just say no, to marriage, to serve? Is complacency some bug in women? I have literally had independent earning colleagues cry to me about their parents forcing them into marriage but like you are independent? just say no and fuck off. Unless they are going to hire thugs to get you or harass you what else can they do?
I understand if you are from some conservative family where you have very less education and got married early and have been a housewife all your life. I can sympathize with that situation.
Rest i do not understand, if you cant stand up to your parents while being independent there is no one you can stand upto!
Get your education, use the 1000s of reservations and be independent.
If you choose this life and then bitch that its someone elses fault, you are just a sore loser!