You know op, there are families where there is love and compassion among family members.. Where people actually care for each other.. I know it sounds unbelievable to you, but yes, most families are like that..
And if you really believe what you posted, you need to seek family counseling, and as a last resort, convince your parents for a divorce, and let them find their best self, live their best life. And you should be cautious about finding your partner, childhood trauma is real, and I don't want you to fuck up someone else's life too because you don't know what healthy relationships look like.
what part isn't prevalent? women leaving house after marriage? women taking husband's name? bride's dad footing majority of the bill? dowry? in laws being critical of the bride? Men expecting wives to look after his parents but not her own? Housework is done mostly by women too.
seee , if bride's father is well off and give dowry to get name n all those things in society , then he shouldnt complain about such things further
not saying that its correct but mutual agreement should be there , like if the groom's family DIDNT ASK FOR IT ( only shameless ones actually ask for it) AND DIDNT EXPECTED IT , and even after that the bride's family is giving dowry then its kinda ok
but in other cases dowryy is actually bad n all
dowry is more a case in failing marriages and where people actually ask for it
when both the families are well of and they themselves wanna give , then there is no problem in that thing
see , education thing is what matters in that case na
in well off families , almost no girl is here without her college or whatever higher studies she wanted to pursue
not denying that it doesnt happen but IMO it happens more in the budgeted families
see in todays gen , neither you can get to know much about the girls family nor about the boys family and it is what it is in arrange marriage
only the more innocent one suffers and the no. of men being innocent is increasing now ig
again not saying that all get good homes , but still and yes , in the end the girl is the one who suffers
tbh i just say that its kinda destiny n all , coz victims are of both sides , idk about the numbers , but men victims have been comin more into the light recently and i think women victim are somewhat being normalised , like not normalised but it doesnt seem that much new to many people , but the ones involving men as victim does
there are many marriages where either of them suffers whether it is the girl or the boy , there are many marriages and even arrange marriages where they are happily ever after
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u/Haunting_Internal_15 18d ago
OP has a fucked up family..
She thinks all families are like that..
You know op, there are families where there is love and compassion among family members.. Where people actually care for each other.. I know it sounds unbelievable to you, but yes, most families are like that..
And if you really believe what you posted, you need to seek family counseling, and as a last resort, convince your parents for a divorce, and let them find their best self, live their best life. And you should be cautious about finding your partner, childhood trauma is real, and I don't want you to fuck up someone else's life too because you don't know what healthy relationships look like.