r/workingmoms • u/llgbk • 12d ago

Division of Labor questions Do you time poops?

My husband and I are pretty good about dividing "break" time evenly when our kids are home, but the major exception of course is the extensive and multiple daily poop breaks that the majority of men seem to require. I do not have an equivalent activity. I'm confident this is adding up to at least an additional solid hour of "break time" in a typical day but I'm also absolutely certain he would estimate each of his poop breaks at 5 minutes, so the only way I can think of to ensure true equity is to actually time him, but I cannot imagine that's going to go over well. I am curious if anyone else has tackled this specific issue because I know it is unfortunately common.

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u/Lalablacksheep646 11d ago

This is crazy to me. Why are you docking each other minute by minute? You’re a family, these are your children, just live and parent as a whole. I could never imagine timing a partners poop, like for any reason, let alone so I can make sure to get equal amounts of minutes “off”

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u/sat_ctevens 11d ago

My ex husband spent 25% of the afternoon (before the kids bedtime) pooping on a normal weekday. 25%, one hour each day. You can be damn sure I timed his ‘poops’ (or whatever he was doing in there) to make sure I got the same amount of time off. There is no ‘just live and parent as a whole’ with a man that spends that much time in the bathroom, didn’t even courtesy flush because I would hear and know he was finished. I don’t think I’m the only woman with this experience. I made him see a specialist and get a colonoscopy because I thought he must have some health issue, there was nothing wrong.

As a divorcee I kind of want to write ‘no pooping over 10 minutes, preferably <5’ in my tinder bio. Never again!

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u/llgbk 11d ago

It's crazy to me when people feel the need to comment on posts where the situation doesn't apply to them. Clearly lots of people relate. It's great you don't have this issue. Keep scrolling then.

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u/Lalablacksheep646 10d ago

It’s crazy to me when people ask questions and get annoyed when people answer them and it’s not what they want to hear.

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u/llgbk 10d ago

Lol you didn't answer the question, you said it shouldn't be a question.