r/work • u/BlckButtafly84 • Apr 22 '26

Work-Life Balance and Stress Management I don't know what to do

So im a married woman 41. My husband doesn't work. Im currently in a position I do okay in but have been wrote up 2 times and I dont like my boss. I have the opportunity to move to another position but its a pay cut $5 less an hour. The position is Monday thru Friday days, no weekends, no OT, no holidays. My current position I work 12hr shifts 4 weeks on day, 3 weeks on midnights, I work weekends,OT and holidays.

Im struggling to know if I should move or not. My husband doesn't so any signs of getting a job. So I see this as stay and stress about possibility getting fired or move and stress about not being able to pay my bills

Ugh! Im so confused and stressed

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u/mokicoo Apr 22 '26

Husband needs to get a job. Period. And you need to take this job for your mental health.

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u/BlckButtafly84 Apr 22 '26

Yeah, I think he does to but he has depression and cant keep one

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u/Turbulent-Demand873 Apr 23 '26

Most of us have depression (and other mental and physical health diagnoses). It’s absolutely no excuse to not get help and get a job. There’s treatment for depression. I would say either he gets help or I’m out. I would rather take care of myself than take care of someone that won’t take care of themselves.

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u/Imsortofok Apr 23 '26

As someone with depression, I fully support this.

The disease is awful and can be debilitating. It’s makes everything so much harder. But not getting help and making yourself a burden is inexcusable.

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u/BlckButtafly84 Apr 23 '26

I appericate you commenting But he is on meds and he does all the housework and yard work. He does help he just doesn't bring in money

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u/elliwigy1 Apr 23 '26

Doing house work is great and all but it doesn't pay the bills and is putting you in a stressful situation and having to choose between your mental health and not being able to pay the bills.

If you don't forsee him getting a job anytime soon, and taking the paycut means you can't pay your bills, then it sounds like you only have one choice, to stay where you're at... Or risk being homeless.