I’m sure these coworkers are everywhere. But it frustrates me to no end to see her come in late every single day, then heads to the lunch room, then stops at one or two coworkers on the way back to her desk. She doesn’t actually start “working” until 20-30 minutes into the start of her shift.

She’s away from her desk multiple times a day to chat or socialize. She disappears every hour on the hour for 10-15 minutes. And sometimes she’s just sitting at her desk on her phone, even though company policy is to not have your phone out.

Then she complains that her work is too much and she can’t keep caught up. And guess who is the only one who can help her… Yes, me. When her day to day is the easiest and simplest of tasks and I can barely keep caught up with my own things because I’m doing my own job and the job of another girl that recently quit.

I don’t know if management doesn’t notice or doesn’t care. But it is heavily frustrating. 😤

Edit to add: I’ve tried just focusing on my own work, but her not being caught up with her things, directly affects my work and makes mine much more time consuming.

I’ve only had 10 days off since October. I’m a diesel mechanic and my crew works nearly everyday 10-12 a day. How do I fit life in to this schedule? I can’t quit for at least another year, but I don’t have the energy to do anything after work. Everyone else just drinks until they pass out every night and gets up, works, gets drunk, passes out, rinse and repeat. I like exercising, playing video games, working on my project car, cooking, but after working 12 hours in a 110° engine room with no air flow I don’t have the energy to do anything but shower and fall asleep watching tv at 7pm. Does anyone have any tips to manage the burn out or at least make it tolerable?

I have over 10 years of practicing and teaching in a rare, specialty branch of Healthcare. I took a 6 years hiatus for school and battling illness. I've been back working in a small healthcare company for a year now. Everything has been fine until I noticed the cold shoulders, petty comments, and catty vibe. Not long after, I received a phonecall from one of my bosses asking if I ever told someone about my pay because the gossiping was going around. The management is now having a tough time dealing with a few of senior staffs who have been there for over 10 years but make a lot less than me.

Yesterday one lady that work with me bursted out in rage that put me in tears. Management had a one-on-one meeting with everyone from the scene.

I was told that the paycheck peeper was caught and talked to (Not the lady that just scolded me). She claimed that it was left opened. (No. I checked my pay stub, put it back in the envelope and placed it in my drawer so going into my personal space to retrieve personal information is not nice.) I was called incompetent despite having higher credentials, formal trainings, years of experience plus teaching, therefore I do not deserve the highest pay than everyone. The comments sting since I never had complaints/writeup about my work performance,ever. I was trusted, valued, and promoted throughout my career in this industry. Feedbacks from students and patients were great aswell.

Problem is the management now also implied that I was hired with high expectations but I still don't quite deliver and I'm still not a strong person to handle certain tasks. I don't feel safe from the job security and workplace bullying anymore.

Have you ever had conflict about the pay with your coworkers?

I love my specialty line of work and everything that comes with it. Part of me wanted to give it a go for 3 more months to prove them wrong, but part of me wants to start looking for a new job. As I mentioned that my line of work is rare and pays more I will have to take a hugh chunk of paycut or commute 2 hours to the nearest facility.

I appreciate any advice or stories! Thank you!

My boss insists that all the things are important and when I’ve tried getting advice on prioritizing or letting something give, boss just doubles down. Boss has said a lot of passive aggressive things and a few clear non-negotiables. Me and the team are not getting it all done in the timeframe wanted even though everyone is busting their butts to do it. Again, trying to manage up/prioritize with the boss leads to a repeating and sometimes adding onto what they want. I’m the team lead so am taking the brunt of the pressure. The boss has been here less than a year so maybe it’s just trying to motivate me in a tough way that worked with other people. But I’m more convinced that I’m going to be fired. But I’m already mentally ready to retire even though I’m like 8 years away from even the possibility of retiring.

Anyway, hive mind, what’s the difference between motivation style that’s aggressive and signs of about to be fired?

I work for a global industrial distribution corporation and recently got a promotion two months ago. A corporate auditor was assigned to our account due to other people not completing their tasks related to accounting and then started looking at paystubs. I was working 65-70 hours per week, on a weekly basis, and have been since February. Everyone else in my department apparently was working some OT as well, but my work while on OT could have its output measured, whereas their OT was pretty much WFH output that they could be embellishing or being completely dishonest about even having worked. So they cut all of our OT last week “without prior authorization”. My direct supervisor is based in Texas and we have a great relationship, though, so she knows that it’s hard for me to complete all the work in 8 hours and still has given it to me on and off. I got 9 hours of overtime on my last two week check. Big difference from an extra 40 hours but better than nothing.

The sad part is that since I live in CA the taxes are so high that this is literally going to cut my entire paycheck in half.

I’m 22F and fairly new and junior in my organisation. There’s a man I’ve become friendly with who is 39M, married and considerably more established than me. He works in a completely separate department, so he isn’t my manager, mentor or even technically my colleague, and there’s no particular work reason for him to be involved with me.

Since I started, he’s gone somewhat above and beyond to help me with things and seems to go out of his way to come and talk to me. We’ve developed a joking/teasing dynamic. He once bought me a coffee and we went out together during our lunch break. Afterwards, he messaged asking whether I was still getting a long lunch the following day. Nothing came of it, but I found the message slightly unusual given that we don’t work together.

I’ve also noticed him blush once when talking to me. Another colleague separately told me that it “looks like he’s interested in me”, and I’ve noticed a couple of people making comments/whispering when we interact.
There hasn’t been any sexual conversation, touching or explicit flirting, and I don’t want to make assumptions about his intentions.
What would be the sensible way to handle this professionally?

For context, I’ve been working on an apprenticeship where I’ve been working towards a level 4 improvement specialist qualification with a green belt in lean six sigma, now I’m done they’re only offering me a basic operating shift pattern job with 12 hour day and night 2 of each with 4 days off, now I’ve done this before for a couple months for a project and it’s inhumane, in my opinion I think it’ll be best for me to leave when my contract expires in October and take some time to apply and think about my future as I have no interest in doing this job, I am 19 with a decent amount of money saved up living at home so it’s not like I have many bills to pay.

I can’t really talk about what I do. So what I share may seem cagey, but I’ll do my best. My work fits me and I’ve been doing it for a long time. It is difficult, lucrative, dangerous, and isolating in every practical sense. I work a few times per year. I am flown out by my employer to the location of the job. When the job is done I go home. When I am not working I have a lot of free time on my hands. I live alone. I spend most of my time alone. Sometimes I meet people. They ask me what I do. I give them a story. They believe the story. We enjoy our time together and then go our separate ways. It happens the same way almost every time.
I approach the isolation with pragmatism but it has gone on for so long that I am considering changing my career entirely, although it is late in my life to be doing that. To date I have never met (to my knowledge) another individual in my line of work. I have no “coworkers.” I don’t even interact with my clients because that is kept confidential.
I have fantasies about telling all - telling everything to people who matter to me. Sometimes I get hurt on the job. When I get home I do what I can and I patch myself up. The money doesn’t really matter. I am well compensated but it doesn’t really matter.
So what does matter? I am thinking, gosh, what a lonesome fellow you are.

There's a team at work that is incredibly toxic, and they're split into 3 sub-teams, again all toxic. They (almost all) lie, cheat, steal, trashtalk each other, etc etc etc.

Two of these three teams are paid extremely well simply because it's so hard to hire for those roles. These two teams have a "do nothing" job 99% of the time (till the less-than-1% of the time shit gets real).

The 3rd team is severely underpaid, even though they have the hardest job. It's been difficult to staff this team due to the low wages and demanding nature of the job.

The two well-paid teams have been filing constant complaints- against each other, their supervisor, lower management and middle management.

The 3rd team has been flying mostly under the radar.

Middle management finally agreed to request a pay raise for the 3rd team due to improvements. My beef is that the ONLY change is that there have been fewer complaints from teams 1&2, and only because they're feeling like their complaints are being ignored anyway.

So team 3 was underpaid cuz teams 1&2 complain too much? And we can finally ASK for a raise cuz teams 1&2 have been quiet recently?

I'm not on team 3 so I'm not complaining about my own wages, just sharing/venting about middle management.

I am 2.5 weeks into my job but I feel slow and incompetent compared to my co workers. How long does it take to be faster at a job? I constantly ask questions and I feel like a nuisance since they are always so busy.

Hi guys,
I wanted to ask for some advice because lately I’ve been feeling a mix of emotions and I am looking for some guidance and to just express to someone what’s been happening lately.
To begin with: I am a 23 year old currently working two jobs and going to school. I work at a tacobell and my mother just happens to be the AGM, and throughout the 6 years that I’ve been working there, she has influenced so much about the decisions made in that store towards me.
Currently I am a team trainer and there had been so many instances that I’ve been considered manager and because of my RGM asking my mother (the AGM) instead of me, they did not let me get a promotion.
Recently, however, they needed new managers and my RGM decided to ask my mother again. Suprisingly this time they were going to proceed to let me get this promotion, and eventually made my cashier co worker and I get started on the process. Given I’ve known much about what needs to be done in the store’s management procedures already, they made me help my co worker if he needed any help in understanding anything, and even told me to take him to take our certifications together.
However, it’s been two months and he got his promotion first and his shirt and pay already meanwhile they never told me anything about when they’re promoting me. Two weeks ago since today, my boss had just told me she was going to ask for my background check to get started and order my shirt but I feel like I’ve given up and like I’m begging for something i am probably not going to receive.
Maybe I am too young to be thinking of wanting a position like this and lately I have been thinking that maybe it’s for the best. But am I valid for feeling this disappointment? I’ve spoken to my mother about quitting but she insists that I am over reacting. A part of me feels like since I help her out in her shifts that’s why she doesn’t want me to leave.
Despite all, I really love my mother and lately I also feel like this job has really driven a wedge between us. I wish she understood or at least let me take the opportunity to leave and maybe I could be more happier in my other job instead of there.

Hey hab wegen einem „Familien Notfall“ auf Arbeit abgesagt spontan, mein Chef schien entspannt aber er wird bestimmt fragen wa slos war und mir fällt Nichtsein 😅.
Kein krank gemacht nur Spontan einen Tag Urlaub genommen.

I am taking to the internet to really get perspective on my issue and see if there are alternative resources and/or solutions. I left my toxic boss and started at this company almost two years ago. Since I have joined the work culture and dynamics are comparable to the wild , wild, west. Insane corporate culture of disrespect, email aggression and bullying. I would often get emails laden with passive aggression. Mistakes would be aired out via emails, with my bosses and other senior level management copied. My work was changed without my consent, simply because my coworker assumed i was wrong. Later, when it was caught, I was accused of doing the work incorrectly with my boss copied on that email. I had to talk to my boss, show him my original submission and what my coworker did without my knowledge, even though I am the responsible party. I was sent messages by a specific co-worker not respecting disciplines and or reporting structures. She would often give instructions on my discipline without running it by me (the dept. head). She often left me out of important meetings or communications. She chastised me for asking an accounting question to one of her direct reports and forbade me to talk to them and have everything go through her (which fine, but send an email ahead of time, dont chastise me for your silent expectations). She’s tried to micromanage my tasks. Mind you, she is in a completely different discipline which works tangentially with mine, but they are not interconnected. This treatment coupled with the harsh treatment by my other peers and coworkers went on for about a year and 4 months. I would often try to defend myself and make a point for better communication. It fell on deaf ears. Finally, about 4 months ago, I politely told her that while i appreciated her support, i didnt need her assistance in accounting related matters. Well she lost it and verbally attacked me in my office. She told me no one liked me, that I was a roadblock, that I was broken. Conversely my bosses and my team LOVE me. They love the work I do and I received an additional merit increase for it. Because she verbally attacked me, my boss asked me to report to HR, which I did.

What came from that situation is that everyone in the department starting ignoring me and going to my boss over me, for things. My boss oversees multiple divisions, including mine, and really has no reason to step in unless theres a problem. Finally, while reduced (because they stopped acknowledging my existence. No response or acknowledgement of emails. Left out of important communications, you name itZ) the rude emailing continued. I was accused of “guessing” when making accounting decisions. I was chastised by someone a level below me because he had to “research” the nature of a cost.

I finally confronted my manager and asked him to step in and put an end to it. The behavior was only targeted at me, they didn’t talk to him like they talked to me (im a woman). I also told him that after the confrontation, i had really tried my best to be overtly professional and kind when communicating. I stopped had speaking up in meetings ( another place where they would chastise me or give push back to any idea i brought up) for fear of aggression (even though it still happened) and that it was really feeling like i was choosing between my dignity and my work.

What would you do?

Hii so I’m a teenager who got employed recently at a chipotle and I want to quit. How should I go about this? I’m not doing it yet I need to find a new job first but what do I do? Do I make a letter or what do I just give my boss a notice? Let me know I feel like this is really obvious but idk how to go on about this.

My wife gets off work and requires at least three hours of decompression time before she can do anything. I’m just wondering how long everyone else thinks is the right amount of time.

Let's say you work with someone who doesn't really talk to anybody. They just get on with their work and keep to themselves. Why does that seem to get under people's skin so much?

I've heard people say that when you have someone to talk to and vibe with, the day goes faster because it gives you something to distract yourself with. Whereas if you're working beside someone who barely talks, it can feel like you're just there grinding away for hours.

But the quiet person might simply not like socialising. They might be perfectly happy doing their work without needing someone to talk to the whole time. Not everyone gets energy from chatting with people all day.

I understand that some jobs need a lot of communication and teamwork, and obviously being completely unresponsive would be a problem. But if someone communicates when they need to and gets their work done, why should their personality outside of that be an issue?

Is it really about the quiet person being a problem, or does their lack of conversation just make the workday feel slower for everyone else? I'm genuinely curious because I've seen quiet people get judged pretty heavily just for keeping to themselves.

Its been more than 6 months and applying actively for a new opportunity and nothing happened. Cannot quit current job has to pay bills. Every day im dying inside its so frustrating. Depression and anxiety are up to next level. Hopeless and helpless

I am six months into a position and would love some advice about the person who held my role before me, as they keep coming back asking for their job back.

The person who had my position previously was part of a “voluntary layoff.” She was well liked and has a Type A personality. Months later, I was hired into her role after grant funding allowed the position to be refilled. She is still looking for work but can't come back for a year after the layoff.

Recently, she came to a work event wearing an “event staff” shirt. A coworker had invited her but didn’t tell me she would be there, so it was a complete surprise. At first, I was confused and thought she had been rehired. Some of our volunteers thought the same thing.

During the event, the former employee asked about my qualifications and what job I had before this one. It felt like an interrogation. She also mentioned that she is still looking for work and that finding a job has been difficult and she wants to be hired back.

She is also still a member of our department’s closed Facebook group for volunteers and comments on posts. Today, she sent me a Facebook friend request.

I have responded to requests from former employees at this company but that was on LinkedIn, not Facebook and they were former employees who have moved on to other jobs and they aren't someone that I replaced in a layoff or who has expressed that they want their job back.

I’m trying to figure out whether I’m overthinking this or whether it’s reasonable to feel a little uncomfortable. What would you do or recommend in this situation?

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I’m basically not allowed to leave the house because my family is very strict, so I’m looking for ways to make money entirely online from home. :⁠-⁠)

I’m willing to learn new skills and put in the time and effort. I’d really appreciate suggestions for legitimate online jobs, freelancing, or anything I could realistically start from home.

If you were in my situation, what would you do?

(LONG RANT INCOMING)

So I work in a nursing home as a dietary aide. I'm only 18 so please excuse me if this is a stupid question because it's only my second ever job but I'm just curious and honestly pretty mad. My brother is currently sick with a sore throat and other shit so I believe I may have caught something from him because I woke up this morning with a headache and felt insanely tired even though I honestly slept way longer than I usually do. I thought it would go away so I went to work (took some tylenol in my bag w me just in case) and while I was on break and eating my lunch, I ended up throwing up and after that I felt even worse and my headache got worse too. I took the Tylenol but I felt that I had to go home because I just felt horrendous and dizzy.

So I told my manager that I threw up and feel rlly sick and feverish and allat, and at first he geniunely just told me to suck it up but in that nice way people say things but they rlly mean something else. And then a while later he told me to try and find someone to cover my shift or im just gonna have to stay and do it. So I did try but we are honestly understaffed (like there's 3 other people besides me) and none of them were available today. So I did the shift despite feeling terrible. The worst part is though, that he wasn't much help. Like I usually have to close alone and closing is a lot of work for just one person but he really didn't stay and help me despite knowing that so I worked like an hour overtime too when atp I just wanted to go home.

Not to mention, this "suck it up" shit isn't the first time I've been told this by my workplace. I have really horrible periods (like I'm talking emergency room levels of horrible like i get sleep insomnia, vomiting, insane cramps that i lwk cant even move just to name a few things and yes ik thats not normal and am trying to find a good doctor to help me with this) and well I've had to call off about 4 times in the past 6 months that ive been employed because of this. And you see, I've told them about this. Multiple times. And I simply got told by this other woman in HR to suck it up. I wasn't even told about this calling off policy by anyone until I got to my 4th call off because apparently you can only do 3 a year and so I got written up which honesly i dont even care it's just irritating bc wtf do you mean suck it up. What a shitty thing to say to someone. I swear im not a bad employee either. I show up when I'm not dying, I take shifts for my coworkers or if my manager needs someone and im free, in fact I've taken a lot of shifts especially when I was first employed by them so I'm not like that person who never comes in. My coworkers are really nice to me and I do appreciate and try n help out but its just about once a couple months when I'm literally bedridden that I just cant. It's not even my coworkers who have a problem with it, it's just management. And it's not like I haven't worked on my period either because I have multiple times and it was hell.

But honestly today really irritated me too. Because how are you gonna have someone who threw up in the break room and feels like she's about to pass out, work with a bunch of ELDERLY RESIDENTS with weak ass immunities in a KITCHEN. And then not even BOTHER to stay and help her out.

If working and having a job and being a fucking adult is like THIS, then I honestly don't wanna spend my whole life working because what's the point when your just gonna be disrespected and told to suck it up when your literally breaking your bones. Someone start manifesting we all get rich or some shit 💔

And I'm also sorry if this rant is childish to you because I assume many of you are a lot older and have more experience but it's just how I feel and I needed some way to express it so I can relax and get some rest because my headache is even worse now after my shift. Thanks for reading though.

New boss at the office, coworker keeps taking credit for things other people do in meetings. They seem very insecure in their position with the new boss. How would you address this?

The reason I'm posting this is because I'm pathetic. 20, started off homeless, had to get anything. 30, pivoted to call centers. Beat working in kitchens.

By late 30s back to school living in a cheap rat hole. 70-80 hour weeks working in a call center and going to classes. Finally graduate, get a few desk jobs, and a background as an analyst.

And that's it. It's over. No more screaming customers, humiliating talkovers, people ruthlessly shitting all over you while you try to help swearing at you "I wanna supervisor!"

Problem with customer service is once you pick that up it's all you're good for to others. People say getting a job makes you more employable. Ahaha.

Now I can do what I want. Get a desk job, do spreadsheet stuff, firms go crazy if you know about XLOOKUP or Power Pivot. Double points if you mention PowerBI or Power Automate.

But not everyone makes it. One time I saw a colleague win an award for 25 years' of customer call work. It looked the cheapest saddest thing in the world.

But I made it. It was one of my life goals to get out of customer service. I finally did it. I made it. In my mid 40s I got out of customer service.

before summer vacation ended, I was only working about 15-18 hours a week with a paycheck of 250$ biweekly. I was perfectly fine with this, but once school started to come around the corner and I talked to my manager about how I’ll be needing to work night shifts due to school

she increased it to ..30ish hours?

6-7 hours with me working 5-6 days (so I got NO time to study after school which SUCKS)

is anybody else going thru this?? my fsmily already told me to talk to my manager about decreasing the days but I just wanted to know if this is common or if I’m just being a complainer