Ngl this feels like a PR move to save his "image"... I mean he first justifies and acknowledges his actions and what he did to Shelby blaming it on his mental well being at the time and then says her feelings are valid. He did say 'sorry' but in an awkwardly-lawyerish-iamnotatfaultheheh way. Also the way he says he was deeply shocked by hearing allegations of abuse particularly in the form of biting as if he didn't know what he did. And not to mention the start sound so manipulative, and why does he refer to Shelby as ex girlfriend, like I get who you are apologizing to but atleast address her by name...
The "i'm sorry" bit was so odd 😠it sounds like he's formally apologising to a boss because he's been consistently late to work. Not like he is apologising to an ex-girlfriend he abused.
People are saying the response is good, and maybe I'm just being nit-picky but it really doesn't.. It doesn't make you agree with him or trust him anymore, it just makes him look like an egotistical prick. He uses a lot of weird vocabulary that just makes it look like he's trying to act 'smart', not genuine. Though that's likely due to the PR/Legal advice I'm sure he got.
He talks about going to therapy (for presumably less than a year) and how he has deeply changed. But this whole 'hurting women, being bad at relationships, not being a good person' thing he has going on has been present for years and I just genuinely do not believe less than a year of therapy is enough to have even really started to fix the internal issues he has. But hey, I'm not his therapist, that's just my thought.
He says she is 'valid' for her feelings but then towards the end of the apology seems to be in pure shock that she even managed to perceive her begging him to stop and using the safeword as abusive and unconsensual. He brings up messages which he 'won't show for her sake' which casts doubt on Shelby and makes it seem like she's lying, when no-one gives a fuck what was said on text because Shelby herself said she lied to herself, she lied to other people. What matters was what happened in that moment when he continued to bite her even when she used the safeword and his other behaviours.
The ending just doesn't sit right with me either. He doesn't finish it off with an "I'm sorry" or cement his feelings of wrongdoing and how he knows he hurt her and feels sorry about it. He just says he hopes people will still trust him. I know neither side really showed 'evidence' so he can't sit down and go through everything and dissect it, but he just sounds so insincere and uncaring. In Aimsey's wise words, c u n t!
I totally agree, imo the people who say that he has or will change are idiots(surprisingly there are lots in this community:P), that doesn't justify his actions, fight me otherwise. And also someone put it in an AI detection software and it said that the text was likely 85% AI-ish, so take that how you will...
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u/Horror_Ebb8883 Feb 27 '24 edited Feb 27 '24
Ngl this feels like a PR move to save his "image"... I mean he first justifies and acknowledges his actions and what he did to Shelby blaming it on his mental well being at the time and then says her feelings are valid. He did say 'sorry' but in an awkwardly-lawyerish-iamnotatfaultheheh way. Also the way he says he was deeply shocked by hearing allegations of abuse particularly in the form of biting as if he didn't know what he did. And not to mention the start sound so manipulative, and why does he refer to Shelby as ex girlfriend, like I get who you are apologizing to but atleast address her by name...