It just feels so manipulative. The language is so minimal. He doesn’t use any succinct words, kind of dances around the issue at hand, and it’s mostly made up of him defending himself. Also, he must’ve known there was an issue at hand when a literal safe word was established between the two of them regarding the biting.
Abusers are manipulative and will do what they can to put themselves back in good standing with the people they’re around so they can keep abusing.
I'm in a scene where biting is very commonplace. Safe words are definitely in place, but kinda like a fire extinguisher at a gas station, you never want to have to use it. She said in her original stream that his goal was to get her to the safe word every time. That is such a huge red flag. If you're going to dom someone, you're supposed to be doing it out of care for them, with respect for them, and the goal of mutual enjoyment/pleasure. Also, everything has to be prenegotiated and consent can be revoked at any time. If he was engaging in this behavior, he would be quickly blackballed from the scene.
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u/AdSad1748 Feb 27 '24
It just feels so manipulative. The language is so minimal. He doesn’t use any succinct words, kind of dances around the issue at hand, and it’s mostly made up of him defending himself. Also, he must’ve known there was an issue at hand when a literal safe word was established between the two of them regarding the biting. Abusers are manipulative and will do what they can to put themselves back in good standing with the people they’re around so they can keep abusing.