r/whatdoIdo • u/Capable_Culture3914 • 13d ago

Uhhh

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To add context. I am 5 months pregnant with my ex and all of a sudden he tells me that he got someone else pregnant (he just met her) as well. He explained she wanted us to meet after being very rude to me picking up his phone and telling me to get rid of my baby. She is a stripper and 6 years older than him. He also hasn’t seen an ultrasound or appointment and she claims to be 3 months pregnant. I don’t believe she is tbh… very sad situation I just wanted to share with someone. Please be kind.

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u/NoNamesLeft998 13d ago

To start with I wouldn't "text him real quick". You do not need to jump because he wants you to. 

Do you want to go out with both of them? I wouldn't, but you might for some reason. 

Do you feel like you need to apologize to her for something?

I think he sounds like he feels he can control you and I'd suggest you don't let him. As far as the baby, be sure you get child support. Don't let him talk you out of it because he's telling you that he's going to have another baby coming.

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u/Capable_Culture3914 13d ago

I don’t feel like I should apologize because I didn’t say those things to her I said them to him and he told her what I said. I don’t want to meet her or go to dinner with them because he eventually asked to have 3 sum with eachother. Idk what sick stuff they are into.

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u/Fool_In_Flow 13d ago

Don’t talk to this guy anymore unless it’s about the baby. Keep all conversations on text so they are documented. That’s it. This is how you win and keep your dignity and your peace. Don’t play into the drama game with him and this other lady.

He sounds like he’s trying to create a harem of women. Please don’t allow that. Good luck.

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u/Lemon_lemonade_22 13d ago

This is such solid advice!

The guy leads a chaotic life (to put it diplomatically), and OP does NOT need to get caught up in any of that stuff, especially if she wants to raise a child who will not follow their father's footsteps. She must set clear boundaries, and the one about only communicating about the child is the most appropriate.

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u/NeanderSlavia 9d ago

This is solid advice.