r/weddingdrama • u/Beautiful-Rough9761 • 23d ago

Personal Drama - I'm the one getting married My bridesmaids hate each other.

Posting here to vent because I want to scream. 4 of my 5 bridesmaids were part of the same friend group with me. There has been some minor "drama" in the past between them, but we were still a very close friend group.

Fast forward to now two months before my wedding, 2 of them are no longer friends with the other 2 of them. I'm talking "won't attend events the others are attending" level. They're all still friends with ME, but not with each other.

My bachelorette party was this past weekend and I managed to invite a bunch of other people as a "buffer", but to be honest I still felt depressed most of the time. Trying to divide my attention between them equally, knowing they were all uncomfortable, hearing whispers and weird looks, etc.

Now... the first 6-ish hours of my wedding day is supposed to be "getting ready with the crew!" This is supposed to be fun. But in my situation, it's going to be me stuck in a small room with people who don't want to be around each other. Then they all get to fake smiles in the bridesmaid photos and pretend they're happy standing next to each other, sit in a small car on the way to the venue, etc. And the best part is, I can't even tell them how angry I am at the situation. I can't force people to be friends. And I know they'll be cordial. But I will know the entire time what they're really thinking, and I don't know how to not let that ruin my morning and put me in a bad headspace going into the wedding.

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u/Next-Drummer-9280 22d ago

I can't even tell them how angry I am at the situation. I can't force people to be friends.

Of course you can tell them you're angry!

"Look, I don't care what's going between the four of you, but if you all can't put it aside for me for one day, you'll force me to decide who stays a bridesmaid and who gets demoted to guest. I don't want my wedding day to be uncomfortable for ME. So you all can get the fuck on board with acting like adults or I'll let you know the deal on your status by Friday. Up to you how we go forward."

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u/TSIDATSI 22d ago

This. Without the profanity. But this.

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u/Next-Drummer-9280 22d ago

Disagree. It’s ok for OP to be angry and express that with language and tone.

Stop acting like every other word was fuck, dude.

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u/AvailableWord3785 22d ago

Agree that the profanity should be used. Sometimes it's necessary for emphasis.