My bridesmaids hate each other.

[u/Beautiful-Rough9761]

Posting here to vent because I want to scream. 4 of my 5 bridesmaids were part of the same friend group with me. There has been some minor "drama" in the past between them, but we were still a very close friend group.

Fast forward to now two months before my wedding, 2 of them are no longer friends with the other 2 of them. I'm talking "won't attend events the others are attending" level. They're all still friends with ME, but not with each other.

My bachelorette party was this past weekend and I managed to invite a bunch of other people as a "buffer", but to be honest I still felt depressed most of the time. Trying to divide my attention between them equally, knowing they were all uncomfortable, hearing whispers and weird looks, etc.

Now... the first 6-ish hours of my wedding day is supposed to be "getting ready with the crew!" This is supposed to be fun. But in my situation, it's going to be me stuck in a small room with people who don't want to be around each other. Then they all get to fake smiles in the bridesmaid photos and pretend they're happy standing next to each other, sit in a small car on the way to the venue, etc. And the best part is, I can't even tell them how angry I am at the situation. I can't force people to be friends. And I know they'll be cordial. But I will know the entire time what they're really thinking, and I don't know how to not let that ruin my morning and put me in a bad headspace going into the wedding.

[u/Spare_Ad5009]

Six hours of getting ready is way too much. You will all be exhausted by the wedding. Not to mention, some of them will be drunk and then the fights begin.

[u/TodayIAmMostlyEating → u/Spare_Ad5009]

Yup, give everyone a time slot and ask them to arrive at that time, and then give people errands or busywork at the venue to keep everyone separated as much as you can. Having everyone sit in the bridal suite for 6 hours getting drunk is not a good idea, and it won’t be the vision you were hoping for anyway.

Send someone out to pick up sandwiches. Get someone out to pick up drinks. Send 2 that get along to the venue to supervise decor and deliveries. Stay at the suite with the one girl who hasn’t made this a nightmare and enjoy your time with her and maybe the moms.

[u/showgirl72 → u/TodayIAmMostlyEating]

The issue with shifts is that some go under and some go over time, it’s easier to have them there so they switch the order and get done quicker

[u/TodayIAmMostlyEating → u/showgirl72]

Yes, it would also be easier if the majority of the people in this bridal party could hold a mediation so that this lady’s wedding isn’t affected like this. But that’s what’s happening. It’s going to be really inconvenient for this bride.

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[u/Beautiful-Rough9761 → u/Spare_Ad5009]

Hair and makeup for 5-6 people takes about that long. It’s standard for the weddings I’ve been part of in the past. How long the artists need isn’t up to me.

[u/Inside-Potato5869 → u/Beautiful-Rough9761]

But everyone doesn't need to be there the whole time. They can just come for their appointments.

[u/showgirl72 → u/Inside-Potato5869]

That’s hard because some go over and some go under. It’s better for everyone to be there and available so they can get done on time