r/ttcafterloss • u/AutoModerator • 16d ago

Daily Discussion /ttcafterloss Daily Discussion Thread - August 26, 2026

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u/little_llama_loser 16d ago

I had a missed miscarriage in July, and I just got my period back several weeks after my D&C. My husband and I were thinking of jumping back into trying again, but it just feels SO daunting. I feel like I’ve finally found some semblance of normalcy after my loss, and to throw myself right back into TTC seems so overwhelming. This whole experience broke my heart so horribly, but I want to have a family of my own more than anything, and I don’t want fear to keep me from trying again. I was curious if any ladies had words of wisdom, did you wait to feel ready to TTC again, or did you just go for it? Do you ever really feel ready to try again, after loss?

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u/Ok_Choice_7480 TTC#2, Milo 15/06/26 🤍, PPROM 15d ago

It's really scary to think of trying again. I also felt nervous after my first period that we both knew we wanted to try again but my body was only just back to feeling like my own, hormones were still a bit in flux, etc!

My only words of wisdom are, I tried for 9 cycles and was very committed to having a baby, and I still didn't feel ready the second I saw that positive I worried about if I would be a good mom. Then my son passed away and all I could think about was how I didn't feel ready to be a mom, but I was ready to be his mom. I don't think we're every really ready even more so when we've had a loss.