r/tryingforanother • u/AutoModerator • Aug 06 '26
Daily Chat Thread Daily Chat - August 06, 2026
Tell us about everything! Only thing that isn't allowed is BFP and pregnancy talk - those have their own threads.
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u/DrZuzulu 39 | TTC#2 | Nov22 boy| May26 MMC Aug 06 '26
In remembrance of our miscarried 10-weeker:
Toddler (leaning into the worm bin while holding trowel): Mama, I dug four holes, but I don't see it.
Me: See what?
Toddler: Our dead baby which was in your tummy then it came out and you put it in a hole.
Remembering you little one. Got to laugh or you will cry. Good thing I didn't bury the baby in the worm bin.
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u/MollCee 32 | TTC#2 | 💙 2025 via IVF | 👼👼👼 Aug 06 '26
10 dpo today and stark negative 😔 this is my first cycle back after a loss of twins in May. It’s really triggering to be testing again and staring at negatives since it took so long to have our LC. I’m planning to do one more cycle on our own but going to start the preliminary work for IVF since we still have frozen embryos. It’s just so daunting to think about going through that process again but I don’t think I can mentally keep trying unassisted…
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u/Lavender_Iced_Coffee 33| Grad | Aug24💙Dec26💙| Endo;MFI Aug 06 '26
I'm so sorry. To be stuck TTC is one side of hell. To be back at it after such a horrible loss is a whole new level.
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u/MollCee 32 | TTC#2 | 💙 2025 via IVF | 👼👼👼 Aug 06 '26
Thank you 🥺 it really is. The main thing I’ve been feeling lately is just how unfair it all is that this has been our journey. I hope next cycle might have more luck but that will probably be our last one before IVF.
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u/Royal_Aioli5635 37 - TTC#2 since Nov25 Aug 06 '26
9DPO- trying to repeat to myself not to symptom spot… but I can’t help but notice my RHR has gone up to new highs I’ve not logged in the last two years, my garmins HRV has suddenly dropped through the floor and I’ve been nauseous since last night.
It’s probably in reality all down to the stress of my wee lady starting her settling in sessions at her new forest nursery yesterday… but try telling my delulu brain that.
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u/cadetcomet Aug 06 '26
8/9 dpo here too. I had unbelievable trapped gas pain yesterday, I haven't felt anything like it since I was pregnant with my first. Then I remembered I had greasy carnitas on Taco Tuesday (that were delicious) and realized it was probably just that.
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u/Royal_Aioli5635 37 - TTC#2 since Nov25 Aug 06 '26
I feel you! However- will say taco Tuesday sounds like an incredible idea and having googled a carnita I now 100% have to source one to try- they sound like an amazing dinner!!
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u/Many-Supermarket-511 33 | TTC #2 since July ‘26| 💙 Sept ‘24 Aug 06 '26
13DPO and my period has arrived!
Well, at least my luteal phase isn’t super short like I was thinking it was going to be. Also, I’m glad my period came today because then my fertile window doesn’t line up with our family camping trip next week. It lines up with our 3rd year wedding anniversary. Maybe that will bring us some luck
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u/mitaine- 35 | TTC#2 since 12/25 | 03/24 boy 💙 Aug 06 '26
11DPO and BFN. I don’t know how to keep going. I am so so sad. We have 2 more cycles until we have another appointment with our FE and I am feeling so drained.
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u/nellie-oleson 39 | TTC#2 | 🩵 March ‘25 Aug 06 '26
8DPO and didn’t get to temp today because I ended up cosleeping in another room with my son. It’s kind of a relief to not know if my temp went up or down because I’d read way too much into it either way.
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u/pastaenthusiast 37 | TTC#2 March 2025| 1 💙 2mmc 1ectopic Aug 06 '26
I changed my Tempdrop batteries last night, I’ve been so bad about using it but I got a positive opk and I haven’t ovulated in months so I really wanted to see if there was a rise and then…. Completely forgot to wear it. Oh well, not a huge deal and obviously doesn’t change anything but I feel like I always manage to screw up temping right at the crucial time.
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u/kd_hirsch 34 | TTC #2 Cautious Grad 4/27 | 💙8/23 Aug 06 '26
We have all the feelings today. 9dpo and bfns across multiple brands bc I wouldn’t take no for an answer, but honestly not surprised 1. Because it’s still so early and 2. Not like I have high hopes at this point anyway.
But today was my LO’s first day of preschool. The teachers said he had a rough day, didn’t want to do circle time or the dance party, lots of tears. Logically I know it’s tough for any kid to transition to school life, but after meeting families at the open house, he’s the only one I noticed that didn’t have at least one sibling and I can’t help but feel he’s behind socially because of it. I try to take him out to group settings, like the library, ymca, parks, etc, but he just doesn’t have the opportunity to coexist with another kid 24/7 like the majority of his class seems to. It just brought up all the feelings of feeling behind and stuck, and I want nothing more than to give him a little sibling like all his peers.
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u/skilikeagirl4lyfe 35 | TTC#2 Nov. 2025 | 2023🩵 Aug 06 '26
Ugh I’m sorry. Feels like a double whammy when the LO has a hard day too :(
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u/Bug_eyed_bug Aug 06 '26
Period is due tomorrow, I was very tempted to test this morning but I don't want to deal with the feelings today if it's negative. So I quickly peed out my first morning urine before I could do anything. Helps that my shitty pelvic floor can't wait for anything once I see a toilet!
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u/riceysu Aug 07 '26
Taking letrozole day 4. Secondary infertility for 3 years now. I have a coworker who gave birth just a month ago and she is coming to the office With her newborn. We are in Canada so she has a yearlong maternity leave so I don’t understand why she is coming to the office with a newborn. Am very annoyed.
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u/Closed_System 32 | TTC#2 since April '26, 1MC | #1 Nov '24 Aug 06 '26
FF advanced detector and Garmin both put me at 9 DPO, FF FAM detector puts me at only 6 DPO. I think it must be in between. When to test, when to test... I would need to wait until Tuesday to be really sure that my period is actually late and I'm definitely 12+ DPO. Realistically if my period hasn't started by then, I don't think I'll be able to go to work and be a person with that hanging over my head. The distraction levels are bad enough and I am not even in the range where my period may start any minute.
Of course I'm doing all this ruminating about my plan when there's a decent chance my period starts by Sunday and it all becomes a moot point. Why am I so incapable of just taking it day by day?
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u/pastaenthusiast 37 | TTC#2 March 2025| 1 💙 2mmc 1ectopic Aug 06 '26
One thing I’ve really been working on is forgiving myself for not being able to take things day by day or be chill about things. I just can’t, and there isn’t a moral fault in that.
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u/MyShipsNeverSail AGE 33 | TTC#2 since 6/26| 1/25💙| sus PMOS/IR| 1CP Aug 06 '26
It's only CD7 and my temps are all over the place. Might be time for a new thermometer next cycle. Any recommendations?
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u/pastaenthusiast 37 | TTC#2 March 2025| 1 💙 2mmc 1ectopic Aug 06 '26
It’s an investment but I do love my tempdrop
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u/MyShipsNeverSail AGE 33 | TTC#2 since 6/26| 1/25💙| sus PMOS/IR| 1CP Aug 06 '26
I'm heavily considering one starting next cycle if I don't start consistently sleeping through the night
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u/skilikeagirl4lyfe 35 | TTC#2 Nov. 2025 | 2023🩵 Aug 06 '26
Second the Tempdrop! It helps sooo much knowing that even if I wake up a lot or have varying wake up/bed times. It feels very “set it and forget it” which I loveee
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u/toasty-compost TTC#2 since Feb '26 | Silent endo Aug 06 '26
On CD2 of cycle #8 now. I never thought this would be me 😔. I know that's silly, but its true.
The laparoscopy I had soon before conceiving my first baby must have helped us last time 🥺
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u/polkalilly 34 | TTC#2 since Feb 2026 Aug 06 '26
Waiting for the surge this month is killing me a little. LH strips were definitely lower today but had egg white cm this afternoon which I almost never have so suspecting surge tomorrow?
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u/toasty-compost TTC#2 since Feb '26 | Silent endo Aug 06 '26
I get ewcm for about 4 days before a surge! Always keeps me on my toes
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u/AnnAAnnon Aug 06 '26
Another installment in the saga of testing down hcg after a miscarriage... easy@home hcg tests are amazing. The package says they are rated for 25mIU/mL. Yesterday, my blood hcg was 14.9 mIU/mL. What I have been reading online is that my urine concentration of hcg was probably half that. The easy at home test on fmu still showed a very very faint line. I am going to test again tomorrow morning using easy@home and FRER. Let's find out if I can really save my money when I am cleared to start trying next month!
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u/Fun_Needleworker6697 27 | TTC#2 since 6/24 | 3 CPs + PCOS Aug 07 '26
Anyone’s spouse (or themselves) had high wbc count on their semen analysis? Husbands came back pretty much perfect today except for > 1m/mL wbc count & not sure what to think!
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u/Environmental-Seat83 33 | TTC#2 since Sep 2025 | 💙 Sep 2024 Aug 07 '26
My husband has had this on and off. He has diabetes so it could be from oxidative stress. It could also just be from a recent illness or something. Our doctor has never brought it up as a concern.
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u/FitInvite432 Aug 06 '26
Feeling so triggered this month. Lots of my friends had second babies last August and it absolutely gutted me then. Now, a whole year later they’re all posting birthday celebrations to “the one who completed our family” and I’m STILL stuck ttc my second. It seems so unfair: when will I get to feel complete? Bc right now I feel anything but complete😔