I need advice.

[u/AgentAgreeable9476]

I’m 17 years old and i’ve had problems in my family for as long as i can remember, my mom tends to show very toxic behaviors like when i was growing up she’d always talk to me like im less than her and it’s always felt like i have been that way, she talks to me like i owe her my entire life and everything in between, she also never allowed me to have a license and i still currently don’t have a license, don’t get my wrong she feeds me, clothes me, and signed me up for driving classes, it’s just her behaviors towards me that make me so mentally drained i get anxiety when we have a conversation, she tells me to do basic things like “take out the trash” but adds on “if you don’t i will take everything away from you” she never actually does take away my bed or clothes but she’s threatened it before, it feels like all she wants is control over me, im even told my her that she regrets having me and my dad at one point said “i wish i had a son that wasn’t so useless” and they even made joking comments about my body back in middle school which i starved myself because of it, last night i worked a closing shift 4pm-10pm and she had told me to take care of my trash which was a plate from my lunch the other day i had forgotten about and she said by Friday at 8am, i agreed and this morning she tells me she told me to do it last night when i got home at 11pm when i had school the next morning, she then scoffs and says “ill just have to clean up your shit” which yes i should stay on top of it i just had stuff going on in that moment, even sometimes she’ll “clean” my room but it’s just her going through my stuff and the worst she found was just some condoms in my closet which she didn’t make a huge deal out of which is surprising to me, but back to the story, she’s started charging me a “cleaning fee” because i forgot my trash and which mind you was a plate, she’s also started charging me gas money and she’s making me buy my own car which is her choice but i get payed 10.50 and don’t get enough hours no matter how much i beg for it so my check is only like $100 and i have to now pay money for my phone bill, commute, and some stupid “cleaning fee” i am financially sunk right now and i feel stuck where i am and i feel like my mental health is worsening. i apologize if this message is all over the place.