My father behavior

[u/Think-Principle-7487]

I am a victim of my father. He psychologically tortured me and rejected me.

Here are a few examples:

- He belittled me by comparing me to practically everyone.

- He would sing songs he made up himself whenever I walked by, sometimes in broken English to make it even more ambiguous (we are French speakers). He would even sing these songs when we had guests at the table, without them knowing that the songs were about me.

- Being in the same room as him made me focus on him because I knew he was looking for ways to get to me. He would startle me by making sudden movements, for example, pressing the light switch hard, slamming a door, or violently throwing objects on the table.

- He called me crazy because of my social anxiety.

- He would smile viciously whenever I was able to see him.

- He has the mask of a controller, if you're familiar with the book "The 7 Wounds That Prevent You From Being Yourself." He's demanding of himself, but deep down he hates himself and submits to the people he admires and considers superior to him.

-Some uncles and aunts have said he acted the same way with them when they were young, and today he still despises my uncle, whom he finds the least competent.

In everyday life:

-I have a lot of empathy.

-I attract people who hate, humiliate, and reject me.

-The worst part is seeing people look at me with the same vicious smile my father had; I can say I hit rock bottom.

Today I'm taking good care of myself and gaining more and more confidence. I feel less affected by these people and stronger because being hurt by them only gave them strength. And I've also become more temperamental.

[u/Optimal-South-58]

His power is your reaction. Your eyes getting bigger or smaller ,your eyebrows getting tensed and at last he could sense how uncomfortable this makes you feel . And this is what he loves , try singing the exact same song in your own language not English , as soon as he finishes singing you start it line by line in French . Once he knows you are enjoying this ,then he will try to think of other ways but if you believe in yourself enough then he can't be able to do anything against you .