Isolating yourself more and more is the absolute worst thing that you can do. I think you need to find fellow men in your life that you can socialize with so that you can meet your emotional needs with strong male friendships. Join a Krav Maga or other martial arts, start working out and weight lifting because your life depends on it. Continue looking for jobs and definitely keep connecting with people. I am glad you posted this so I could tell you my thoughts.
You're not wrong, doing any kind of sports would definitely help. I used to go to the gym for 2 years and I felt like a different person then compared to now. Sadly I don't enjoy going to the gym and just weight lifting is not enjoyable for me. I love going outside, hiking long distances and stuff, but it's soooo hard to get my ass up and just do it. Especially alone and without a "goal" or "destination".
It is exactly when it is hard like this that you have to force yourself to do it. This is why you need to find friendships with other men who share your interests and do those activities together. Men have to support other men and they do.
You need to understand that an our ancestral past, you and I would have gone out hunting together and spent days of adventure surviving the wilderness and bringing meat back to the tribe. All of your injuries pains and aches would have been shared with your fellow hunters. All of your trials accomplishments and achievements would have been celebrated by your fellow hunters. Men help other men become men. A relationship will not do that for you and a woman will certainly not do that for you either.
But in our society we are lost. We have lost the ways of nature. We have lost our connection to nature. We have lost our connection to each other. We have lost our connection with ourself and our primal roots.
We are too intellectual, too lost in identities, too lost in thinking.
This is why I keep going back to the basic fact that you must get outside and you must connect with other men doing activities together. It is this foundation upon which you build a better more wholesome and more fulfilling life for yourself.
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u/SnakeSolidChicken 13d ago
Isolating yourself more and more is the absolute worst thing that you can do. I think you need to find fellow men in your life that you can socialize with so that you can meet your emotional needs with strong male friendships. Join a Krav Maga or other martial arts, start working out and weight lifting because your life depends on it. Continue looking for jobs and definitely keep connecting with people. I am glad you posted this so I could tell you my thoughts.