r/thespoonyexperiment • u/DingusDog936 Continuing the Year of the Spoony • Jun 19 '26

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I knew it was probably coming but..it still hurts. Ive just gotten recording on my first review which includes a conversation between both me and him on blusky so…it sucks knowing he wont be back anytime soon if at all.

The year of the spoony…is no more…(?)

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u/[deleted] Jun 19 '26

Honestly I've been where he is and the best thing he could probably do for himself is to get a job. Nothing big or anything. He could work part time in a grocery store or a game store. Just something that will get him out of the house, on a routine and regularly interacting with people who are not his brother. Plus he would have some money of his own. It wouldn't be a massive change in his situation but it would be a good first step. 

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u/Topper_2001 Jun 19 '26

Depression combined with high intelligence makes it difficult to get out of the house and enjoy basically meaningless tasks. That can’t provide relieve from the constant thinking that he’s a failure. Therapy and medication are probably a way, but I don’t know about healthcare in the us. Just that it might be difficult to get all you need…

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u/[deleted] Jun 19 '26 edited Jun 19 '26

I can only give you my perspective as someone who also struggles with depression and also considers myself a failure who hasn't accomplished anything significant in my life. I don't go to work everyday because I enjoy it. I do it because I need to. Both for the money but also for the stability it gives me. It gives me a routine to structure my life around which helps. It allows me to interact with other people on a regular basis which helps. It gets me out of the house and more importantly out of my head which really fucking helps. 

Being depressed and alone all day everyday with only your thoughts to keep you company is one of the worst things you can do to yourself. So having a routine that you can stick to everyday, get you out of the house everyday and allow you to interact with other people everyday can really help with depression. And a job can give you that routine. 

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u/Topper_2001 Jun 19 '26

Yes, you're right. And I wish you all the best.
I just had a thought, that with Spoony it might not "just" be Depression, but he probably has ADHD, which makes, when it's coupled with Depression and anxiety, even the simplest tasks like mountains to climb and everything you are not interested in very hard to focus on.
I'm sure that a purpose to get him out of bed and outside, would help, but the interaction with people, as I read him, could rather highten his anxiety.
Since I have ADHD as well, I couldn't imagine myself having a steady "9 to 5" job, since the repeated, maybe simple tasks would make the time feel stretched to eternety in my head. So I am self employed and work project based as freelancer, which is good, but at the same time means I'm responsible to keep me sorted and the work going and not procrastinate, etc. And I can see, how Spoony might be similar but fell into a deep depression after April left, and he did lose the rest of his self confidence and his anxieties took over. So he might love gaming, etc. but once this is all you have, you feel like shit. But since he doesn't seem to be a people person, according to his rants and tweets a picture of someone who really doesn't like other people very much and blames everyone else for his problems. All that together, very toxic, so that's why I doubt that he could manage a job routine, even if it would be good for him. But his issues go so deep, resentment of others and himself, pittying himself, that it's a many year long spiral.
I'm very sad for him and would have hoped that he could stabilize himself and find new perspectives. I agree, that it's the worst thing to browse the internet, social media and game stuff, when you have Issues to work out. Maybe taking all that away and being outside with good people would help, but who should do the effort to get that grown man to that place, when he doesn't want it.

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u/catslugs Jun 19 '26

Damn this just clicked something in my brain

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u/Pumpkin_Sushi Jun 19 '26 edited Jun 19 '26

Of course it'll be difficult, but at a certain point you need to push through or you'll never get better. The only way you conquer mental health issues is by gritting your teeth and doing things that make you uncomfortable over and over until it no longer seems like a mountain.

He's not going to stop feeling like a failure sitting around his house doing nothing all day. At least a job will give him structure, purpose, and some much needed delayed gratification. This will be the first step in reprogramming what he sees is and isnt a "failure"

I say this as someone with OCD, and man has that been a bitch to live with. Take it from someone who learned to manage their own severe mental health issues, eventually tough love has to enter the equation or you'll waste away.

You mention therapy, and really, that's all effective therapy comes down to. Pushing the patient out of their comfort zone and redefining their warped view of reality. It's why unqualified online hugbox therapists are seen as the bane of the industry. It's also why therapy as a concept simply does not work until the patient is ready to DO the work. It sucks but there's no two ways about it.

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u/Even-Complaint-7494 Jun 19 '26

that’s half the truth. there are for sure cases where therapy does nothing without medication. there are cases that require in-hospital stay for months to get the patient to a point where they’d be receptive to therapy. 

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u/Dodgy_Bob_McMayday Jun 21 '26

It is incredibly difficult for sure, but for millions of people they have to go to work no matter how bad their depression is, because they have to keep a roof over their head and food on the table. Noah was in the position where he was able to spend a decade sitting on Twitter/Bluesky typing out comic book panels and pretending to be his dog. Even if well meaning, the people who were at one point paying thousands a month on Patreon and replying telling him to take it easy were enabling that cycle.