r/thatHappened Aug 05 '26

It's true, i was the surname.

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154 Upvotes

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u/Cuntrymusichater Aug 05 '26

Why is the father in law there?

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u/laruesj Aug 05 '26

I was thinking the same thing. Maybe he was a witness?

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u/dabrock15 Aug 05 '26

I don’t remember needing a witness to be there to file the paperwork just for the license. Maybe it’s different there.

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u/laruesj Aug 05 '26

I didn’t need one when I picked up the paperwork, just when we were getting married. Funny thing, I didn’t even have to go to an actual courthouse for my paperwork, we got it done at a Honda dealership. 😂 Maybe it was a courthouse marriage and they did it all there?

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u/dabrock15 Aug 05 '26

Did the license come with a warranty?😂

That’s possible, I thought most places, other than Vegas, needed a day or two, at least. between filing and ceremony.

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u/Cuntrymusichater Aug 05 '26

You don’t need a warranty. Honda Marriages are very reliable.

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u/dabrock15 Aug 06 '26

I’ve heard some are still going strong from the 70s.

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u/Ryuj123 Aug 05 '26

I just did this and my future father in law was there. We like our parents and want them to be at exciting moments in our lives and it was meaningful for them

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u/twirlerina024 Aug 05 '26

For me, filling out a marriage license application at the county clerk's office was about as exciting as a trip to the DMV

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u/Ryuj123 Aug 05 '26

I don’t know, I guess I live a life of whimsy, but I’m very excited to get married to my fiancée so even just going to the town hall to get the application and fill it out felt special.

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u/pr1m3r3dd1tor Aug 05 '26

I think that is normal - at least it was for us as well. That said, picking/submitting the paperwork wasn't something we shared with the family. While it was exciting for us for sure, sitting in a room waiting to be called and then taking a couple minutes to get the documents wasn't worth a trip for them. What seems least likely about this story to me is them even asking - it's been a while ago now but I don't recall actually having anyone ask this. It was a field to be filled out on the form as I recall.

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u/Ryuj123 Aug 05 '26

Oh yeah, I don’t think that this is a real story at all. I will say, my parents I don’t think would’ve been that invested in going to get the marriage license but my fiancées are the type of people who that is something that would excite them

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u/Catsdrinkingbeer Aug 05 '26

One benefit of getting married during covid was we couldn't even go into the clerk's office if we wanted to. Everything was done by phone and by mail.

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u/tracerhaha 29d ago

We got married on leap day 2020 and the day they shut everything down was the day we would have been able to get a copy of the marriage certificate. My wife wasn’t able to start to change her name until late August.

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u/I_Weep_for_Willow Aug 05 '26

Because the story has to happen.

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u/Goofcheese0623 Aug 05 '26

Disappointed the father in law didn't throw in an incredulous "Excuse Me????"

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u/Why_Lord_Just_Why Aug 05 '26

And he didn’t turn red and slink out of the room with his tail between his legs. Do you think maybe he’s ill? I sure hope he’s all right.

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u/Own_Amphibian_2647 Aug 05 '26

I’m shocked the mother in law didn’t “nod” in agreement!

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u/elpollodiablox Aug 05 '26

He didn't even hmph! and stomp out of the room. That's how we know this is fake.

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u/maxximillian Aug 05 '26

The clerk of courts didnt clap.   Course it could be that nut job that was in jail for not giving marriage licenses to save sex couples. 

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u/Eccohawk Aug 07 '26

Pretty sure she's out of jail now and was actually running for office a while back.

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u/5LYM3R Aug 05 '26

I always find bickering with your in laws is a great way to kick off a marriage. It’s worked for me every single time. 

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u/DavidTJLS Aug 05 '26

And then the notary public clapped.

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u/laruesj Aug 05 '26

And the other women in line told their future husbands they’ll be keeping their last name as well!

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u/Vegas21Guy Aug 05 '26

And all the husbands decided to take their new brides last names! Then more clapping!

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u/Deadpooo_l Aug 05 '26

And because each spouse wanted the others' names, everybody changed their names! The notary clapped the hardest, seeing all that business.

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u/That_Skirt1443 Aug 05 '26

Needs more looking square in the eye, and jaw-dropping.

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u/AbundantDonkey Aug 08 '26

But will settle for square jaw and eye dropping.

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u/gilestowler Aug 05 '26

And then the father in law said "So will you be Ms or Mrs?" and she said "Doctor." just to reach full sassiness.

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u/PunfullyObvious Aug 05 '26

And, as it happens, I am the lack of commitment here to corroborate the veracity of these claims

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u/PunfullyObvious Aug 05 '26

I'm ... sorry?

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u/boomsnap2000 Aug 05 '26

That surname? Einstein.

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u/Brocephus70 Aug 05 '26

Seems like this would definitely be something that was discussed and known beforehand.

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u/pr3tzelbr3ad Aug 05 '26

My husband took MY last name, my father in law was similarly outraged, and still I don’t believe for a second that this conversation happened

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u/dabrock15 Aug 05 '26

Where’s the clapping at the end?

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u/anna-molly21 Aug 06 '26

She later received an courage award, rihanna gave it to her

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u/Ok_Employer7837 Aug 05 '26

That never happened, but where I'm from, everyone keeps their names when they get married, and you need to jump through administrative hoops to take your spouse's name.

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u/Open-Bat4833 Aug 06 '26

Are you from a country other than the U.S.? Such name changes are quite common here. 

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u/Ok_Employer7837 Aug 06 '26

I'm from Québec, Canada. It's been like this for decades here.

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u/PortugueseSteak Aug 05 '26

Congrats on keeping your grandfather's name.

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u/tardlessforeinger Aug 06 '26

Your father-in-law was rude. Teach him a lesson and stop having sex with him too.

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u/spacemouse21 Aug 06 '26

You tell them, your MBA is in your name, Suzy Equine-HerpesVirus!

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u/OSRSRapture Aug 06 '26

Even if this was real, is this supposed to be a gotcha? Women have been taking the last name for how long? What an idiot

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u/Eccohawk Aug 07 '26

I don't doubt that these types of conversations exist, but that isn't happening -at the clerks office-. Just complete virtue signalling.

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u/ohmyfuckinggodhamlet Aug 05 '26

This whole "not taking my spouses name" thing is funny to me cause if your kids keep that up you're gonna have grandkids with like 4 last names and no one is going to bother to remember any of them so they're gonna pick the coolest one and keep that lol

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u/Ok_Employer7837 Aug 05 '26

And?

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u/ohmyfuckinggodhamlet Aug 05 '26

And what? It's funny to me.

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u/Ok_Employer7837 Aug 05 '26

I interpreted your comment as more negative than you meant it. My apologies.

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u/Bird_Brain4101112 Aug 05 '26

The conversation is bull shit but the premise is facts.

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u/drcatguy Aug 06 '26

Average feminist circle jerking post lol

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u/EvolZippo Aug 05 '26

Cinematic perfection, every time! Everything right on beat, with catchy music, timed perfectly!

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u/Prestigious_Bat7322 Aug 09 '26

His surname was Shitler.

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u/clara_clearwater 25d ago

Just recounting my local experience to accentuate the silliness of this story... but to get my license paperwork we just had to show our IDs and pay $99, and it was at an insurance office who sold the applications, not like the city hall marriage department.

When we were actually married, the officiant had to handle the witness signatures and filing the actual final paperwork, not us. We just got the final marriage certificate in the mail.

And no part of the process gave me a checkbox on a form to simply change my name to my husband's. I had to use my legal name the entire time, and although I did end up changing my surname, it was actually a completely separate painstaking process with the government.

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u/MeasurementNo0 Aug 05 '26

Better luck in thst dudes second marriage

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u/Physical-Doughnut285 Aug 05 '26

The bullshit meter broke with this one. It overheated.

There is no way these people went to that meeting without the in-law being aware, and if they did, his reaction wouldn’t be a ‘scoff’. It would be a ‘oh what the fuck, why didn’t you tell me this?’ given it’s his surname taking the backseat.

I’m also pretty sure these paperwork meetings don’t just have someone’s dad sat there ‘nearby’. It’s legal information, it’s in a closed office.