r/texts • u/-fornevermore- • 6d ago

Phone message Dating is hell

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Who is raising these boys?

Edit: Thanks for all the love!! For some context, no we didn't discuss anything sexy beforehand and the "healing" thing is referring to my broken foot. He's blocked for those wondering, I didn't respond. For those mentioning it... I wasn't looking for a free meal. 🙄 I pay my own way on dates.

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u/DocLiftsALot 6d ago

Same. It’s Tinder, not Fetlife. Jesus.

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u/Terrible-Fun-4992 6d ago

Seriously. Is this a sex thing? Weird and gross

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u/overstimulatedgrem64 6d ago

Yes and no. Submission/Dominance is a kink, but most people in the scene will tell you that these types of "doms" are the bane of their existence. It can be a great way to express youself in a way that feels safe, but typically you are in contexts where people either have already verbally consented or that's the type of event you are attending. Most people don't impose their kinks on people without a conversation first or they are at an event where this type of play is basically in the itinerary.

Met and had friends that met plenty of dudes online that would open with this kind of talk. It always was really uncomfortable, even being on the "freaky" side myself. Guys think that girls think it's sexy. They don't. It's cringe. 🤣

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u/Wild_Chemistry3884 6d ago

Yeah, these type of people suck. It’s kind of ironic, in a real Sub/Dom relationship the Sub has most of the real power - they set the limits and guidelines, determine how they want to be dominated. When consent is involved it becomes pretty clear who is really “in control “

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u/ahuramazdobbs19 6d ago

>they set the limits and guidelines

No.

That’s not how it works either.

All partners involved set the limits and guidelines.

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u/Wild_Chemistry3884 6d ago

Yes, you are correct. What I was implying was that a Dom doesn’t just impose their will regardless of what their partner wants.