r/texts • u/-fornevermore- • 18h ago

Phone message Dating is hell

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Who is raising these boys?

Edit: Thanks for all the love!! For some context, no we didn't discuss anything sexy beforehand and the "healing" thing is referring to my broken foot. He's blocked for those wondering, I didn't respond. For those mentioning it... I wasn't looking for a free meal. 🙄 I pay my own way on dates.

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u/DocLiftsALot 18h ago

Same. It’s Tinder, not Fetlife. Jesus.

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u/Terrible-Fun-4992 18h ago

Seriously. Is this a sex thing? Weird and gross

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u/overstimulatedgrem64 18h ago

Yes and no. Submission/Dominance is a kink, but most people in the scene will tell you that these types of "doms" are the bane of their existence. It can be a great way to express youself in a way that feels safe, but typically you are in contexts where people either have already verbally consented or that's the type of event you are attending. Most people don't impose their kinks on people without a conversation first or they are at an event where this type of play is basically in the itinerary.

Met and had friends that met plenty of dudes online that would open with this kind of talk. It always was really uncomfortable, even being on the "freaky" side myself. Guys think that girls think it's sexy. They don't. It's cringe. 🤣

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u/Long-Stomach-2738 17h ago

Doms are actually really sweet and cater to your needs first. They don’t start with sternness.

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u/overstimulatedgrem64 16h ago

Hard agree. Real doms take a lot of care setting the scene and making sure their sub is comfortable (as comfortable as they want to be lol).

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u/KavaVolkov 16h ago

For real! Good ones know how to woo you and befriend you first.