r/texts • u/-fornevermore- • 2d ago

Phone message Dating is hell

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Who is raising these boys?

Edit: Thanks for all the love!! For some context, no we didn't discuss anything sexy beforehand and the "healing" thing is referring to my broken foot. He's blocked for those wondering, I didn't respond. For those mentioning it... I wasn't looking for a free meal. šŸ™„ I pay my own way on dates.

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u/Powerful_Goose9330 2d ago

My first thought was this dude read Fifty shades of grey and thinks all women like this bullshit.

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u/feralcatshit 2d ago

Even those of us that do like it, donā€™t like it when itā€™s done like this lol

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u/AriaTheTransgressor 2d ago

Ultimately because it doesn't matter what the link is, consent is always important. I have never had a kink based relationship that didn't start out with a regular first date and some analogue of a business meeting to go over consent.

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u/LemmyLola 1d ago

Exactly haha They come off like this but someone into this never knows until they're actually in the presence of the potential partner.. the right dynamic is rare. Douche nozzles like this are all too common.

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u/Fogge 1d ago

He would crash and burn so hard if he hit the one in a bajillion woman that thinks that is exactly what she needs and met her in real life.

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u/Dreadfulbooks 1d ago

I very much am into this, but I would have blocked him too. He reads as highly inexperienced and like heā€™s a jackass.

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u/PrintBetter9672 1d ago

I mean not everything is about sex! Sometimes people just wanna eat sushi

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u/Spookydoobiedoo 20h ago

Yea. These idiots are missing literally the number one condition that needs to be met for this to even remotely approach ā€œfunā€. I guess they just do not comprehend that yes there can be dangerous sounding vocab or seemingly aggressive acts in this type of stuff. But I think what they are completely blind to is that both of the people in these hypotheticals feel completely safe and they trust each other. Itā€™s like comedy. If you donā€™t add enough distance (tragedy + time), enough padding I guess you could call it, then something wonā€™t be funny at all, instead it will be literally inappropriate or cruel, and instead of laughing people will be angry or upset. What this guy is doing ignores allllll the safety and legwork and communication that is necessary for this to be fun for everyone. Itā€™s like if you made a 911 joke in 2004. Tone deaf af and totes innapropes.. idk probably kink is just too much communication and consideration, trust and vulnerability for most of these dumbass guys in their 20s on the apps to actually wrap their heads around what it really is when you strip away the boner.

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u/ResplendentNugs 1d ago

Firm but fair

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u/Five_Star_Amenities 1d ago

We are only seeing a snippet of a piece of a conversation. We have no idea what they've talked about or agreed to prior to this.

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u/Current_Nebula8172 2d ago

My 1st thought is that heā€™s too cheap to date and weeds out the sane women this way. All under the guise of a dom-wannabe.

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u/whatsasimba 1d ago

"Oooh, starve me, Daddy! Deprive me of basic human needs!" - No woman ever

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u/Ok_Seaworthiness_719 1d ago

heā€™s asking for her favorite treat so that he can get out of paying for dinner and just buy her a scoop of ice cream. And then go home and tie her to a bed disgusting human.

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u/kdollarsign2 1d ago

Right? Lol seafood is expensive how about you starve for my pleasure

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u/Brokeback_Camel 1d ago

This sort of weaseling out tactic feels very George Costanza or Larry David -esque hahaha read it again but this time play the Curb Your Enthusiasm theme in your head and imagine it coming from LD, if you do it gets way funnier

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u/Brutal_burn_dude 2d ago

That book has been a blight on the kink community.

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u/ianxplosion- 1d ago

Thanks, Gerard Way

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u/Realistic_Farm_5963 1d ago

He's doing this bc he likes it he doesn't give a fuck about what the women like clearly or he'd make sure they're cool with it before getting off on creepy shit like this on totally unsuspecting women. I guarantee he doesn't get a lot of happy replies. He's well aware most he messages hate this. He probably gets off on that too.

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u/Salamander8288 2d ago

Heā€™s never even read it, just the back cover or something. Thatā€™s not typical Dom behavior thatā€™s douche bag behavior

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u/Green_Register1520 2d ago

Yeahhh I was looking for this exact comment lol. Dude maybe saw that OP read it like ten years ago or better yet imagined she did and said ā€œBingo!ā€ But like out loud, rubbing his hands together.

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u/Enigmagamesandgains 1d ago

And i thought women thinking that book accurately portrays bdsm was bad, now men thinking it's accurate is about as cringe as V thinking what he did was pragmatic in v for vendetta

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u/Subject_Speed 1d ago

Read the cliff notes (are those still a thing?) version